500. Standing in the Eye of the Storm

Or how to decide to walk through consequences in a directive and stable manner

One very supportive realization within this process of self-honesty is that whenever we face particular situations where emotions still wind up within us – like an anxiety, nervousness, stress, worry, anger – what matters is making a decision to in every moment as one is physically going through it, to breathe and reassure oneself that one is willing to and actively deciding to not engage in the experience but breathe through it, self-forgive the points that are coming up and not fight them or judge oneself for it, but see it as the momentary consequence of points that we then have to open up and become aware of for us to change them.

An emotional experience can be something like a deep sorrow for example that emerges upon having a particular big conflict in one’s life, where yes disappointment and sadness can exist, yet one has the decision and ability to see these moments as transient: they too shall pass, even if it might seem like very overwhelming in the moment. However it is also not that they will go ‘by themselves’ and so staying in a form of hope that it will change or go away, nope, that’s where we also become subject to our minds and an energy to direct ‘who we are’ in that moment, which is never supportive because emotions cloud our judgment and there’s no clarity in them.

The distinction here is to decide to breathe through the welling up of the energy, the decision is to not judge the experience either, but rather understand the situation that is leading oneself to have such ‘emotional outbreak’ – and direct ourselves, remind ourselves to breathe, self-forgive, work through the points to create a solution and at the same time ensure that the decisions to create such solutions are not being made in an emotional reaction, but as a clear decision based on what one is willing to live with and stand by, and at the same time work with it in order to correct ourselves, stop our dishonesty that caused  or contributed to create such problem or conflict and acknowledge our responsibility that is creating these consequential outflows that eventually had led us to experience the results of it all as a fall or hitting rock bottom in whichever form it might be.

A very supportive thing to do in these moments is to remind oneself that in emotions we can lock ourselves into a fogginess, not seeing ‘clear’ or getting confused, which I’ve found are the moments where I know I have to get to my writing, to lay it all out in front of me to establish self-honesty, to decide that I can stand up from this and realize that whatever is causing the reaction as an emotion or feeling, I can first look at  the cause or source of it and my direct participation in it, while at the same time knowing that this energy that has already been triggered and that I’ve come to experience is also a momentary experience if I decide to not fuel any further judgments, reasons, justifications, memories or any other element in our minds that usually unwinds more and more reactions, spiraling ourselves out of control from which we have to inevitably stand up from again.

What is a sobering decision in these moments is to stick to one’s self-honesty, to decide to not deceive oneself any further and in that even if it might seem like the toughest situation or decision to make, one can still decide to look at the source of the problem or conflict and at the same time, not fuel the problem with further emotions. That’s the actual ability we have in such situations because we’ve somehow misunderstood that emotions can bring solutions or ‘humanize’ the situation but they don’t, really. And I’ve noticed how even in such conflicts I’ve also brought up emotions that end up distorting one’s view of the facts and situation. Therefore, sticking to clarity, to the facts, to self-responsibility is one way to stand in the eye of the storm or problems within oneself and towards others.

It might seem like a daunting thing to do in those moments, but once that one realizes that emotions are only making things worse, it makes sense to walk through these difficult situations in a sober manner, meaning not elevated or ‘in a low’ as in feelings or emotions – there is a stability that is able to be found even in these worst case scenarios or situations, it takes a decision to stand, to breathe, to walk bit by bit unfurling the process to walk a solution, and remind oneself to not indulge into the experiences that might be coming up,  but push oneself to see with clarity, to stand in self-honesty.

A very supportive set of recordings on this topic are the following ones which I’d recommend listening to every now and then whenever we might be pondering ‘why’ we are facing tough times in our lives or situations that might seem out of control in our lives and these will assist in getting back to a point of self-honesty, of clarity, of self-responsibility.

 

Hitting Rock Bottom – The Crucifixion of Jesus – Part 98

What to Do at Rock Bottom – Crucifixion of Jesus – Part 99

Nowhere to Run, Nowhere to Hide – Reptilians – Part 558

 

 

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About Marlen

I share my realizations and perspectives within learning how to live life in self-honesty in the Desteni Process to expand and grow as a person in this world. #IMatter View all posts by Marlen

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