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603. Keeping Indulgences Secret

Or how it is easy to not question anything that feels good or positive in our experience instead of seeing to what extent it is affecting ourselves and our relationship to others, in order to understand it and take responsibility for our expression.  

Yesterday I had a revealing dream that most likely got triggered through listening to the audio from Eqafe called Tension in Working Environments – Relationship Success Support and Tension in Normal Environments – Relationship Success Support where there’s a very cool example that I guess women like me can relate to when we express ourselves in a particular manner around people that might be misinterpreted as being flirting or creating some kind of sexual innuendo in our interactions with the opposite sex.

I appreciate the explanations given in such contexts, because I have been ‘there’ myself in wanting to suppress my expression around males and even dressing in a particular way so as to not apparently ‘provoke’ certain experiences in others – instead of realizing that I cannot ever change how another is going to perceive me or how they might interpret my expression and relationship towards them, however there IS a point that I can absolutely take responsibility for, and that is explained in the second one linked above, where I have to keep an eye on how I might be expressing myself through energy, becoming in essence too ‘extroverted’ or ‘too expressive’ around males in order to cover up some kind of inferiority/fear/insecurity that is then ‘compensated’ for through energy. But in my case I discovered how there was something else behind such ‘expressiveness’ many times in my experience towards males before.

What I’ve been testing out in ‘real time’ is precisely deliberately spending time with certain people that I had all kinds of ‘hidden agendas’ towards in relation to creating experiences of desire or attraction towards – and that’s what I’ll explain here which matches as well what emerged in my dream in such a clear and almost ‘scientific experiment’ way that I just cannot ignore the relevance it has to what I have been observing and processing in relation to identifying those aspects of myself, my personalities and experiences where I am holding on to these ‘mind candies’ as I’ve been calling them, anything that gives me a momentary sense of pleasure or I turn into an ‘exciting’ experience.

While I was communicating yesterday about this dream and how I link the situation to identifying ‘my indulgence’ point in life, I realized how normal it had become for me to simply go into these energies before and how it wasn’t even about ‘the people’ themselves that I’d create these energies towards, but how it was all in fact the sheer desire to experience that energy based on the context that I’ll describe now.

So in the dream I would face two males in my life, one that I’ve known in ‘real time’ that I had built or accumulated many ideals around, creating an aura of desire towards that person based on the idea and even image that I wanted to believe they in fact were in order to feed this energetic experience of attraction towards them. What’s interesting is that several times before I proved to myself how I was more ‘infatuated’ with the IDEA and Experience that I would get from the thought of them – such as excitement, desire, fascination, the idea of being liked by the person, the idea of being desired by that person –  that I actually got ‘hooked on’ these thoughts as triggers for these experiences in the same way that an addict would towards drugs.

How did I come to conclude I was in fact hooked on energy rather than the actual person? Because I never really knew the person –or people – as in spending sufficient amount of time with them to truly get to appreciate them at that reality-physical level, which is also clarified based on the explanation on the Eqafe audio as well in terms of being realistic about the time that it takes to truly develop this kind of potentials with people.  It makes sense how I spent probably a couple of years feeding this infatuation in my mind, while merely spending a few hours every now and then with such person in my life – the result? I turned the person into a symbol, an idea of desire, while actually not really wanting to have something to do with the ‘real person.’ Yep, I realized how I was more ‘in love’ if you will with the idea of them that I would trigger within me as a ‘candy-thought’ to create this ‘excitement’ experience of attraction or desire in me about such person – but again, it was never about the person in fact and this was confirmed by my experience in the dream.

In the dream I was talking to this person and I basically went back to the experience I had towards him when I first met him many years ago, and all that mattered to me was that ‘energetic interaction’ that I was experiencing in the dream/while dreaming about the idea that I had of this person, essentially experiencing once again that energy that I got quite hooked on for years on in relation to males as a seemingly ‘acceptable’ and ‘common’ fixation I developed over the years, changing only the person but keeping myself ‘hooked’ on the same attraction or desire that I’d create towards them, which most of the times never consolidated or had any actual physical reality outcome as in having a relationship with any of them – instead I turned people into symbols of desire, attraction, lust within myself for the sake of bringing up these experiences within me, for my own pleasure essentially.

So, in the dream I noticed that I didn’t want to ‘stop dreaming’ or wanted to ‘elongate’ that process of existing in this flirty mode or that perception of being able to ‘seduce’ another – which is really only an experience I have only ever created within myself within the comfortable and seductive idea of ‘having power over’ creating an experience of desire within another towards me – yep, essentially a power game there going on that I’d get hooked on experiencing.

And what went on in a ‘separate’ moment in my dream is having exactly the same process going on where I’d get to meet a person that I never got to in fact meet in person and play out the exactly same ‘energy game’ of attraction, seduction, desire towards them without actually wanting to do something ‘in reality’ towards them other than just get to exist in that prolonged moment of building up the attraction, building up the desire and such kind of exhilaration that can be created with things that can be defined as ‘sexual tension’ and the rest of things that we can create and ‘comfortably’ participate with in our minds.

I was also translating this audio on Eqafe on Embracing Your Mind which assisted me to see how we tend to want to shove aside, hide, suppress anything perceived and felt as bad, negative, awful or emotional experience within ourselves, and in that becoming selective in our relationship to our mind, where we then don’t question the positive experiences, that which feels good, that which we usually want to ‘prolong’ as a ‘nice’ experience within ourselves, and I got to see that quite clearly in my dream how I basically became ‘hooked on’ within those interactions with these two examples of males in my dream and play out the exact same thing with both, so as to see that it had never been in fact about ‘them’ as people that I have created such infatuation, but it in fact was representing my relationship to the ‘positive experience’ I came to associate with all of these energies that I can describe as feelings, as attraction, seduction, pleasure, even in terms of power play which I had come to associate to one of my ‘abilities’ or ‘skills’ towards males.

Lol, here I understand how this can be interpreted and it’s certainly not my intent to enhance these patterns or personality-traits within me at all, it is simply to understand, recognize it, embrace it as the audio explained so that I don’t hold now a relationship of embarrassment or shame to what I’ve ‘comfortably’ played out many times throughout my life – and possibly beyond this life as well.

I also find it interesting that in these past couple of weeks I’ve been talking precisely about this ‘misinterpretation’ with a female friend of mine, of how certain males will react to our expression as females and how it is entirely up to us to ensure we are not giving the ‘wrong idea’ towards them in relation to who we are and how we stand towards them.  And It was cool to find out how she’s experienced very similar experiences to the ones I’ve had in my life as well, and where we both had to admit that yeah there was also this attachment to ‘feeling good’ about in a sense being able to flirt and create this momentary ‘excitement’ about the ‘possibilities’ that open up when developing such communication with another person, and how that eventually leads to take on the ‘next steps’ for example into creating a relationship, and eventually how that energy only lasts so long to the point that all that remains is the ‘shadow of the energy’ as a desire that one then realizes had nothing to do with the actual person themselves, but it really only was all about our individual energetic reaction to those moments where we get to first meet someone and deliberately create these energetic reactions as attraction, desire, lust, flirting and with that wrapping ourselves up into an overall experience of excitement that we then go seeking out everywhere we can, as in moving to a ‘new prey’ so to speak, just like vampires seeking energy. It becomes a ‘way of living’ in terms of turning others as objects of desire and ourselves as ‘desirable’ to others that we want to establish this kind of ‘connection’ with, which is of course the point to change here and take responsibility for within myself.

It was interesting because as I was sharing about these points with her, I realized that I was verbalizing my own solution to this ‘secret’ indulgence of mine that I had for the most part not really exposed or explained to anyone else, because a part of me wanted to hold on to it, which is a tendency we all have in relation to anything ‘positive’ in our minds. So as it is explained in the Eqafe audio, we were conditioned to not question and welcome all sorts of positive experiences, and do the opposite with all things negative. Therefore now that I see to what extent this energetic ‘pull’ exists within me, I realize the importance of developing an actual sense of honor, respect and stability when seeing that I am wanting to ‘recreate’ this positive-experience in relation to males in particular and keep myself grounded so as to not be deliberately going into energy as in building up any form of excitement or ‘attraction’ or ‘desire’ experience that can be seen by others and then interpreted as ‘something else’ which usually is interpreted in sexual or relationship terms.

And it’s interesting how I had become very vocal in criticizing females that would kind of deliberately place themselves as ‘sex symbols’ or deliberately wanting to evoke certain reactions in the opposite sex, and in that I realized how I had been also participating in the same kind of patterns in a different way, in a more concealed manner, but still the same energetic experience exists in that kind of ‘flirtatious’ escapades that I’ve had towards males in particular.

It’s also very cool to be able to discuss this with someone and have several references of how people experience this kind of ‘positive feelings’ in relation to for example pornography, something that I had created a righteousness about because of ‘not indulging into porn’ however, when looking at the actual experience one gets ‘hooked on’ in relation to anything that we use to stimulate these positive experiences in ourselves, it really is only a secondary thing to look at what or who we are turning into an object or image or idea that elicits this ‘positive experience’ within ourselves – it really becomes all about giving up and deciding to no longer try and ‘go into’ these positive experiences, trying to create our ‘mind candy’ as I call it which airs  essentially the cocktail of ‘feel good’ experiences I’ve merely come to define as excitement, desire, lust, attraction, power plays in relation to males – but in essence, it’s not even about people themselves, but my idea and experience created towards them which are all self-created.

My decision is then to build a foundation of self respect, honor and consideration not only towards myself, my body, my mind but also in how I relate to other people, specially males for all the reasons described above, where I have been proving to myself that I am able to talk to, relate and communicate with them and deliberately ‘not going there’ in terms of turning on the flirtatious design or experience, which means not communicate or interact through energy, but remain stable yet expressive, which is really all a decision in every moment to ‘not indulge,’ to ‘not go there’ and instead practice that stability in my experience while communicating and interacting with males, which I’ve also proven to myself is entirely possible and enjoyable in a different way, where there’s more of a sense of satisfaction in my case for the depth that I can create with another based on actual communication, than just creating an ‘energy-game’ towards them.

It did in a way bother me that I had such dream that I described above, in a way I felt like failing at being able to in my dream apply myself and stop seeking to recreate such ‘feel good’ flirtatious experiences. However I realize that this would be me being short-sighted about the extent to which I have in fact existed in this mindset, which is probably as far as I can remember existing, meaning, it has become ‘me’ to such an extent that it is only now that I am in fact deciding to open it up and take it on, because of its ‘positive nature.’ It definitely had become an aspect of self-definition that I was holding on to as a ‘little piece of heaven’ I could keep for myself – lol – but it’s in fact not cool at all to exist like that.

In this it does imply cutting myself off from supplying myself with these ‘feel good’ experiences which is entirely possible by me not ‘going into it’, not ‘going there’ whenever I see that I would usually just ‘automatically’ do it in the past. It is possible and I’ve tested it a few times already. Therefore what I see came up in my dream is to become aware of how I am still keeping it at a deep level within me as something I want to hold on to, to keep secret, to not ‘admit’ as a pattern that has dominated my life for so long, which is why I am also writing, sharing and talking about it to understand it, to see who I am in it and in doing so, placing it in my awareness to such an extent that I cannot any longer just ‘sweep it under the rug’ and continue deceiving myself about it – now I actively decide to change myself in relation to it.

As I was talking to someone about it, they explained how it is so that we cannot change this ‘high’ energy into something else, because it’s just like deciding to giving up drugs where you essentially have to learn to live without such ‘high’ or ‘buzz’ that the drugs give you at an energetic level – and it’s definitely so, it’s no different to how I have to now go about this in my mind, saying ‘no’ to wanting to create these ‘good feelings’ and take responsibility for my expression, and not seeing this as a ‘loss’ at all, but instead I see that it’s actually cool to be able to build this actual communication or understanding with others without the need to bring up any ‘feelings’ for it or turn it into a mind-game.

Here also taking into consideration how many times I have in fact caused consequences that I only later got to know based on this pattern of interaction with males, where in creating these energetic experiences ‘towards them,’ I’d then in fact give ‘mixed signals’ that would then leave them confused or angry at myself for not being ‘clear’ on what my intent was… and the reality is that I was in it all just for the momentary experience and only a few times did I ever really consider an actual relationship with people, so that’s something I have to take responsibility for in terms of measuring my expression so as to not create consequences in others as well – of course, I cannot control them all, but I can sure do my part to ensure I am clear at all times.

That means that  I do my part when it comes to these interactions in not ‘opening any doors’ to misinterpretation through going into energy when communicating with others, but remain stable, clear in my expression and still be expressive and outgoing as I usually am, but there is a distinctive difference when I know I am going into these ‘same old patterns’ and when I am actually ‘empty’ or devoid of any ‘good feelings’ while communicating with others, where I can genuinely stand in equality with the person, not reducing them any longer as a potential source to trigger or elicit ‘positive feelings’ within me, which is really not cool in terms of considering another being in the totality of who they are, and in that I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to reduce ourselves as males and females as beings that would ‘normally’ desire each other or turn any point of expression and communication into sex and relationships, which is the same as reducing myself and others as mere objects of desire, which is not how I want to continue living and seeing fellow beings as.

Here I commit myself to honor, respect and consider myself and others in being able to establish clarity and consistency in my communication with other males, being able to remind myself that I hold a point of responsibility in how I behave, and if necessary be able to explain ‘where I stand’ towards them so as to not give room to interpretations, which I’ve found actually quite supportive to do in order to ‘clear up any confusion’ in such situations and that actually assists to delineate or define my relationships to males in terms of support and/or friendship.

Ok, so that’s the point for me to continue working on, I am grateful for the dreams, for the support that is opened up through Eqafe in order to look at what I can change about myself in relation to these patterns and in essence for once and for all stop my indulgence into these ‘feel good’ patterns that I had so comfortably become.

Thanks for reading.

 

If you have a dream you’d like to have some perspectives on in order to understand how to work with it, I recommend requesting a Dream Reading on Eqafe.com, I have been able to walk through some very bizarre dreams to understand what they meant at levels of my mind that I’m not yet aware of.

 

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367. Children’s Human Rights | Equal Money

Children are the origin and starting point to create a New World in Equality. Children are mentioned only twice in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights which should be a point of concern to not recognize the absolute importance that they represent within the understanding that all children are the adults of tomorrow, and by us not dedicating sufficient attention and support to this considered ‘vulnerable group’ we are undermining the foundation of our future and generations to come if we don’t stop the multiple violations to Children’s rights to be disclosed here. We go the solutions to – for the first time in our history – recognize the vital understanding of a child’s upbringing from the womb and the effect this will bring to create an actual Change in this World through and by the Children of the World.

 

Continuing with:

  • 315. Rights and Equal Money Capitalism

  • 316. Rights are NOT Guaranteed to be Successful
  • 317. Equality in Equal Money Capitalism
  • 293. Services in Equal Money Capitalism |
  • 358.Human Rights and Equal Money

  • 359. Equal Life Rights
  • 360. Humanitarianism and Equal Money
  • 361. Food is a Human Right | Equal Money
  • 362. Water is a Human Right | Equal Money
  • 363. Housing is a Human Right | Equal Money
  • 364.Education is a Human Right |Equal Money
  •  366. Health Care is a Human Right | Equal Money

     

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  • The Universal Declaration of Rights – on  Children

    Article 26.
  • (3) Parents have a prior right to choose the kind of education that shall be given to their children.

     

    • The first violation of Children’s rights is having to copy and absolutely integrate within themselves the exact ways of the parents as their genetic product as well as the kind of relationship established with the child that is more often than not a relationship of abuse, conflict, abandonment and exploitation. This begins by the parents, extending to their Neighborhood, school, the media, and the rest of a Child’s Education and Adaptation in society that consists of transferring the past intact to them, not only in behavioral patterns, knowledge and information, but in the way that the world-system is and has been, which is something to be concerned about when realizing that we are already seeing the massive rate of abuse inflicted by ourselves as human beings upon each other and every other living being including the planet itself.
    • By continuing a system that runs on profit instead of the consideration of all life in Equality, we are already culprits for having condemned ourselves and generations that are already Here to go throughout their lifetime, trying to ‘find themselves,’ trying to ‘make a living’ and never questioning why we didn’t do better to ensure all enslavement would be long gone by today. This is the world that parents know, this is all that has been ever known – so how could a parent have any decision of what’s best for their children if there are simply no means – read money which translates to education and a good living condition – with which to provide a secure and supportive living environment for the child? There is no decision: we currently are measured by what we are able to pay for.

     

    All children have a right to be protected, not only those who are at risk of trafficking, and reinforcing protection for all children also reduces the vulnerability of sub-groups of children. The concept of building a protective environment for children includes putting in place policies and programmes that ensure children’s rights to survival, development and well-being in general. Child protection systems comprise the set of laws, policies, regulations and services needed across all social sectors – especially social welfare, education, health, security and justice – to support prevention and respond to protection related risks. These systems are part of social protection, and extend beyond it. They include the aim of supporting and strengthening families to reduce social exclusion, and to lower the risk of separation, violence and exploitation

     

    Governments are responsible for allocating sufficient budget to be able both to support programming such as those outlined above to improve the financial status of the family, and for direct financial assistance for the poorest of the poor. This indicates the importance of coordinated action within government to ensure child protection.
    Ministries with responsibilities for children and families, labour, youth, employment, finance, social welfare, education and potentially others all have a role to play in child protection, and consultation and coordination across different ministries is important to maximize the impact of government policies and actions for children.

    Training manual to fight trafficking in children for labour, sexual and other forms of exploitation / International Labour Office,
    International Programme on the Elimination of Child Labour (IPEC). – Geneva: ILO, 2009

     

    • So far our Governments have no interest to genuinely enforce these considerations, because it is all based on the amount of money this would require and not only that, but an entire re-structuring of the system in fact, because all of what is considered in the quotes above can only exist if every individual in charge of not only children but generally as an independent and self willed being is supported with the necessary means to have the best living condition that can create the conditions stated above, which are merely good intentions with no practical application, which makes such manual a great plan to support our societies, but it is like the blueprint for a house that remains only as a project, a dream in someone’s mind without the necessary funds and means to actually live it out in reality.

     

     

    Do children have rights?

    Children, unlike fetuses, do possess individual rights. A new born child, unlike a fetus, is a physically separate entity. A child is an actual human being, with a capability to reason, and thus a child has the same right to life as any adult. However, the application of this right for a young child differs in practice from that of an adult, as a child’s conceptual faculty is not fully developed. This is why a six year old girl does not have the right to choose to enter into a sexual relationship—and an adult does.

    http://capitalism.org/category/children/

     

    • This consideration of children not having certain ’diminished faculties’ is the accepted and allowed excuse used to shape and mold a child according to what the Parents and Schooling system implement as ‘Education,’ because it is believed that they are less capable than an adult to make decisions. But the reality is that they are limited and constricted by the very beginning stages of their development within the family core, by the environment in which they are born into wherein not only money will determine the quality of lives and as such the level of ‘liberties’ they will be granted with, but also the way the child will behave, act, speak and develop certain personalities that will be shaped according to the preponderant social and cultural habits and ways of living.

      We have thus far believed that children are not ready to understand, we have accepted and allowed ourselves to believe that they have some form of ‘slow process of integrating knowledge and information when in fact it is quite the opposite. Fortunately, we are the spearhead in Human Education in this world in relation to the investigations that are currently being conducted to for the first time in human history, assist and support an individual from the womb to develop themselves as a sound living human being. This is outside of the bounds of accepted science, yet an entire process of years of investigation backs up this process which can be read within the Desteni Material (Further references will be given at the end of this article*)

     

     

    Parental and Environmental Influence

    • The child is already born into limitation as young as 13 weeks of gestation in the mother’s womb where the parental patterns are integrated as part of the mind that the new born will develop throughout an entire lifetime. This is how no matter how much we would want to apply basic human rights, the conditions that limit the newborn are already integrated by default as the result of who we have accepted and allowed ourselves to be and become in our  mind that becomes the very genetic information transferred to every newborn.

      Then, Children grow up to integrate the same drive every other human being has within life in a survival system, which is linked to money as a status of success and well being that is fueled by the media that most of the children are educated with due to the parents having little to no time to be with them in every single moment to instead educate the child with actual support based on the development of skills and living examples for the child to eventually become an adult that can reach their utmost potential. This also implies that no matter how great the parents can be, by virtue of existing in one single environment in which we are all existing in, it is virtually impossible to prevent the danger, abuse and insanity of this world to affect your children, because this is the culture that we have created wherein there is little to no support for children to develop the trust and confidence within themselves to walk throughout a lifetime – instead, the schooling process and education at home becomes the survival-training in a world where life is not a given right and where each one is taught to ‘fight for their right to live’ instead of it being given and assured from the cradle to the grave.

    • There is also a Lack of Parental Education to ensure that they will in fact take care of their children. Many abuse their own children either physically, sexually and/or psychologically which defines the life that the child will have from that moment on and for the rest of their lives. These children often run away from home ending up living in the streets other than bearing to live with abusive parents that often are also but not limited to being alcoholics and/or drug abusers, generating conditions for domestic abuse of which children are also gravely affected by. Children can’t ask for support to the authorities because all forms of orphanages or social-worker support ends up being rather abusive at times; some other times children have become so used to the freedom that the streets provide that getting ‘back on track’ as in getting back to school and having a ‘normal life’ is just impossible when some resort to prostitution, drug abuse and even stealing in order to get by. Children grow up to be the same criminals that we then put in prisons without understanding or caring to investigate their background to realize how it is that it all begun from the moment of their inception in a broken home by a dysfunctional couple that did not measure the actual requirements to educate a child with all the best support possible in a financial, affective and environmental way. This is in fact the starting point of our troubled society, these are the relationships and set-up we are born into.

     

    • Children born into families with money are no less abused when being taught to praise the money they have, being defined by their social status and often growing up without direct company of the busy parents that are always traveling or doing business, which ends up creating children that can ‘have it all ‘ financially speaking, but lack the actual formative support that parents are supposed to give. Many more are compromised to either have no option but to marry members in their own family for the purpose of maintaining wealth within it. Many more are forced to follow religious traditions of which they also have no other option for since it is what the parents decide is ‘how things are’ for their children – and this is how even when having sufficient resources, the sheer perpetuation of a linage and tradition that provides success for a family is imposed onto the children with no option to consider there is another way to conduct their lives. Even if this is not considered a form of violation at first sight due to the financial resources available, it does constitute the regular ‘education’ that creates the current elitism in which children are born to without any option to see the world in a different manner, creating dissociation from the rest of the problems that exist in the world, because money creates a veil of comfort that numbs the ability to become an effective and supportive individual – it is all an accepted and allowed social configuration of separation and negligence in which children are born into to further perpetuate the same patterns that have shaped our history generation after generation.

     

     Human CULTure

     

     

    •  Consumerism and the Sexualization of children is being fed by a culture wherein the objective of consumption as the mechanism in which our economy functions, has made of any form of media and social conduct a means and ways to ensure that the profit-making drive is always present from an early age, turning children into early emotionally-driven consumerists following the instructions given on the thousands of ads in our TV and computer screens, where children have little to no awareness of what it is that they’re in fact adopting as a consumption pattern of the words, the behavior, the looks, the aspirations that are simply copied from people on the TV, ‘artists,’  from stories they hear around their parents, teachers, family and friends which is all the result of a social system where entertainment and media have taken the role of ‘educators’ to ensure that children grow up desiring to have a lot of money to buy what they learn is supposed to provide them ‘Happiness.’

      In this there are no values that could ensure that this child will grow up to be an individual that will have the least consideration about the physical reality they live in, caring about each other’s well being or ensuring that the written human rights are in fact implemented. Instead it is all a fantasy-driven story that makes of children young adults with no sense of self responsibility and a strong desire to make money, to be independent and successful in all they do within the definitions of what this system considers ‘successful,’ which is not based on living values but only the amount of money one can get to obtain. Is there in any way a consideration of Equality and developing Self Respect and Integrity within Individuals? No.

      To this, we can add the ubiquitous depictions of sex, violence and any other form of disregard to living values promoted in advertising and pornography, which has become another problem in our society where the internet is filled with that which we have accepted and allowed as an ‘acceptable’ way of entertainment which is by all means Not at all so. On the other side of the coin, this is how this ‘entertainment’ or preference for some becomes a business and a reason for children to be recruited as a sexual slave and in this, no matter how much money you have or don’t have: we’re all responsible for because we’ve become used to driving our lives according to the desire for money, success, sex and the ultimate status that we learn we must get to achieve throughout life, and school, home and our neighborhoods are the growing broth for that; we cultivate it through repetition until eventually our personalities and ‘ways of living’ are absolutely defined by every single thing that we learned from the TV, from the media, from the advertisements on the street and our parental example which also represent the consequential outflow of this same process happening to them from generation to generation.

     

    War

    There are children that could have lived in relatively stable countries, yet the moment a war is waged against their country in the game of “terrorism” – which is in fact supporting the desires of a few individuals in a nation to invade another territory for personal gain -the lives of the country’s people and children are suddenly stripped from that stability and relative peace in which they lived in. Any possibility to go to school and have a normal life is disrupted not only by the need to make money but also due to the death and destruction that any war environment creates, violating the right for children to have a peaceful and healthy living condition, not to mention the lasting effects that have resulted in physical deformities and illnesses that stem from radiation delivered in the form of nuclear bombs and chemical weapons that leave high levels of toxicity undermining any potential ‘healthy living condition’ for generations to come.

     

    War is Children Abuse

    In Afghanistan for example, children are dragged into their parents’ addiction to smoke opium or heroin to mitigate hunger in a family where one single piece of bread must be divided between 5-6 members during a day, living altogether in a shack where children as young as babies already pick up the parents’ drug consumption habit due to the country’s general condition of absolute destruction and social degradation.

    Other no less atrocious outflow is when children become the very military force trained in a religious and fascist manner to fight against whoever is the enemy, leading children to become soldiers and members of gangs as a form of protection; sometimes this is also an outflow of the poverty and lack of familial support that can’t exist in a country where people have less than the necessary means to live. Many more lose their parents as the result of wars in which their living environment can be reduced to rubble.

    War is a crime against humanity that affects people including children along with many more outflows of which this is merely an example of where Children’s Rights are violated.

     

    child soldiers

    Unicef is aware of this, yet the problems are always justified with the whole political situation being ‘too complex’ to solve – it is not, every war can be reduced to be caused by lack of support and or desire for resources that could be distributed in an equal manner in an Equality System in this world.

     

     

     

    Child Labor and Trafficking

     

    The International Labor Organization’s 2002 estimation of 1.2 million children being trafficked each year remains the reference (Every Child Counts, New Global estimate on Child Labour).

     

    “The first is helping the family to understand the risks to the child of trafficking but also the risks to the family and community and the advantages to be gained by protecting the child and her/his future contribution to the family’s well-being.” Training manual to fight trafficking in children for labour, sexual and other forms of exploitation

     

    • Making the families aware of the risks entailed in sending their children away to work to make money stems from the obvious point that is not being directly addressed: the sheer need of parents sending their children away from home or directly selling them already indicates a major problem which is Poverty and how the lack of money as support creates the opening ground for  business such as ‘Child trafficking’ to exist. Increasing the family’s income is a perceived solution, but it is not so at the greater scale where inflation in prices and other external circumstances can undermine the potential of such support through merely ‘giving more money to the family.’ This does not solve the problems that exist at home, as a culture where the traditions, beliefs and customs are based on these moral codes where children have to obey their authority without any regard on whether it is in fact common sense that is taught to them or not. Most of the times, it is a hierarchical form of abuse that is being passed on from generation to generation.

     

    Children Equal Life

     

    “Getting girls and boys into school and keeping them there is a vital step in reducing their vulnerability to trafficking. This is especially true of children who are ‘hard to reach’, such as children living on the streets, who are especially vulnerable to being recruited into child labour or to being trafficked.”

    Training manual to fight trafficking in children for labour, sexual and other forms of exploitation

     

    • Education is seen as a way to prevent abuse – but really, is education currently a guarantee for everyone to have an assured job? No. Not only is education not of the best quality that it could be and be granted for ‘Free’ as intended, but it is part of the same world-system scheme in which not all kids receive the same kind of education. In most cases in places where poverty reigns, it is rather a bad experience for children to go through, which causes further drop-outs and lack of motivation. This causes children to instead immediately incorporate themselves into the survival game of this world system wherein we haven’t yet learned or considered to support all individuals equally to prevent child labor. In the end, if you have access to education, but live in an environment where family members act in abusive ways toward the children and the general living condition is deplorable, how can we expect them to have the necessary motivation to keep going if their future is already determined to be subsumed  and marginalized in absolute lack and deprivation from any form of dignified living condition?

     

    Law enforcement in relation to trafficking applies not only to the implementation of criminal law but also labour law, which is a potent weapon in anti-trafficking efforts. It has to be borne in mind however, that labour law cannot reach into the underground economy or unregulated workplaces. It is important that those working in the legal professions understand trafficking, labour exploitation and the realities of the underground economy. They also, of course, should appreciate issues relating to victim protection and rights.

    Training manual to fight trafficking in children for labour, sexual and other forms of exploitation

     

    • It is mostly disheartening to read that the application of laws cannot in fact ensure that no abuse takes place upon children. This is due to our current Corporate and Unregulated Capitalism wherein all that matters is making profit regardless of whose workforce is implied – this does not only apply to children but adults alike. Hence because the economy is in itself flawed and operating as a profit-based system, the root and cause of the problem that affects children is simply not corrected and aligned. This most certainly leads us to believe that laws can put the criminals that traffic children in prison, but is that the solution to a problem wherein the root and cause of such crime is simply not having sufficient money to live and No Human Rights being in fact guaranteed in this world? No, it is not. Law enforcement is thus futile without the necessary mechanisms to in fact change how the system operates at an economic, politic and social level. Without the support of the government, our judicial systems and most importantly the economic system, any and all considerations to rescue victims of child abuse are only temporary fixes for a situation that will reoccur and prevail when someone can profit out of the labor that a little child can provide.

     

     

    • Capitalism and Child Labor

     

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    • The employment of young people is meant to be permitted from age 14-15 while still holding Children’s Rights to supposedly prevent exploitation and other forms of abuse. However what happens in fact is that children as young as 5 and 6 years old are already used as workforce in countries where poverty is the general ‘living condition’ due to the world-system politics and economic affairs that we have all also accepted and allowed as ‘how things are’ where the need for money makes children become workers rather than attending any school to eventually get out of the poverty loop – something as ‘simple’ as in having the ability to go to school, in places where survival is extensive, such luxury is simply not existent, even if it’s not the actual way to stop the cycle of abuse.

     

    What you’re about to read stems from the Ayn Rand philosophy on Capitalism that is presented in the website Capitalism.org – We’ll give perspective on some of the answers available in their concept section dedicated to Children.

     

    Isn’t Capitalism responsible for children working in factories?

    Children working in factories was only a transitory stage between early feudalism and capitalism. Prior to working in factories, before capitalism, many of children (and their parents) used to die and starve, as evidenced by the high infant mortality statistics before capitalism. Observe that is was not until families left the “country” and went into the “cities” that they were able to produce enough food to eat. The clearest evidence of this is population and infant mortality statistics: population did not go up, and infant mortality did not go down, until the Industrial Revolution. If life was so great before capitalism in the “country”, why was infant mortality so high and population numbers considerably lower before capitalism? Answer: because life was not so great until Capitalism.

    Throughout history the parents of most families could not produce enough to support their families without having their children work also (such was the case of my father in India). It was the accumulation capital by the industrialists that made the labor of parents more productive, that children had to stop working in fields or factories. In poor non-capitalist countries they are still working in fields and factories.

    http://capitalism.org/category/children/

     

    • There are many ways to justify the abuse that we are currently living in as our economic system, and this quote is proof of that. The problem that is not addressed is how in rich-capitalist countries all the goods sold to the rich are the product of hideous labor conditions, also involving child labor which means that those ‘poor-countries’ become the work-force for the rich countries wherein children are granted all these goods as part of their well being, along with the best education and living conditions each one can afford; but, if they had to produce what they consume, they would probably equally have to make their children work to maintain such high rates of living standards due to not having anyone to ‘outsource’ the production to. Sure, capitalism can elevate a few sectors’ living conditions, but it is not explained at the expense of who is such well being created, and as we know the poor ones, the vulnerable ones are the preferred work force due to the profit that it represents to have cheap labor.

     

    “At any stage of the supply chain, children(and indeed adults) may have been exploited, and may have been trafficked into that exploitation. As sub-contracting arrangements become more complex and increasingly global, it is an enormous challenge to check every link in the chain and be able to guarantee that end products are, indeed ‘child trafficking-free’. This is increasingly, however, what consumers desire and require. A number of high profile campaigns in some sectors against reputable manufacturers whose supply chains were shown to include exploitative sub-contractors, have illustrated in recent years how vulnerable reputable employers can be if they are not fully aware of all the elements of their supply chain, all the sub-contractors used (and the sub-contractors of their sub-contractors) and cannot guarantee 100 per cent that their output is child trafficking/labour-free.”
    Training manual to fight trafficking in children for labour, sexual and other forms of exploitation

     

    Child labor in China

     

    How could we in any way justify the pain and suffering that children that should be enjoying themselves discovering reality with proper assistance by parents and teachers are instead becoming the workforce within a system wherein Only those with money can make an actual ‘living’? There are no justifications, there are no excuses other than our general disregard and self interest to not ensure every single child’s well being. If this same kind of no-choice for the future of our children was experienced by every single family that is currently secured with money, we would have surely already – most likely – done something about it, but because we don’t see the reality we are all inflicting by default to every child born without proper support, we believe that it is ‘none of our business’ and that is what generates the illusion that the children of the world is not of our responsibility when in reality they are all in fact our children as well.

     

     

     

    Will labor laws banning child labor in non-capitalist countries put an end to child poverty?

    Contrary to leftist rhetoric passing child labor laws in these countries will not solve the problem, but will only lead to mass starvation — which is why the “poor” themselves resist such laws. It is primarily for the benefit of the rich, leftist “humanitarians” — that live in capitalist countries — who cry out for these laws, that these laws are implemented. – http://capitalism.org/category/children/

     

    • The nature of this quote represents the accepted and allowed crime against ourselves as humanity where we have come to accept poverty as an inherited state of being where even denying labor to children can lead to their inability to fend for themselves. This is the catch 22 conditions we continue to exist in because of profit. One can notice the tonality wherein there is no consideration on what the actual suffering of these children represents in fact.

     

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    Doesn’t capitalism lead to child labor in factories?

    No. Capitalism did not create child labor working in fields or factories. It inherited it from the previous political systems. Observe that in communist Cuba of today 11 year old children are forcibly sent off to “summer camps” where they spend time working in fields cutting sugar cane and tobacco — this is called by leftists as “volunteerism” and “education”. Yet little mention is made of this.

    http://capitalism.org/category/children/

     

    • Whether it is inherited or not, the fact is that child labor constitutes a great part of the work force in places like China where children as young as 10 – or less – have been found laboring in factories. Any form of forced labor no matter what the type of economic system is a violation of human rights.

     

      • “12 million children laboring in India working in coal mines, textiles and hideous labor conditions
      • 60% of the 350 million child laborers are in Asia

      • 1998 – The National Labor committee found 300 young women making garments for Ann Taylor in a Factory in Southeastern China
      • 50,000 in Bangladesh children working are ‘essential’ for families”

     

    • This is the condition that most people that are abused and exploited in this world are existing in: there is no organism that in fact protects children and young people from the hands of a lucrative business that is a consequential outflow of our own need to keep running a system based on profit while satisfying our accepted and allowed ‘wants and needs.’ Marginalization, discrimination, lack of healthcare, lack of education and basic means to live makes of these individuals the ideal target for those that even promise better living conditions to the parents of the children. Sometimes girls are sold for marriage purposes and in this, a child’s will is absolutely overlooked when it comes to the adults that supposedly know what would be better for another individual. We realize this is just a lie since all current ‘living decisions’ are based on Profit and Survival accordingly.

     

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    What is a proper solution to solving child-poverty in third-world countries?

    The real solution is to make the parents productive enough so that they can produce enough for themselves — and for their children. What these poor people in India and the like need, are not more humanitarians like Mother Theresa, but more businessman like Bill Gates. What these countries need is not more government controls, but more freedom.http://capitalism.org/category/children/

     

    • The Production solution is also the same one promoted by organisms like the UNICEF which is of no surprise at all, since all organizations stemming from the UN are still guarding the world-system’s best interests – profit, capitalist gain for a few – above any real Human Rights defense. These organisms are shaped to comply to the dominant economic system and formulate solutions according to the laws of profit and benefit for those that actually create their wealth based on the majority’s suffering.  Making Parents ‘productive enough’ is not a solution since that leads to our current ‘progress and economic growth’ measures that have turned Life into a profit making scheme of unstoppable consuming and producing, turning our world into a factory and a trash can at the same time. Freedom is money in this world, and by not giving money to everyone within a system where giving and receiving is done in equality, we cannot conceive just ‘working harder’ to be a genuine solution but instead it is another way to present a ‘no other way out’ from the capitalist-terms in which we have all believed it is impossible to get out of.

      We’re about to discover that this is not at all so.

     

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    Solutions                                                               

    • The transformation and solution process is through an with the implementation of the Equal Money System beginning with Equal money Capitalism is the stepping stone to move from our current living condition of survival, control and fear  to an assured and guaranteed well being by virtue of being able to protect our human rights. This is possible when money stops being an end in itself that is to be strived and fought for, and instead becomes a tool of unconditional support for all individuals of which children are the ones that will have equal benefit by being able to be born into a Living environment where all the necessary means to live in dignity are granted as a Living Right. 

     

    • Children will be supported from the moment of birth with Equal Money managed by their parents who will also individually have all the money required to grant each child the quality living needs, support, assistance and environmental responsibility that ensures and guarantees a general well being for every child equally. Education in the Equal Money System will be available for all and it is extended to a special training and support for Parents, because we Do understand how vital it is to have all information, all relevant educational support to understand how to best support the child even from the stages of gestation in the mother’s womb. This is part of the Self-Responsibility Principle in which Equal Money and the Living Rights established through the Equal Life Foundation are based upon.

     

     

    Everyone will receive free and effective training in language, reading, and mathematics – the basic foundational skills that make it possible to effectively interact with one’s world. Prospective parents will receive training to ensure that they are fully capable of supporting their child’s development into a functionally effective Human.

     

    Education in Equal Money Wiki  and read more topics to understand more about Equal Money.

     

     

    Here is part of the  Equal Life Foundation’s Bill of Rights  dedicated to Monetary Integrity

     
    3. An Equal Right of Safety and Security for every Child, so that a life free of fear, insecurity and trauma is assured, a life in which parental guidance is balanced with freedom of expression and lived within an environment of creativity and joy so that every Child grows into his or her utmost potential as a unique expression of Life Itself.
    Equal Life Foundation

     

     

     

    • The process of rehabilitation for children and parents alike along with the necessary living conditions and support granted as a Fundamental Human Right will be part of our social responsibility within the understanding that the life of each child that has been affected by our world-system of profit over life is our direct cause and effect that we must take Self Responsibility for. There are already plans for that according to Unicef and other International Organizations, however none of them have been effective due to the economic constrain they are founded upon. By removing money as an obstacle in that equation, everyone genuinely interested in educating oneself to later on educate parents and children alike will be able to do so, as this is a fundamental aspect to integrate the living principles and values to generate the best living condition that we all want for ourselves and the future generations to come.
       

    • Any violation to Children’s Human Right to Live in Dignity and be Supported in equal Honor, Integrity and Respect by their Parents will be dealt with according to the solutions that can be implemented to either replace the parents, support the parents to become effective in their parenting skills or face the consequence that we will all collectively decide by democratic means is what is best for all. These measures are contemplated to ensure that the patterns of parental abuse are gradually diminished up to the point of absolute eradication. This is within the understanding that the patterns of abuse have been integrated as part of who we are, our history, our culture and environment. All of this will entail an arduous yet absolutely gratifying process of supporting each aspect of our reality to be aligned to Equality as Life, to turn it into the Ideal Living Environment to Raise our Children in the best ways that we can all contribute to guard and create.

     

     

     

     

    Rewards                                                              

    • Children that become the living expression of life will be our greatest reward, to see them enjoying themselves without any fear, without limitation, without having a mind creating inner conflict and insecurity. Instead, each child will be endowed with all necessary living skills through education and parental support to become the individual that they will understand is what is best for all, because Freedom can only exist within the understanding that we are a collective on this Earth and we have to consider each part of it if we genuinely want to live in peace and harmony – that’s the fundamental aspect that will enable children to become effective decision makers and self-willed individuals that support themselves to work together in a system where Life will be honored from birth till the inevitable death.

     

    • The time available for parents to take care of their children will also be a possibility in a world system where working is no longer your ticket to live, but instead a contribution that one gives in a certain phase of our lives – and with considerable less amount of working time – in order to dedicate ourselves as adults to educate and raise children to become the genuine future of the world that we would want ourselves to live in as well.

     

     

    • Educated Parents that genuinely know how to care for their children, having all the necessary means to give them the best living condition is a guarantee that will ensure children are actually cared for with the intent of supporting them as equals to become self-realized individuals that equally generate the best living conditions in which they will also, as a result, will want their own children to be born into.

     

    • No more child trafficking, child abuse, children sold as sexual slaves for child pornography. No more children having to prostitute themselves on the streets, no more children running away from their abusive parents at home, no more children resorting to drugs to mitigate the physical psychological abuse, physical pain and/or hunger – Every single child will have access to the best living condition that we all would want for ourselves. This is the reward that we will collectively ensure through the general organisms that we will all collectively regulate, as it is in our best interest to ensure that our children grow up to be the most effective living individuals that can exist in our world, as that is how we realize that the future of our human race depends on how well we support and assist our children to create the future not only for fellow human beings, but to equally ensure all animals, plants and the entire ecosystem is equally supported to finally live as Equals on this Earth.

      To never see a single child being abused and suffering again – this is our collective responsibility.

     

     

     

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  • 209. Successful Living = Capitalist Brainwash

    Continuing with the Elitist Character

     

    Continuing with Self Forgiveness begun in the last post 208. Doing Good as Positive Credit-Rewards

     

    I forgive myself that I accepted and allowed myself to want to emulate the people throughout history that have been quite famous/ recognized in terms of creating a revolution, creating massive movements to oppose a particular system and within that, create a ‘name’ for myself and glorify myself within it wherein I was willing to live by the rule of ‘the cause justifies the means’ and in that, become someone of/ with power/ influence in the world, not realizing how this was pursued due to the positive experience as a form of  desire to suit my interests/ my own benefit, and within this place more emphasis on the rewards I would get than the actual cause/ work to be done, which I saw it as a weakness that could be a certainty if I allowed myself to be dishonest – which even now I see could only exist if I would still be fooled by the mirage one is able to buy with money and call that a ‘successful living’ and make it as if all the neglect toward all life within that was not relevant, which is something one cannot turn a blind eye on any longer.

     

    I forgive myself that I accepted and allowed myself to define power/ money/ wealth as something quite tempting at some stage when I was able to taste an inkling of what that could be like, and enjoying the energy, the attention, the recognition, the comfort, the luxuries, the preferential treat that I would be able to experience as an energetic experience of ‘feeling good’ within me, linking this to a justified happiness because I was willing to play the role in the game – so to speak – of standing in a leadership position of whatever I would have to do and within that, still hold dearly to my own personal interest of escalating social positions and being ‘at the top,’ without realizing that all leaders, all people ‘at the top’ end up mostly being corrupted by the power that such ‘top’ means – thus this is a matter of self honesty wherein I simply desired to be that person/ that role due to the power such position would bring as a form of social recognition instead of actually using that position to get to a point of absolute self-directive will, wherein one has the ability to support as many beings as possible to equalize and dignify the lives of all, which is definitely what is required to be done in this world.

     

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to ignore how anyone that has stood up in the past in order to create a change in this world, has been exterminated, decimated, ostracized or punished wherein I realize that the way is then not to oppose the system, but stand within it and also within this, realizing how any position of power would only exist if there is a way to continue perpetuating such ‘power’ which is through money and money is the point of abuse in itself. I realize that all the ‘good things’ that one has linked to money is mostly existing as an incentive to continue perpetuating the current sense of ‘freedom’ and ‘liberty’ that we’ve been brainwashed to link to any form of social-progress in/as capitalism, while in fact, all of the things that one can buy and consume with money/ power, is the product of abuse, the product of slavery, the product of the rape of the Earth, which I am not willing to support and give further attention as an incentive to move in this world.

     

    I realize that it is mostly impossible for me to now link any form of power  as wealth/ more money than the majority as an equivalent of abuse and as such, we can only direct all money to fund a cause that will enable Life to be recognized as the only value in this world. This means, using money to finalize money as a world system of exchange of abuse and make-believe values – and instead, transform Money into Equal Money wherein we can all realize to what extent we have imposed our own separation as an energetic experience onto this world and our own physical bodies, which is how we have created money as a set of make-believe values that have only a point of reference and understanding within our minds, according to the values we have given to ourselves and everything in separation of ourselves, creating relationships of Energy instead of realizing our Equality and Oneness as Life.

     

    I realize that a form of directive will must exist in order to stand as an example of what it is to deal with what is considered ‘power’ at the moment and not get lost by it. This implies at all times realizing the reason and principle I stand by as Life, which is immovable as the constant and consistent breath that is the real and only power that I can exist as, which means, the real power I have is here as myself as my physical body and every moment of breath that I commit myself to dedicate myself to establish a way to Learn how to Live in this world as Equals.

     

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to harbor these images of experiences in my past wherein I saw what it would be like to have lots of money and be in a position of recognition by many, as something that I enjoyed at an egotistical level, without even looking at the reality that is here as the majority that is certainly having no access to any form of luxury or ‘preferential treat’ and comfort that money brings – thus

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be enticed by an experience of ‘wealth’ as comfort/ benefits/ preferential treat, as this experience that I wanted to have for the rest of my life, which is how I came to understand how rich people actually experience themselves when having it all, and within that, having it very easy to get lost within the benefits that one get with and while having money which is in fact so if one neglects reality and loses perspective of it while being high on the experience of money.

     

    I forgive myself that I accepted and allowed myself to learn how to ‘aim high’ as a constant ad-vice in my life, wherein my abilities and capabilities were being envisioned toward positions and careers wherein I would be able to get ‘the most money’ and the moment that I opted for a career wherein ‘the most money’ was not a certainty, was from the starting point of ‘spiting the system’ that I had desired to conquer  at first. I realize that all extremes are just forms of self sabotage, because  when I was aiming for my ultimate desires of fame/ fortune and when I went into an absolute denial of money/ this system, I was only still seeking to satisfy what seemed ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ to me, based on morals that were construed by my own preference of ‘who I wanted to be’ based on a certain character in society, which in the end or the last one was getting to be a famous person that could speak and change the world while still remaining in a certain position of power and recognition, just like sociologists, linguists, political analysts or even financial advisors would do.

     

    I realize that the only acceptable direction that I can give myself is to use what I am able and capable of and direct it to an outcome that will benefit all beings equally, and that there is no ‘true satisfaction’ within ‘having it all’ because all of such ‘things/ pleasures/ luxuries’ are the product of our current world system wherein there can be no wealth without abuse, which is what we are mostly unaware of when owning things and not seeing the entire process that are involved for it all to be these sellable items that we are able to acquire/buy in stores.  I realize that when looking at all ideas of wealth/ power/ money, I was never taught about the actual process that it takes to create such forms of  ‘wealth’ and why exactly they were valued as such. I realize that I lived my life deliberately not wanting to look at the ‘ugly aspect’ of everything that I would be able to buy/ consume, because of ‘feeling bad’ about it – but, within this self-manipulation process, I then turned a blind eye to that which is the foundation to any form of power, which is enslavement and abuse of that which I am one and equal to as well.

     

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be enticed by the roles that I would see on the TV by people that had throughout history, apparently, trying to ‘make a change’ in this world and still be having fun, still be famous, rich wealthy – or the direct opposite with people like Gandhi that lead me to think that maybe I had to ‘give it all up’ – I realize that both extremes are just not workable, are not practical either and that the only acceptable way is to establish a relationship with money in a way that I don’t see it as a form of ‘power/ wealth’ but as a means to establish that which will enable the actual benefit for all beings in a constant and consistent manner.

     

    I realize that money – just as anything else in my reality – must be equalized within me in order to not be moved by any form of ‘desire for more’ to become my incentive within reality. I realize that money is a means to establish a world system that will be best for all – and as such, we can only buy and consume what we require to live and direct it to fund the solution that will be sustainable as best for all in the long run. Any form of greed within ourselves is mostly stemming from how we were educated to always seek for more/ want more/ escalate the social ladder more and more. This implies that, who we have become as the result of having capitalist diapers so to speak, is the desire for more, the linkage of happiness to consumerism, to buying and accumulation of wealth/ saving as our purpose in life, when Life has Nothing to do with that, nor happiness can be linked to any form of benefit that only stands within the constrains of a system that only allows a fraction of the population to aspire such ‘happiness’- state.

     

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to link luxuries, comfort, preferential treat, specialness, exclusivity as aspects that I aimed to get in my life due to how I was educated to get to a position of power and within that, ‘satisfy’ myself/ my life and ‘accomplish’ many things that would be ‘praised’/ recognized/ highly rewarded with money as a sign of success, which is why I ended up despising money – apparently – and revolting toward all the expectations built toward me, to the point where I am now wherein I am not satisfying my design/ life path and instead, veering toward a best for all outcome, which is precisely deliberately stating that any form of satisfaction that I sought was a selfish act of self-indulgence in the benefits/ treatment that money represents within the system for my own personal glory. I realize that the primary personalities I have built as myself have money as foundation, have a desire for recognition as foundation and a desire to be ‘more’ as foundation.

     

    I forgive myself that I accepted and allowed myself to build the entirety of who I am according to a future projection of having a lot of money/ being in a position of power and recognition as the motive/ motor of my life. This is how today, I realize that I must move myself as a physical being, as the recognition of who I really am as life – and that has nothing to do with consciousness as money as a driving force for further energy. Who I am as breath is consistent and constant and there is nothing that can ‘beat’ that,  as it is what is real. I realize that money and the current perceived power is the result of our collective negligence and brainwash accepted as ‘world system.’ I realize that the moment that we understand money as consciousness, there is no way we can be ‘moved’ by it, as it represents the gateway to further experiences that can only be existent as mind-experiences of so called happiness,, bliss, enjoyment, fulfillment – all of them only existent as energies built with energies and energy is the result of the entire friction and separation from ourselves as life that we have been and become until this day, which means: the abuse of ourselves as life.

     

    This is how only through equalizing money will we veer our eyes to look at that which is real, that which has Always been here but we ‘agreed’/ a-greed  to cover up with further ideas of wealth/ power/ benefits within a system that allowed such delusions as something acceptable and real and even more so, linked to ‘positivity’ without understanding a single thing of how all things ‘positive’ came to be within our existence –

     

    Thus – I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see how every single desire that I had for ‘more,’ for ‘wealth’ within society was based on the collective acceptance of wealth as something positive, as a synonym of happiness and as such, believe that I had to conquer the world in order to be the most successful no matter what – without realizing that in such desire life was never part of my consideration, nor were any other beings involved within it, nor was any acknowledgement of the world’s situation taken into consideration or was deliberately side-viewed to create a personality that would be ‘acceptable’ such as the character of doing ‘something good’ for humanity – but at the same time, having and obtaining all the benefits that I believed would come with it.  I realize that this energetic imprint was gotten from all those bits of moments of benefits, luxury, comfort, special treatment within my life that became these bits of heaven that I sought to re-enact throughout my life through people, through situations and in this, reducing life to a mere experience at an energetic level, reducing life to a file of positive-experiences that I could then use as a testimony of ‘having had a good life.

     

    I realize that these experiences are only created in my mind – and that are only real as the illusion that I accepted and allowed myself to believe was real in such moments of experiencing what it was to have money/ benefits in this reality.

     

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to conveniently and systematically save these desires ‘for later’ and hiding them as if they were ‘not important’ within me and my process due to seeing the entire experience as something that wasn’t relevant within my life, apparently, not realizing how when opening up the point, the desire to have that became quite an ingrained aspect of ‘who I am’ as a personality in itself that I became unaware of, seeking to become someone to get that amount of money and benefits.

     

    I realize that all my desire to hide myself, to not be seen, to seclude and isolate myself at some point in my life, was essentially due to me not getting  what I wanted/ my ‘dreams’ come true and as such, I am aware of the extremist nature that I have played out, wherein I want it all or non and within this, when it comes to being patient for a point to develop, I simply get desperate and ‘give up,’ believing it won’t work, without ever having had enough patience to stand as the constant and persistent breath to allow something to develop, to work on something that will have a ‘fruitful outcome’ as the accumulation of the effect of constant and consistent work on something.

     

    I realize that the conditions within our world have lead us to only ‘move’ if there is some form of benefit in the way, however, when one realizes that the ‘pay’ for such movement can only be money, and money is the point that we are here to reform/ change and align to a best for all outcome, I cannot possibly be moved by the same abuse that I am standing up to expose and reform, as well as realizing that once one decides to live by a principle, there is no way you can fool yourself and have a ‘peace of mind’ about it while knowing that your intentions are others – that simply cannot exist when one is aligning the totality of who one is as one and equal because in that, any form of power is an immediate dishonesty and self-deception of course.

     

    I forgive myself that I accepted and allowed myself to even create a double headed ‘me’ wherein toward others in my life wherein I would be presenting myself as an ‘anti-system’ person, a detractor of capitalism – yet in the inside still waiting to have the same kind of benefits I would witness were able to be obtained even by being a detractor of capitalism – which is through positions of academicism and intellectuals that were and are still doing this.

     

    I forgive myself that I accepted and allowed myself to desire the lives of the sociologists and political analysts, economists and historians that I met throughout my life, creating the inherent desire to be like them with all the knowledge, all the understanding of the system and getting great money to live in my ‘dream-like way’ with things that I learned were ‘acceptable’ to have and own in my reality, while being in a position of ‘opposing capitalism.’ I realize that these seemingly ‘unimportant’ aspects of my past became pillars for me to direct my life to be and become a particular character that could justify wealth/ power while apparently ‘standing up’ for a change in the system, which was mostly desiring to make money within the system out of opposing it through theory, through art, through knowledge and information as I became aware many people does.

     

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire a sybarite type of lifestyle, the same type of lifestyle that I got to be aware of from mostly intellectuals I met in my life experience, which made it an acceptable way to become rich/ powerful/ be recognized for doing ‘something’ to ‘save the world/ change the system’ while having a top luxurious home, a top luxurious type of ‘organic lifestyle’ and related types of businesses – mostly in the cultural aspect of society – that I became aware of as a possibility for me to remain as a ‘good person’ at the eyes of society, while benefitting from the money in capitalism just as the most self-proclaimed capitalist supporter would do.

     

    I see and realize that there is no way to mask ourselves trying to play the ‘good character’ at the eyes of others, when the desires behind such character were the same as anyone else that would be openly willing to abuse to get the most benefit out of money/ power/ wealth – because I see and realize that as long as money becomes a driving force in itself for personal interest = there is a problem and lack of integrity and within this, a deliberate act of ignorance and or negligence toward the understanding of how money operates in this world.

    I realize that the only sane way to direct our money is to support ourselves to continue doing what we are doing as Desteni and the Equal Money System, which is the unique platform within this world that promotes a world system change based on principles that stand for All Life Equally beginning with Self-Education  – thus there cannot be ay form of self interest in a selfish mode within this – it can only be directed as and by principle – and in this I absolutely trust myself as being able and capable of living this, because I am aware of how futile it would be to ‘fall’ for something that is as ephemeral as money, as make-believe as money, as the actual nonsense that money has become when it comes to adding a certain value to what is here and a positive experience stemming from that which is of this Earth in order to establish a form of control to it. It is Unacceptable and quite delusional from us human beings to not see how we have dug our own grave due to giving money the power of ‘god’ that doesn’t exist but only through the self-righteousness to abuse the reality that is here in the name of success and happiness as an acceptable way to abuse the world and each other.

     

    I commit myself to live and realize the dedication to life exists here in every breath and any other form of distraction from what is here as the simplicity of life, is capitalist brainwash, is familial brainwash, is ingrained patterns that I have accepted and allowed myself to become as my mind. I assist and support myself to bring myself back to breath as the physical every time that I experience a ‘longing’ for something ‘more’ than myself here in the moment, as that which is real and who I really am, as ALL that is Here as Life.

     

    I commit myself to expose how money is the product of the knowledge and information we have imposed onto life – and as such, we are directly responsible and capable of aligning money to a best for all equation that dignifies Life in reality for all beings.

     

    I commit myself to expose wealth/ power as the actual evil they represent within this current world system, which is conveniently being sugar coated to neglect the actual processes behind such wealth.

     

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    130. Killing the Loved Ones

     

    ‘I’ll kill you/her/she/them!’

    Continuation from: 129. Will Love and Lighters end up Killing People?

    This is one of the backchat points that can be found within the desire  to control someone, which is wanting to manipulate another for the sake of acting/ doing things our way/ getting our point of Happiness. Whenever the person does Not recede to our point of control, backchat may emerge in an insulting, denigrating manner toward the unsubordinated person and one of the ‘most negatively charged’ type of backchat exists in the form of ‘I HATE YOU/HER/HIM’ or ‘I WANT TO KILL HER/HIM/THEM ALL’

     

    Now, what does all the positive thinking on ‘light, love, bliss’ has to do with the point of negative backchat such as ‘I want to kill you/he/she/them?’ It is an extreme bouncing off from the positive experience, it is the extreme polarity once that someone ‘had it all’ and then ‘lost’ it as a point of self definition, unleashing then the opposite-directly proportional input of positivity back into negativity – that’s when we can identify our ‘downfalls’ and ‘depressions’ and whatnot that can escalate through our own participation up to a point of absolute mind possession labeled as ‘mental instability’ by the psychiatrists that do want to make the most for their pockets out of a seemingly neuronal-hormonal dysfunction.

    In other words, this can only happen if we give too much head to such negative experience, eventually becoming nothing else but the absolute opposite of the initial all-positive input of loving someone for example – there’s even a saying ‘from love to hate there’s only one step’ – and it is so, because the starting point of love is not an equal and one standing as physical beings of flesh and bones that care for themselves = care for one another in physical well being considerations – no, love means in our colloquial vocabulary just passion, energy, bubbles in the stomach that become an absolute life-hijacking obsession that is specifically directed to a point of possession a.k.a. wanting to control the other being, wanting to feel special with that something or someone, wanting to ‘fulfill the dreams’ that only existed as a positive experience in our minds.

     

    This is how we can see MANY demonic-possessions today – which are MIND-possessions and should be understood as synonyms nowadays, wherein boyfriends attack their girlfriends – or vice versa – ending up slitting their throats, killing them, hitting them to ‘make them look ugly’ and one cannot possibly fathom: ‘but wait, I was sharing my life this man, I had sex with this man, how could it possibly be that the next day he’s trying to kill me!’ – and this is precisely where the role of the mind as a literal entity occupying our physical must be understood: the problem is thinking, the moment we think, we are already existing in an alternate dimension in our minds – and in that, hell is not far away. You may say: well, then we’re all living in hell, because we All all the time, and that is correct and that is what apparently makes us these ‘supreme beings’ that can THINK – but is it really so? Who invented this type of judgment but ourselves as human beings that deep inside actually fear NOT being in control of Anything or anyone that exists here.

     

    In past blogs when revising words as the imposition of man’s mind upon the physical reality, this relationship of control was seen, which later on became the money language that we are currently living with and by, it is to understand who/ what do we have to accept and allow ourselves to exist as in order to voice/think a sentence like ‘I want to Kill Him/Her/them’ and in other cases ‘Me’ as well. Here is the deal: not many people can deny that this sentence has crossed their minds in an absolute moment of an absolute negative experience which within the understanding of how the positive and negative exist, means a ‘Fall from Heaven’ to the absolute opposite – why? Because of all the expectations we built in our MINDS only – reading again, yes only in our minds – about getting/ being with/ experiencing ourselves with something or someone ‘for the rest of our lives’ which is the usual bullshit peddled in our media about these everlasting relationships for example. And this is primarily focused on wanting to Kill the Loved One, which for all cases should be the most shocking and extreme type of betrayal toward one’s conception – meaning creation of the concept – of what love is/ should be, it is as ‘frightening’ as can be, because every single bit of relationship that exists now as ‘our society’ is apparently founded (or found dead) upon love – have a look at the promotion of these experiences as something marvelous and real: having a partner, getting married, having kids, creating a family, having pets, your relationship to god,  your job, your neighbor – everything is promoted as these bubbly stages of your life wherein you are supposed to be ‘Luvin’ it’ all the way – and it’s actually quite fascinating how we can find a note in the news on a daily basis about apparent ‘loved ones’ killing each other, people hating their jobs, people bugging their neighbors ‘just because,’ people eating their children, people killing themselves or others because of their relationship with god, men killing their ex-wife and children because of a marital break-up, and the list goes on and on and frightfully on.

     

    “The moment we make that decision, acceptance and allowance in the trust that whatever the mind present to us is ‘who we are’ and we continue participating in the backchats and energies, with participating as the more and more we continue talking in our minds and experiencing the energies without stopping them/investigating them: what one will find is that they become more and more intense in the mind, the more and more one remain in the energy reaction and so the backchat/thoughts/behaviours that it substantiate in the character/personality possession.” – Sunette Spies*

     

    What is Wrong with this picture? The Mind 

    Who we are as physical living beings in no way stand as something ‘alien’ to this physical existence as the Earth – the animal kingdom, the plants, the environment, everything functions as a whole and one single organism. Then, who is the real Problem here? The mind, the who we have become as this machine that thinks reality only to scheme one’s own survival and personal benefit, because WE programmed ourselves to only create a world system that could Only benefit ‘some’ in our reality. Now, that is seriously messed up to say the least, who are the real schizophrenic instead? Who are the real killers that are willing to maim any life left in this world in the name of a ‘thriving society’ that can look like the most outrageous façade you’ll ever see – but it’s just that, a facade, a sugar coating enamored view of reality behind which we all hide the Reality of who and what we have become as The Secret Mind

     

    Once we pass through the initial disconcertion of realizing how EVIL we have become in fact to the extent of not being able to trust your apparent ‘Loved ones,’ we can start then realizing that there is a Seriously Important Task that each one of us must Take Self Responsibility for, and that’s not something ‘out of our hands’ to do, it is taking responsibility for our own minds, realizing that we all have to ensure that we STOP and Self-Forgive any single inch of hatred and Love toward another being – You might say: wait a minute, you say ‘Self Forgive every point of Loving another as well, but that’s not bad!’ yet, understanding how the existence of Hatred actually stems from Love must have left this point quite clear to you how any positive or negative input upon something or someone, will eventually go to its opposite as an experience that we then act upon, blinded by our own backchat and internal conversations that we are seldom aware of.

     

    This is then to put all ‘Love and Light’ as any positive thinking ‘on the table’ from the perspective of realizing how we are all responsible for whatever we see as ‘BAD’ and ‘Negative’ in our society, it is Our Mirror and we have been denying this for far too long now. The thoughts that a serial killer or a bad tempered ex boyfriend that gets to stab her girlfriend are in no way different to Any other thought we may have in our heads.

     

    Thus, it is definitely a bucket of cold water to realize that that which we always wanted to ‘ostracize’ in our society to not have to SEE what we had become, is in fact ourselves.

     

    We’ll continue with the process of realizing the correction is not ‘out there’ in some bloody policy awaiting to be approved by the government to ‘Stop the madness!’ It is here within and as ourselves that the correction potentially exists: we just have to live it.

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    118. My Libido – A Denial

    What would be the only reason why an essential aspect of our human-physical living reality such as the sexual drive – dubbed libido for psychoanalysis purposes can be obfuscated in a deliberate manner? Fear

     

    Libido is the word that came up in the dictionary and immediately remembered how I had first listened to Kurt Cobain sing/scream this word in the chorus of the 90s youth anthem Smells like teen spirit which I first heard when I was about 7 – close to his death – and how I would always use the dictionary to translate words and get to know the meaning of words. I found out what this was and even at that age I already could see the experiences emerging with the meaning of the word.

     

    Oh what will people that know me say about this? It’s fascinating because I had pretty much disclosed the entire point of sexual drive in a document that I kept for myself from the beginning of my process, to disengage that entire ‘sexual drive’ that I would find within me in almost every single moment of my beingness here. Yes, it was part of a system manifestation that I had – yet no different to any other sexual drive really. Through the years of my application within this process, I have been able to stabilize myself a lot in relation to sexuality and sex-drive, which is something very cool as I could see how it could get to control your every-day living if you are simply only waiting for the moment to have sex again – it was that extensive within me.

     

    I have realized how part of the reasons for my dissociation with my family stemmed from them opposing the people that I would go out with – I stopped communicating with them, hiding and simply keeping the minimal-contact with them just because of realizing that ‘they would always oppose the person I decided to be in a relationship with’ – I had literally resigned and also ‘designed’ myself to live out the idea of having to get far, far away from them as an adult, as they would never approve of my relationships – however, this belief of them having to ‘approve’ of my relationships was part of the familial-type of patterns wherein partners had to always be introduced at home and so, my parents would agree or disagree with them and act accordingly – this is in relation to how my sister’s partners would be ‘treated’ – yes a fuckedup pattern indeed.

     

    That’s why and how I developed ideas of: ‘I will never get married, I will never have kids, I will live in an open relationship with people, I won’t settle down the way they want me to’ never realizing how all of these ideas were only stemming from what I beLIEved was my way of ‘liberation’ from the perceived oppression. The Desteni I Process and particularly the Agreements Course has been very supportive to open up these personal repressions and entire psychological warfare that we develop toward ourselves as our own physical sexual expression that should not be hidden, should not be repressed/ suppressed as that is then still ‘giving head’ to familial traditions, traumatic experiences, an entire ‘sins of the fathers’ type of experience wherein I can see and have written out how I developed this ‘political’ way of being wherein I have kept my secrets in place, which is the same pattern that I can spot from ‘those that have gone before me’ in quite fascinating ways, as I see and realize how this has become ‘the way’ to keep ourselves safe in our bubbles, keeping literal ‘political relationships’ with one another while having quite a raucous personal life on the other hand.

     

    So, back into the fear point and why I kept this to myself. I had a few ‘tortuous’ years when I was in my late teens, coping with the entire point of secret relationships out of fear of survival literally, as I feared that my parents would simply stop allowing me to go out or support my plans to study abroad if I would keep seeing this or that person.

    I later on – much later on – realized how I had in fact not taken into consideration what I was doing when engaging in such relationships, but I had to see/ experience that for myself, fall flat on my face and stand up. However the lack of openness in communicating with my parents about it was simply an aspect that I see influenced me into keeping these topics secret to myself. I mean, I would easily talk about sex and the female/ male innuendo play outs in society, however I would never talk about how I would live that within my own life.

    I was considering following on this topic – however, at the moment I see there is a point that requires to be walked with more specificity, which is how I have deliberately decided to be alone/ a loner and how I have also developed characters in relation to pushing people away the moment that they get too close – so, that will come in blogs to follow as that is more ‘latent’ within my current reality.

     

    Self Forgiveness and Self Corrective Statements:

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to keep a point like ‘sexual drive’ as a taboo to speak about in my blog because of the extent of the audience that I have now and believing that this topic is ‘too personal’ to share, wherein I realize that I can only limit myself because of an actual fear of what others would think about my realizations and writings, without seeing and realizing how this world is the result of having lived sexuality as a great point of ‘secret desire’ that is everywhere yet no one is openly discussing it, which is what causes most of the problems going on around sexual dysfunctions, paraphilias and any other type of diversion from physical-sexuality, as we have made of sex a mind-energetic drive instead of an actual integral part of our living-reality, wherein we can instead support ourselves to develop an equal and one self-communication at a physical level as our own sexuality, to later on expand and establish agreements with others that are doing the same and as such, change the way that sexuality is approached as a topic, and lived within this world wherein we have pornography, sexual abuse, sexual harassment and any other dysfunctional consequence stemming from this ‘unspoken banning’ toward all things sex in our reality.

     

    I see and realize that I have perpetuated this secrecy as a way to still hold certain link toward a familial type of ‘rule’ wherein we are not supposed to talk about our personal sexual experiences, and only speak about ‘the surface’ of relationships, which is how sex was never a spoken topic toward me specifically, but only kept as an assumption wherein I believed that the only communication and understanding about sex was able to be obtained from school. Which was actually so and other sources such as books that I read in order to get to understand how it physically functioned – however, as a point to consider for everyone that is currently having kids or thinking about becoming parents, it is indispensable to create an openness to discuss about sexuality as in being a ‘girl’ or a ‘boy’ and the physical differences that exist between both, later on about masturbation, sexual relationships and stopping any form of ‘secrecy’ implanted onto this topic, as the slightest repression existent within oneself, can turn into the child’s own repression or the extreme opposite which is an absolutely ‘unleashed’ sexual expression as a form of spitefulness toward such repression.

     

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to having feared discussing my personal relationships with my parents/ family in general because of fearing how they would judge the people that I would go out with, and within this making such fears as real as I would allow myself to live them out by creating a ‘double life’ wherein I could keep one side of my life secret and present another side of myself toward everyone, which is how I accepted and allowed myself to repress my own expression in communicating toward others what I was in fact doing and living as in relation to relationships/ sexuality, which became part of the personalities that I developed as a ‘survival-mode,’ just because of fearing not being supported to continue my studies or being kicked out of the house or simply perpetual fights because of me going out with particular people in my world.

     

    When and as I see myself fearing talking about sex and my own sexual experiences, I stop and I breathe – I realize that these fears are directly linked to my family and the patterns of threats in relation to not going out with particular people in my world. I realize that no one else can decide for me ‘who I can establish a relationship with’ but myself, and that any objection can only be taken as a point to discuss with them to support them/ others to see where and how such fears/ judgments originate from their own personal experiences projected onto myself or others in question. This way I can practically assist and support myself and others to see how we have passed on our own personal repressions around sex because of fearing to see how such fears determined our ‘who we are’ in relation to sexuality, which is unacceptable to continue like this in our world wherein much of the behavioral problems stem from having an ‘unhealthy’ sexual relationship of individuals toward ourselves as our own physical body and toward others as sexual relationships.

     

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that my parents had ‘all the power’ to decide who I could go into a relationship with or not, wherein the obvious fear-factor was being supported financially to live and study – hence I realize how even the relationships that we have toward ourselves and our own bodies is influenced by the relationship with our parents and not only the communicational aspect of it, but any other form of restrain and prohibition in relation to our own sexual expression is directly linked to how we were educated/ non-educated at all in relation to sexuality and our own physical relationship with our own body.

     

    Thus when and as I see myself fearing what my parents/ family would say, think or judge another person that I decide to go into a relationship with, I stop and I breathe – I realize that no one else has a say to decide what’s best for me according to their beliefs and perceptions, but that I am the only one that is able to perfectly assess what I am willing to be, do and express with myself and another as an actual relationship of self-support. I also see and realize that any judgment can be worked with in relation to themselves and how they were educated/ uneducated about it, which is how I can practically turn a point of taboo, prohibition or further ‘disapproval’ into understanding wherein we can actually instead support ourselves to be able to communicate effectively about points that were simply ‘kept secret’ in the past.

     

    I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to keep the backchat and ‘ingrained beliefs’ such as I will never get married, I will never have kids, I will live in an open relationship with people, I won’t settle down the way they want me to’ as they were all spiteful decisions I made in relation to how I lived my own personal relationships and how I would ‘deal’ with that in relation to my family – thus I see and realize that I only limited myself to be and become one single idea of ‘who I will be in my relationships’ as a deliberate opposition and contrast to that which I would see as a ‘must-do’ and ‘must-avoid’ type of attitudes that I witnessed at home, not realizing that I was the only one that developed such fears toward it and within this, giving my entire power away to fear, to keep quiet and secretive about my relationships at all times.

     

    When and as I see myself bringing up beliefs about myself, my future relationships and what I want to be and become and what I won’t ‘ever’ be and become – I stop and I breathe – I realize that the totalitarianism that I have imposed onto myself has been mostly a way to oppose my familial restrictions that I took personal and a pillar to develop my own ‘rebellious’ personality, which is nothing else but the exact opposite of what I made myself believe that my parents wanted me to be and become. Thus, I stop playing the game of being the ‘black sheep of the family’ and going against everything that I knew they ‘believed in’ and instead, simply consider at all times what is it that I am willing to live by and as, how I am willing to support myself in a relationship wherein an actual open agreement of self-support is lived in a physical way, wherein no ‘family taboos’ are existent any longer, and within this ensuring that all types of limitations toward sexuality and how to deal with it is stopped here, as I see and realize the consequences of what happens when sexuality becomes an ‘unspoken secret’ within the relationship we have with our parents/ family, and how this becomes a personal taboo as well the moment that we still unconsciously fear talking about it based on past experiences.

     

    I forgive myself that I accepted and allowed myself for having chosen partners that were deliberately the type of opposite ‘stereotypes’ from the people that I knew my mother wanted me to end up with in a relationship, which became a spiteful pattern that had to be played out in secret, just because of how my mother would disapprove from the partners I had, which was both a negative experience for having to be hiding – a positive experience based on how I would feel like I was finally ‘rebelling’ to the obliged experiences I went through with my mother, without realizing that I was then only acting and making decisions in spitefulness toward my mother and never in fact making an informed decision based on what is best for me to be and do within the consideration with whom it is best for me to establish a relationship with, without holding on the anti-stereotype of ideal partner in order to annoy my mother as I have realized how within wanting to spite my mother = I only ended up spiting myself

     

    When and as I see myself seeking to in any way spite others with the decision I make in relation to my personal relationships, I stop and I breathe – I realize that the only person that I end up spiting is myself when decisions are made as a reaction instead of an actual in detail self-decision to actually design and create a self-agreement with myself and another in order to walk a process of physical support that can in fact stand as the new way of living sexuality and relationships wherein all past and familial taboos are self-forgiven and walked into a physical practical correction wherein I see and realize that all decisions I made, I am responsible for and that anyone else’s input on it can only be taken into consideration in relation to the actual support they represent or not.

     

    I commit myself to walk my own process of self-agreement wherein I see and realize the importance of developing an openness to talk about sexuality with more people, as this is quite a ‘biggie’ point in our ‘human nature’ wherein because of the entire judgments and energetic-experiences attached to sexuality as a physical act, it has become only this image-based type of topic that people can masturbate to or have sex to wherein actual physical relationships are not considered at all, but only turned into these type of energetic-triggers to create yet another addiction that we have enslaved ourselves to, simply because of the same physical separation that we have perpetuated throughout our lives and deemed it as ‘normal,’ because we had in fact never understood how the mind works, how we developed a relationship of abuse toward ourselves and others the moment that we began regarding only sex and sexuality as an energetic experience toward an image, an idea or the idea and belief of another being in our minds that we could use a fuel to our own libido, wherein the actual physical experience was never considered in reality.

     

    I commit myself to share myself and my experiences, so that parents and to-be parents can consider how vital the relationship of communication they have with their children actually is, and how it is a decisive factor that can create either a point of openness or repression within another being, wherein the sexual drive a.k.a. libido can be understood and properly given direction as an actual natural expression that must be developed by each being individually with and toward their own body, ensuring that such relationship is kept within the bounds of physicality and not turning it into a mind-drive for energetic experiences that later on vandalize an actual physical experience into a lucrative image-based drive for quick energetic fixes that in no way consider an actual physical relationship or agreement with oneself and/or another to actually walk a process of understanding the actual potential we have to develop this point of self expression in and as the physical with ourselves and/or another being when establishing ourselves as one and equal as our physical body.

    I see and realize the importance of developing proper communication with ourselves as our physical body and with others in relation to sexuality, as this is the way wherein we can actually support ourselves to stop any form of limitation that ensues further ‘backdoors’ of abuse with absolutely detrimental consequences to ourselves as society, which is how we can only be controlled by images that are plentiful in our every day living as ‘advertisement’ becoming just another ‘match’ to light up for a moment to get a certain satisfaction, never ever considering the actual physical relationships that must be established in order to ensure that physical-sex is lived and understood and actually integrated as part of the new sexual expression that will step forth as an outflow of our own process of self equality and oneness.

     

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