Or how to stop desires for revenge and retaliation and instead focus on one’s self-responsibility.
There is definitely a lot that we can learn from this year’s world events but one definitely closed the year with a zing from my perspective. That is Vladimir Putin’s decision to not do an expected ‘tit for tat’ based on having Russian diplomats expelled from the US, using the unfounded excuse of ‘Russian hacking’ that so-called ‘disrupted’ the US (S)Elections, or so says the mainstream plot.
Here upon seeing Obama’s reactions to seeing the great job that Russian and Turkish leaders have accomplished to ceasefire in Syria – which means the game is over for the US’ plan to continue arming so called ‘rebels’ and keep those ‘Syria peace talks’ going on forever, without any actual resolution= keeping a never ending war there – Obama’s administration or US government or however you want to call it, mustered their big guns to ‘rain on Russia’s parade’ so to speak.
So, my take is that the moment that the Obama administration saw this swift move by Russians to promote actual ceasefire and so peace in Syria, Obama’s administration – or himself, not really relevant here lol – decided to push through this whole Russian hacking story on mainstream media and create a plot to expel Russian diplomats living in the US and all of their family, having to empty the places they had lived for in just 72 hours.
What does this move sound to you? Yep, retaliation, vengeance, a desire to ‘get back at’ someone that one perceives has suddenly undone one’s entire plan or plot for our one’s own self-interest and benefit at the expense and in consequence of others’ lives. It’s the kind of attitudes that are usually fueled with an emotional experience that seeks out any reasons, justifications and digs out certain facts to weave a whole story that will serve as the ‘justified’ backing for a particular decision.
So here I am merely looking at Obama or Obama’s administration as a reflection of our most ‘cultivated’ human nature when it comes to opting for stepping into full-blown vengeance, after allowing and following backchats like ‘He/She/They are going to pay for this’ or ‘You’ll see now what my gift to you is’ or ‘You don’t ever dare to step over my feet again!’ or whatever other nonsense we can pull out in moments of ‘rage’ that we usually exert out on others, but never investigate within ourselves our deeds and do some self-reflection on whether they were standing in the context of what’s best for all or not.
That’s what happened on the US side, but what do you get from the Russian side? An explicit declaration of how there will be no retaliation as in also demanding the expelling of US diplomats in Russian soil. Au contraire, all the kids that are the children of all of those diplomats were invited to spend the New Year’s in some Kremlin celebration to enjoy the holidays ‘New York’ style.
Well, upon listening to that, it made it clear that we can all learn a lot from Putin’s reactions to this ‘last cry’ and tantrum-move by the Obama administration, and that is something I can definitely see that we can learn from and apply in our day to day reality because it’s great to see these examples out there in politics, which means we can take the ‘honorable path’ and do this same approach in our personal every day relationships.
One thing that makes this whole world-war go around is a desire for revenge, vengeance, and ‘letting them know how much we got hurt by this/that’ – come on, this is if anything one of the core elements in human nature that has gotten us to where we are now, because somehow it makes us feel powerful to be able to ‘get back at’ someone else and ‘show them’ what they are missing, or what they have underestimated, or what they have ‘messed with’ – lol – really, there is no worst attitude in our human nature than allowing oneself to fall prey to such victimhood and actual experience of inferiority that creates the need to ‘get back at’ others for it – which means one in fact Blames others for ‘what they’ve done onto us’ and so waging wars as the seemingly ‘easy way out.’ This exact mechanism applies in our personal relationships and world wide scale relationships as ‘politics’ for example.
So, if anything we can place ourselves in the shoes of say the US side and as Joe Kou shared on a Facebook post, all that they have left is truly to admit others are doing a better job – or simply doing the job for real – at something they had pretended to be aiding or caring about, without any real intent to sort out the problem, to realize the consequences of such egotistical stance and apply self-forgiveness because there is certainly no other way for the US to keep ‘puffing themselves up’ in a global stage where it is more than clear to enough people – at least to those of us that are actually aware of how things really work and not get our ‘feed’ from mainstream media – that this US Empire has to collapse, for the better.
And how does that translate to one’s personal life when existing in a similar experience or desire for revenge as Obama or the US government? Same as above. It is where one has to invariably realize that we only attempt to do harm onto others, to deliberately ‘maim’ them within an expectation that it will hurt/harm others badly, and when this doesn’t happen because the other one has realized themselves and will no longer ‘respond back’ to the game = the game is over.
How does one then stand up from this consequential outflow of realizing ‘the game is over’? My suggestion is to stop all futile attempts to keep ‘getting back at’ and instead directly focus on creating some self-resolve to stand back up with integrity which means yes, admitting failure, admitting mistakes, admitting where one’s self-interest and ego was invested on and be willing to self-forgive and let it go.
In order to gain some self-respect, Self Forgiveness is the solution. To be able to humble down and realize how far these egotistical war-like games one has played toward another in an attempt to make oneself ‘feel better’ or seem stronger or superior…. When the reality is that all of these energy games have to come to an end within oneself if we are to in fact create some basic self-respect as individuals and to for once and for all mature from our current adolescent state we’ve been stuck in for ages as human beings. This means we have to self-forgive all of that tantrum-like roll of events that one has pushed, planned, plotted, secretly desired and imagined as all the plethora of ways that we want to ‘take revenge’ at another, without ever realizing or maybe even considering that “all of this that I am plotting is in fact what exists in me, it defines me, it is what I am focusing my attention on, my time, my breath of life on and it doesn’t actually get to ‘harm’ the other side, it only continually harms and diminishes myself.”
That’s one ‘hard truth’ to realize there, because no matter how much we want to blame and complain and ‘prove others wrong’, all of that only defines ourselves really, holding our constant ‘fight mode’ against everyone that isn’t standing on our personal-self-interest side, no matter how ‘good’ we’d like to paint it and present it as a justification; deep inside ourselves we are the only ones that know to what extent we are in fact desiring to damage, discredit, defame, harm, abuse others in the name of some egotistical pride. And this is then the same we’re seeing in the world stage today.
So here, I’d like to suggest: let’s learn from the Russian way, the way of forgiveness, the way of stopping ‘getting back at’ and ‘retaliating’ at others, stopping the usual war-tactic of ‘tit for tat’ and for once and for all get rid of ‘keeping the score’ at others. Let’s STOP playing blame-lame games of vengeance and getting back at, let’s truly make that a thing of the past, please! This is a great opportunity for us to see what happens when the ball of lies with an attempt to ‘wage war back’ is halted with a gesture of kindness and no hurt feelings. That’s what’s honorable, that’s the kind of leaders that I’d like to see everywhere in the world and nope, no, I’m not talking about ‘presidents’ only here, but ALL of us, it’s up to us to create that human kindness we’ve all been desiring for, we gotta be it, work for it!
Let’s make the world great again!
🙂 Happy New Year
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