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634. #EqafeDiscovery: The Fabrication of Interpretation

I recommend listening to the audio Interpretation – Quantum Systemization – Part 120 to gather a new perspective on why we can fall into a common situation which is that of interpreting someone’s words and actions as something that we take personal and so, triggers reactions within us, as if they were meant to tell us something about ourselves that we believe is something negative about us or as if they were ‘covert ways’ tell us something that we judge about ourselves. However we usually stop at that point of interpreting things in a certain way, we react in an emotional way and then: we don’t look any further. This audio explains why it is essential to take one step further to see how to take the point back to self, which means, how to support ourselves to prevent taking things to the level of reacting and instead seeing what one can learn or take from such points like interpreting someone’s words and behaviors to look back at ourselves and work with our reactions.

Something that I’ve noticed is how if I have an unclear stance and relationship to something or someone, I will be prone to take their words, actions or inactions as a sign of something that may relate to me or is ‘surreptitiously’ aimed to ‘get me’ in one way or another. Some other times this kind of assumption happens in one single moment where even interpreting someone’s gestures or the sound of their voice could be interpreted as ‘aimed’ to create certain experience in me. This exists in the realm of assuming things and in my case, this has been a big point that relates to over analyzing, which is also nicely explained in another Life Review at Eqafe here: Twisting Memories – Life Review.

Both of these audios hit the nail in the head on a certain way of being that I’ve noticed exists within me. Ultimately, it has to do with almost a kind of paranoiac attitude that emerges with listening, watching or interacting with certain people that I believe are having an ‘off’ stance towards me. This kind of starting point towards anyone creates a hyper-vigilance wherein every single word is listened to, read or gestures and body language seen with utmost care, already wanting to ‘frame’ such words or attitudes within a certain mindset of interpreting something as having the intent of causing ‘something’ within me.

I consider that this is one of the most common ways in which I tend to take things personally and within that, I become a defensive mindset that creates a certain experience of  being attacked, being threatened in one way or another. Of course this is me reacting to what I think, believe or perceive is relating to me in one way or another – yet I have no proof of such in fact.

So what actually goes on is I take the words personally, I relate those words or actions or attitudes as ‘aiming to tell me something’ and in one single moment I can become almost ‘possessed’ by this conclusion made in my head and create a general stance towards certain person or situation in general where I then believe I have been offended or have to ‘defend’ myself’ or go into a ‘low’ experience because of it – any form of emotional reaction that prevents me, or veils me from focusing where I actually should, which is the starting and origin point of it all: myself.

Part of the points shown in this audio at Eqafe about interpretation is that whenever we shield ourselves from certain information by reacting to it, it means we are evading to actually see something about ourselves that we are not wanting to admit or fear to see about ourselves. And this is precisely how because we fear admitting certain things about ourselves, it becomes easier to fight back, judge back, attack back.

Upon listening to it, a moment came up within me where I was on the other end of having my words being interpreted in an attacking mode. Looking back and getting feedback from those that I shared this moment with, it might have been that my stance was too ‘direct’ and having no ‘gentle’ approach, might have been interpreted as an attack or defensive question that was taken as almost an insult by the other person. The result? I definitely felt ‘shut down’ by the people involved in the conversation, because people reacted to a question I posed and so essentially I was categorically told to shut up.

My intent behind the question was to create an awareness of a point of self-responsibility in someone’s life. The immediate response was that I was attacking the person and victimizing them… I could not even understand what was meant by that, but the stance, the voice tonality and general attitude was showing me ‘you better not ask that type of questions’ kind of approach – ‘or you can cause more problems.’

I am aware of what my starting point was, it was to create an opening within someone, to recognize their co-creation and shared responsibility in certain situation. However this audio about interpretation enabled me to ‘join the dots’ so to speak and realize that this was in fact about the person fearing to acknowledge their responsibility, and so immediately deciding to attack back in a way of saying ‘can’t speak/ don’t go there/ shut up’ type of response.

This assists me to let go of the energetic charge I have created about that one moment within me, because I can now realize that it wasn’t personal or directed ‘at me’ but it was more like an immediate defense mechanism, a way to prevent themselves to investigate and get to a point of self-honesty, to get to see where and how they were also co-creators of a certain situation that they were merely wanting to blame other people for. My solution? I simply offered support whenever needed to open things up, to communicate more about it.  

Then I’ve also been the interpreting one where I can even notice an energetic charge or experience as I read someone’s words, already trying to ‘pick things up’ and ‘frame them’ in this interpretation of ‘it having to do with me’, or ‘being directed at me’ in a disguised way. The way to clear it up? To see what are the fears that I can be carrying around in relation to having something said about me that I may be fearing to face or admit about myself, and so if I in fact don’t like this about me, then what a better way to notice it and change such thing about myself.

The thing that I consider we miss out very often is how we are the only ones that can take and make things personal, so if we have ‘issues’ in the sense of not having a clear and direct relationship with ourselves and making sure we are standing clear within ourselves and so in relation to everyone else that we relate to, we may be prone to be ‘picking up’ meanings  and ‘reading in between lines’ when it comes to certain things, people or situations – all fear based, fearing to see or getting to admit something about ourselves, and perhaps not really wanting to do something about it, which is the self-dishonesty point that is opened up in front of us with such ‘interpretation’ moments.

Another dimension or related aspect to this is when I can actually be the one that is ‘implying’ certain things as I speak or communicate something and within that, already having a ‘second intention’ with my words so that they get to be read or interpreted in a certain way that is not explicit or literal. This is more of a veiled dimension of having a ‘hidden agenda’ and not being direct or explicit about things, but wanting to say so in a covert way, which is ultimately a point of deception for myself that I have to clarify myself about.

Sometimes it is about spite, sometimes it is about wanting to create an awareness about something directed with a particular purpose that is not what’s best for all. All forms of covert, hidden agendas or ‘disguised’ form of communication becomes another aspect of self-deception, which is not even really about the receptors of my message or how they will be understood, but about who I am in it, my starting point within writing or speaking or communicating something in whichever language form. And that’s generally what self-honesty is about, to know where I stand and my starting point in doing, saying something. So I share these details about the ‘fabrication’ of interpretation, which is really a convoluted way to say things that perhaps one can gather sufficient confidence and courage to say things in a straightforward manner, which I see I can totally align myself with, I just require to first clear myself from any ‘hold ups’ in relation to memories.

Therefore the solution resides within me, to walk a preventive process if I notice that I am having an ‘off’ stance towards something or someone and that means, having reactions towards things or situations or people that I find are “making me feel uncomfortable” or “not having an easy time’ around”… that already indicates there’s stuff within me that I need to look at and write out, because it’s never about ‘the others’ but all about myself. In essence, I can only create certain ‘off’ experience – negative experience – about something or someone if I have certain ‘issues’ towards it, such as judgments, ideas, beliefs, perceptions, memories that I am carrying around relating to such people or situations and that prevents me from being ‘clear’ within me when meeting them, being around them or talking to them or even just reading their words.

Then, if the bullet is already shot once that we already go into interpreting someone’s words or actions as if it was directed at us or taking things personal, the process is the same though now with having a direct feedback of which words, which actions, which body language or the lack thereof got us to be ‘triggered’ as in ‘got us to react’ in one way or another believing that ‘it was aimed at us’ or ‘it was meant to make us feel this/that’ – and so it becomes easier to have the exact words, the exact gestures, the exact tonality that we reacted to, so in this case, interpreting and reacting becomes also a gift to know where to ‘tackle’ our own programming

This right here is a priceless life-hack, to be able to see ourselves as the starting point or origin point of any experience, it enables us to stop seeing a situation, people or even certain body movements or! Even voice tonalities as having ‘power’ over us to the point of affecting ourselves, it’s always about who we are and how we decide to respond to any words, voice tonalities, body language etc.

To me this is very valuable support because of my tendency to over analyze and go picking up things from memories and such, which is also explained how to go through that in the second audio I recommended above. All in all, one always gets to see more than what the ‘eye’ can see in any given situation, it assists to create a completion of a picture that at times, we only carry around with an emotional experience as ‘unresolved issues.’ Well, there’s no longer an excuse to do so. I gotta do my homework now J

 

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