587. Adapting to the New instead of Wallowing in the Old

Or walking through an experience of ‘standing up’ in my dream and not going into past patterns upon seeing familiar ‘triggering points’ to do the opposite before.

 

I had a dream about moving to a new city to live with my partner and essentially finding myself in a completely new environment where things didn’t quite turn out ‘as I had expected’ initially, which means that the creation of expectations was the comparison point that I used to define that ‘the way things turned out’ was not satisfactorily or how I had ‘painted’ it in my mind. Even more so what became evident is how I had idealized the relationship with my partner and that once that we were in that moment of ‘settling it’, nothing was as I imagined it to be. I’d perceive him as being rather detached/distant, offish, lackadaisical, moody, not really wanting to go out once that we had arrived to our destination and in that it was interesting that even if the environment, situation and things weren’t as ‘I had imagined them to be’ I still decided to then be the one that would go out on my own and start meeting up with people, where I made that decision to move and ‘find my way’ in it, instead of what I probably would have done before which is to wallow and go into a similar ‘state of mind’ as I would see my partner do, which is something that resembles more of previous relationships I’ve been in and how yes, there has been people in my life that would definitely act this way and I would allowed myself to be also discouraged, to also go into a ‘depressed’ mode, but not anymore. However I’ll walk through how I made that change within me. 

 

Upon noticing how things would really be like in that situation, there was an initial ‘disillusionment’ in it as well upon seeing reality for what it was and not through the eyes of my ‘dreams’ or ideals and expectations, which I can identify as a ‘grounding’ moment as well to not build or create any expectations or idealize potential outcomes or future situations, but rather be able to work with ‘what’s here’ in the moment, which applies to anything in my life, to build and create something in the moment rather than future projecting, planning, idealizing something ‘too much’ out there in a distant future and this is how through the dream I became aware of my participation in this in a ‘background’ manner to bring it to the front and be more directive in relation to it.

 

As I was walking through or ‘processing’ what was my new reality arriving to live in a new country, with new people, I made a decision to not wallow into an experience of disappointment or disillusionment but instead, I made a decision to not give into a depression or plain ‘down’ experience and instead decide to literally go out and start creating my way, starting to talk to people that in my dream were ‘familiar’ ones actually which seems uncanny in a ‘new city’ but I get the gist of it as in ‘leading my way through it’, which then got me back to seeing how I decide how I experience myself in any circumstance, I define who I am in it – and within this not seeing places or people as limitations, but rather see through the eyes of opportunities as new environments, new ways, new challenges to adapt into, to overcome, to find my way through and so live adaptability and flexibility.

 

I also see it as something where once that one gives a certain step into this kind of life changes, such as moving to another place to live and start ‘a new life’ there, no matter what the inconveniences are such as ‘hot weather’ or ‘foreign language’ or ‘the people around me not acting the way I expected’ to realize that it’s still entirely up to me who I decide to be in it, which is what I did in the dream.

 

For example, I first have to decide who I would like to be in such situations, instead of going into my mind to see it all as a ‘mistake’ and going into some kind of ‘backing off’ from my decision, which I was slightly doing initially in my dream which felt like a ‘sinking’ or ‘wallowing’ physical experience – yes in the dream – until I decided to take the steps to literally ‘put myself out there’ as it’s said and that changed my whole experience in the moment, from that ‘sinking’ experience or even ‘depressive’ experience or ‘missing’ experience to ‘I decide to create how I live and what I’d like to create in this moment’ and ending up seeing myself enjoying the company of more people that I’d get to connect with there.

 

Here opening up a bit more about expectations which I’ve tested out and realized in my life are usually a certain road that leads to disappointment, disillusionment and most probably a belief that ‘nothing is as good as it seemed’ because we tend to create ‘ideal conditions’ in our minds based on how we would ‘like’ things to be, on our limited preferences and one thing we know about reality is that life is never what we want it to be and that’s how it definitely should be from my perspective, otherwise, how else would we learn to grow, expand and adapt ourselves, to get ‘new bits’ of ourselves created within the purpose of expanding our lives within and without of ourselves?

 

I also saw how creating expectations is linked to a desire for control which is also one of those ‘biggie’ points that I’ve been walking through in my life, and so making peace with the reality fact that we can’t really know how anything will in be for certain until we are living it here, in the moment. We can’t ever really have control over ‘how things are going to be,’ we cannot control at all the conditions, outflows, potentials and variables in any point of our lives, we can only control and direct and so change ourselves in it.

 

So to me the word that I’ve been looking at is the capacity to Adapt to the circumstances, to be flexible and enjoy myself in doing so, where instead of going into a ‘closing off’ within me upon seeing certain ‘hurdles’ on the road, I decide to push through and decide to see things from the starting point of potentials to develop, to see it as a challenge as well and not at all participating in the idea of ‘going back’ to my comfort zone, but instead walk through the perceived ‘unexpected’ experience and eventually see that as with any change, sure there’s an initial ‘settling time,’ there’s a moment to adjust, there are challenges, changes which is all part of getting out of one’s comfort zone, which is precisely where I want to be in my life really. Ultimately that’s definitely what makes one grow and expand as a person and with those around oneself as well, like in my case of the dream to now allow me and my experienced to be defined by the one that my partner in that moment was going through, but be a living example of creating the experience that I wanted to create in that moment, of course not just for the sake of ‘experience’ but in consideration of what I was there to do as a purpose I am creating for myself, which is very much linked to connecting with more people.

 

So, it was cool for me to not go into this ‘sinking’ experience as I would usually go into when having my expectations not ‘meet reality’ and instead embrace reality as is, no mind-preferences attached.

 

I have to be quite devoid of expectations towards my life wherein yes, I can have a distinctive direction and decision on what I’m about to live and do, but I am aware I cannot control all factors or have things be like this ‘perfect dream’ in my mind, but instead be open and flexible in whatever I decide to create and participate in, be willing and ready to take on ‘whatever comes’ and more importantly to trust myself in that no matter ‘what’ goes around or where I am: I am here, I can expand, I can adapt, I can learn, I can grow and if all things eventually don’t lead to the outcome that is best for myself and others, to again not be afraid to take a different road and walk through it from the start. 

 

Because that’s ultimately what was also an underlying experience in the dream, like ‘what if this was a mistake?’ ‘what If I made a wrong decision?’ and in existing within that fear of making mistakes, I’ve limited myself a lot before within fearing to make a different decision, to change my situation because of fearing failure ultimately or ‘things not working out,’ but I’ve been learning a thing or two about this as well in my life recently and having the guts to make radical changes and learn what it means to start anew, therefore I’m clear on that as well.

 

Ok so that’s a simple example of how yes, dreams to me at times become a very clear way to ‘walk through’ something that exists at deeper levels within me or that I have been participating in without fully opening it up and because it comes up in such a clear manner, it definitely prompts me to not avoid it, but look at it and rather see it as a gift to not ‘leave the points aside’ and take them on to see ‘who am I’ in relation to what I went through in the dream and utilize them as a cross reference, like in this case it was a way to verify that I am integrating this self-change in all aspects of myself – awake and asleep – which is cool.

 

I also see that whatever I projected onto the environment or the people in it don’t define ‘them’ but define me and aspects of myself that I’ve lived in my own life before or that or previous partnership situations where I have in fact allowed myself to ‘settle in’ with people that would not want to support themselves, and so in a way feeling restricted because of having to ‘be’ with someone that required a lot more time to eventually get to a point – if any – of self-support.

 

So I can only look back at myself whenever I see that I am existing as such detachment, coldness, aloofness or ‘offish’ experience to snap myself out of it. Doesn’t really happen to me lately, I can honestly say that, but I have surely existed as this before in my life and as with anything, we see in others what exists within ourselves, either in an active or passive manner so again, it’s up to me to also see who I would decide to be towards someone that I am perceiving is ‘subsumed’ in such experience and what I would decide to do in order to assist them in such situations, which in that case I decided to be an example of not going ‘into an experience’ but go out there and live out what I decided to do there.

 

Check out these awesome audios that touch upon a similar situation in someone’s life and how they ‘picked themselves up’ from it.

• The Moment of Change (Part 1) – Back to Basics

• The Moment of Change (Part 2) – Back to Basics

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Eugenics is Best for All Life in Equality

“Eugenics is the self-direction of human evolution”: Like a tree, Eugenics draws its materials from many sources and organizes them into an harmonious entity”

Eu = good/ well/ true and the suffix -genēs =born,  origin.

Galton – the scientist that coined such concept – defined eugenics as “the study of all agencies under human control which can improve or impair the racial quality of future generations.”

Within the research on this topic I find that eugenics is expedient  in terms of it being something convenient and practical although possibly ‘improper’ or ‘immoral.’ This is where science and its aim to support the creation of a better life – in this case at a genetic level – has confronted the moral, ethical and religious aspects that consider eugenics as ‘human right violations’ – as if such human rights had ever existed/ taken into consideration in the first place.

There is an entire set of prejudices based on this being  ‘selective’ as in discriminating, racist and/or elitist – yet not taking into consideration the practical aspects of what would actually mean generating human beings that are well suited to live

The point that is often debated upon is identifying and creating a consensus on what can be defined as ‘defects’ which may still lie within the current morals of a society that wants to keep its feet around cultural values, heritage and any form of racial pride.

Because the ‘choice’ on ‘what is a defect and what’s not’ is the problem, we remove – a.k.a. deprogram through common sense – the values given to culture, racial or hereditary traits and focus on seeing what will be the best for a human being to live with a well equipped functional human physical body.

We already have the ability to step on this scientific aspects of our creation – yet it is most likely held secret due to the controversy around it for ages throughout human history.

Therefore, Science should not mix with morals and ethics – there is only one moral and ethical approach: What’s best for ALL

How to make it acceptable as the way to go for humanity?

Through deprogramming any assigned values to our current culture or race or any type of consideration that is more linked to the creation of such cultures/ races as separation of course, seeking supremacy and/or subjugating those that are ‘less fit’ which is one of the aspects that are currently being used by people in power to ensure that unsuitable DNA-mixing is propagated which will create less-fit human beings.

Within this we go to the point of natural selection wherein the survival of the fittest is the law of prevalence of living beings in this earthly context. This is existent not only at a physical level but to the extent of keeping bloodlines in tact for the purpose of preserving power and control within certain societies.

Positive and negative eugenics aim at the reproduction among the genetically advantages and  lowering the fertility among the genetically disadvantage – all of this has been linked to Nazism and Socialism as well as Social Darwinism in the past, we are here to redefine it as common sense and equal life eugenics.

Plato was the one that initially promoted that human reproduction should be controlled/monitored by the state, as well as the creation of beings with compatible DNA that would enhance the qualities of a human being. Yet the overall best for all point was also missed and failed to aim at a general well beingness, remaining then as another form of seeking for supremacist ideals.

Pros and Cons?

What could be ‘reduced’ in terms of being able to modify/ control the creation of a new being? Illnesses, genetic disorders that cause certain emotional/ feeling patterns that have been transmitted through the DNA itself as well as  The question is:

Is it possible to create such a tabula rasa for people on Earth? It would be playing ‘god’ certainly, though a god that will no longer have fucked up creations such as malformation and diseases that are virtually incurable yet hampering beings for their entire ‘lifetime’.

We are aware the the idea of ‘playing god’ is quite ingrained within human beings – here I place a perspective on this point:

“Every single human being is in fact doing so / living so “playing god” – can be seen in our direct-interaction with nature/world/animal-kingdom as though we have “control” over ourselves/ our lives / existence – when it’s in fact been the system/money. So – any person that ‘frowns upon’ that statement – actually doing it themselves already”-

Sunette Spies

If we take this into action, it would  not be within the context of creating a ‘superior’ being above ‘others,’ but as an overall self- perfecting process to create an integral being at a physical and mental level. This could drop some jaws initially,  but it is in essence how we can make sure that human beings can prevail, only through becoming literal reliable beings that is well suited to live in this world and act according to the rules that the the world has placed and NOT the other way around.

Dysgenics (also known as cacogenics) is the study of factors producing the accumulation and perpetuation of defective or disadvantageous genes and traits in offspring of a particular population or species.

The ‘cons’ are more linked to personal prejudices and freechoice beliefs around our ability to co-create fellow living beings.

People have tagged eugenics as violating ‘human rights’ – as if there were ANY that are being supported currently –  because it classified people according to certain dysfunctions – ludicrous since we classify, tag and often denigrate ourselves through such names and classifications mostly linked to money and racial connotations in this specific case. Some are clearly the result of an unequal world such as the categorized ‘poor’ or ‘developmentally disabled’ which can be a cause of simply not having access to proper education.

Being blind, deaf, mentally ill, down syndrome and having any other congenital severe disorder that tampers the ability to live here are aspects that we would not want to live in/as placing ourselves in the shoes of someone that experiences such conditions for life. Therefore if we see the common sense of preventing its propagation and actual correction then why not supporting eugenics? It’s a definitive crime to allow beings to come into this world with such caps to actually live.

The fact that eugenics is usually satanized through linking it with other ‘evil avatars’ such as Hitler is an example of how indoctrinated we are to not see the common sense that eugenics proposes. The general belief that eugenics is ‘bad’ is just that, nothing else but a belief where actual DNA degradation is disregarded and not informed on the detrimental consequences that this process propitiates.

What’s Best for ALL is crystal clear

Just picture this, what is ‘more evil:’ allowing a mentally ill man to rape a woman and bring a child that is the product of a mentally- driven act of rape/ abuse on to another or cap his seminal tubes for life to be mentally-ill free? I vote for the second one.

Advocating this point can lead us once again to a known-link which is Hitler. The sterilization of ‘defectives’ was in his book Mein Kampf and as such it was regarded as ‘evil.’ – I have no problem at all with that either

I am a firm supporter of that which will ensure that no abuse is ever allowed again to bring kids into this world that will have no quality living due to being kept alive for the sake of any moral or ethical value attached to a ‘life’ that has no ability to ‘live’ in self-sufficient manners.  I have no preference but supporting that which is best for all, above all personal regard to it which is basically non existent on this topic as common sense is clear enough.

Andrew Gable said on this point:  spreading your seed that is genetically misinformed about reality is a crime against humanity and a statement that one is not for what is best for all

If we look at what’s best for all, the only reason that we would prevent a suitable creation of a human being at a genomic level would be having a particular sentimentalism or preferences for certain races linked to cultures/ languages, all programs that were deliberately created to have the current inequality we have. This does not consider the creation of a suitable being to live and develop in this reality, it’s only considering the satisfaction of emotional values attached to the point of ‘creation,’ among the rest of social prejudices  that ensure you acceptance and recognition as ‘fulfilled or established’ within the system once that another being is brought into this world by the effect of such seeds.

Allowing the freechoice exerted through random matches without considering the actual offspring of such DNA mix is in fact a crime against life as physical-genomic compatibility is not taken into consideration.

“Within an Equality system, the mixing of DNA will have far less polluting effects as we will manage the consequence and correct it–only where the effect will be physically limiting or mentally limiting will we intervene” –Bernard Poolman

To conclude – we have to educate ourselves first to step out of the usual prejudices propagated by our so-called current education and media – which is the second school – and establish common sense as the measuring points for everything that is here. This implies becoming aware of the entire process that implies bringing another life into this world, not only at a physical level but at an overall mind and body entity that will contain the points carried out by the progenitors. We’ll be able to work with the consequences as long as there are proper corrections.

In the future this point will be part of the consideration of even thinking about bringing another living being into this world, wherein the single decision to procreate will entail a series of decisions beginning with the aspect  of partnerships that will be physically compatible, as well as standing within the general basic equal agreement, education/ understanding and self commitment to take care of another living being for a lifetime.

Join us at Desteni where we are definitely bringing to the surface the most common sensical aspects that are already here, that are being only tampered by social prejudices yet entail what is best for all, which is usually being neglected or deliberately corrupted by those that control/ manipulate the information to keep humanity in an inferiority complex that is  able to be corrected for the general well being of life in this world.