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615. Breaking Through Self Definitions


There was a recent interview on Eqafe that assisted me a lot to see beyond my current limited view on things as I’ve been leading them in my life and it has to do with pushing through the limitations of who I define myself to be and in that, realizing how much of the confusion, fears and doubts about myself and my life decisions have their roots and source in having an idea of myself, of who and what I’m supposed to be at my eyes and consequently at what I project to be the eyes of others.

In this I also realized how much of an ‘ideal’ idea of myself I’ve held within my head where I’ve held myself and my life in this crystal clear box of perfection, where everything always seems right, timely and somehow optimal in my life. Yet, this time things went the other way around – or I broke-through that crystal box I had kept myself in. I found myself rooting all of that out and going for the unexpected, the ‘not so me’ type of decisions that I surely feared taking on yet experimented a lot of inner conflict about it all, because of how I saw all of that as being out of character, not ‘me,’ and certainly not matching the idea or definition I’ve held of myself all the way.

I broke the pattern in which I am used to carrying things forward, and in that I caused disappointment within myself and others and that became a hard thing to swallow and admit to myself, almost like not wanting to admit that I could be wrong, that I could make mistakes, that I could give a 180 degree turn to what I thought I should be and do and that certainly became a source of personal dissatisfaction, because I could not comprehend that I could be doing things ‘all wrong’ according to me, which I only defined as such because of holding this perfect, good, always-right idea about myself.

Now, why is this so much of a source of suffering, instability, indecision, shame or guilt? Because of judging myself about it all, because of wanting to hold on to an idea of how I thought things ‘should be’, how I was supposed to deal with it and do ‘the right thing.’ However, I’ve been realizing how this is also a form of control, wanting to keep myself aligned within a particular set of parameters of ‘how I am supposed to be’ and because I certainly started deviating of that, it all became a great source of reactions that led me to feel too lost in them, it was certainly hard to see a way through because of not being able to comprehend why I was doing things in a way that didn’t represent ‘the best of me’ – or so I thought – and in that creating an inner split about what is right, what is wrong, where I should be, what I am supposed to do and be.

In this I had to confront reality as is. This has not been easy, but I see it as a way to face one of my greatest fears at the same time which I didn’t even realize was there, which has to do with holding myself in this positive idea of being an immaculate, infallible version of myself that I tried to hold on to, only to realize I was going to step out of that track and do just about the opposite of that and eat it whole.

This is why it all became a source of worry, distress and suffering, because I had to face other aspects of me that I had not been aware of existed within me, yet they were totally there as myself. So that’s how holding myself within a particular light, holding on to a very finite idea of myself – how I am, why I am, who I am – became a reason for me to feel that I was screwing myself up all the way, because it didn’t match the idea that I’ve held and ‘known’ about myself, or the idea that I’ve wanted to present about myself towards everyone else.

This point is also another one that became a source of distress, the thought of what everyone else will say, think and consider about me based on my actions and decisions. Well, now I can say that the only way to walk through that is to realize that I am the only one living my life and owning my decisions. Of course we always do affect others with our actions and decisions, and yes it is my responsibility to also take care of that, but at the same time I cannot prevent harm, pain, suffering to others based on my decisions and that’s something that’s hard to swallow and work with, but it is also part of being alive in this world. We cannot always avoid pain and suffering, we can only learn how to understand the experience, write it out, self-forgive it and walk the healing process with time and a new direction to our lives.

Another fuckup is to try and see things black or white through the eyes of morality: “Did I do the right thing? Was I wrong?” That definitely doesn’t help a bit, at all. All that’s left is choices, decisions and walking through either or path and taking responsibility for whichever one I decide to walk through.

We discussed this subject in our group chat yesterday called Self Definition and Breaking Through Limitations, where many more share their own experiences and supportive realizations when facing similar situations in life, and it became a great source of reminders and support to see how we blow things out of proportion in these crossroads of our lives, and how we do have to take a plunge into the unknown and trust ourselves in being able to walk through the point, no matter what it is.

What would I have done differently? I wasn’t willing to admit certain things to myself because it would mean breaking a point of personal control, of certain idea of stability and definition of what is the right thing for me to do. I had to break through the pattern of who I thought I had to be and what I thought I had to be and do, therefore, it took time for me to actually admit it, let go and direct the necessary points to embrace my decisions. And this is something I cannot hold against myself either, it is part of those more difficult things in life that sometimes we cannot face in any ‘better’ way.

So here I am seeing I’m trying to justify myself and it’s not needed either, I can only say that not beating myself up for it is the most supportive thing I can do as well as stopping playing out possible scenarios of ‘what could have been’ in my head or what I could have done differently. I realize that I have such tendency and it literally leads nowhere, not being here and living my reality and decisions, nor living in such other alternate path, because it’s only happening in my head, so that’s something to transform into embracing my reality and doing the best I can to own my reality, while accepting that there’s no ‘set path’ for me, there’s no one ‘right’ way to things either. I can only trust myself on it all in my capacity to understand my choices, take responsibility for them and keep walking within self trust because that’s ultimately the only certainty I can have: I have myself, my capacities, my skills, my ability to stand through things and not judge myself from it, but learn from it and set a direction forward.

It’s easier said than done, but this is a decent foundation for it and another point is to not get caught in ideas of where I should start sharing about it or how much of a solution I am sharing this time around, because there are only guidelines that I have set myself to walk through it and the rest will be unfolding as it is lived out.

The relevant thing for me here is to share how important it is to identify the source of the conflict as a finite, limited, controlled idea of ‘who I am’ or ‘who I am supposed to be and do’ and be willing to break through that all the way, to step into the ‘unknown’ or out of the pattern and realize that even if it comes with some pains and distress, we can still make it through to the other side and realize: it wasn’t as bad as I thought, I got myself and I got my will to keep at it.

 I recommend the following audios which assisted me a lot to precisely nail down this topic to what I just opened up about and shared here, and they are a great reminder of how we tend to narrow our view to a few things in our lives instead of reminding ourselves to see the greater picture. I also want to thank everyone that continually walks this process with Desteni, because without each other, it would certainly be most difficult to face things our lives in a supportive way.




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614. Understanding Mistakes


I want to share how I’ve redefined my relationship to ‘making a mistake’ which I have shared before in terms of how it’s relevant to not judge myself for it or go into a guilt trip and so forth. But here I’m focusing more on realizing that there are mistakes that I see I have created in a rather conscious and ‘aware’ of myself level where I believe that all that there is to the mistake is being taken over by an experience and acting on it without a thought, causing consequences for myself and affecting others as well, while knowing that I would have to deal with the consequences, that I would have to confront others with regards to it and even if being fully aware of it all, I did it anyways.

So, to me it became a bit of a mystery as to why I was doing it with ‘full awareness’ apparently yet I didn’t stop myself. I looked at the aspect of being taken over by an energetic experience and being so caught up in it that I could not stop myself, which is an aspect of it. But I knew that it wasn’t just something that happened in a moment of being caught without awareness or anything like that. This was something I was deliberately concocting for some time that developed into a situation where it became obvious that I had to dig deeper within myself to look at what is it that I was exactly missing out of myself that I had led me to create this moment of consequence.

This is where the support of a second person is indispensable when it comes to assisting me to understand my experience, because I would not have been able to do that at all if it wasn’t for people walking the Desteni I Process as well and having walked through similar situations being able to relay back their own experience and realizations upon having faced similar circumstances, and this point of support opened up a whole aspect that I had not seen before as the reason, cause and origin of that which led me to create this mistake.

And this is why I more so than ever believe that we sure cannot do this process alone, we do need the support of others to assist us to see other aspects that we have maybe just ‘swiped through’ in our days and not really looked directly and with intent on it to investigate what could be the origin and cause of an instability within that becomes a source of consequences for myself and others without.

Through this, I was able to see how I had suppressed certain things within me that I didn’t address appropriately with myself, that I knew were bothering me or causing an experience of lack which led me to then develop a way to ‘fulfill’ certain aspect of myself through an external way, without questioning what is it that’s leading me to want to fulfill something in a non supportive manner.

So the point I learned here is to not fall into the victimization or blame and guilt trip when it comes to making mistakes, because that only becomes another comfort zone to not investigate further what is in fact behind the creation of such ‘mistake’ in our lives and how we can change things and take responsibility for it.

My attitude was that of being responsible for it all the way, owning my creation, blaming nothing and no one for it, but I wasn’t seeing or admitting to myself all the bits and pieces that eventually accumulated as the reasoning and justifications for me to create such mistake. And that’s where the assistance of another individual within the context of the Desteni Process is essential to see these points, because I would not have been able to move on as accurately as I did if I hadn’t have such reference and support to ask myself more pertinent questions to find what was really the origin and cause of my experience.

That is how I was able to move on to solutions and experiment the creation of an acknowledgment about certain needs, certain aspects of myself that relate to how I want to experience myself, how I want to live my life, admitting that and so being able to focus on creating it within and without. That was also an eye opening process for me to see how things that I was suppressing within me became a form of ‘lack’ that I tried to find ‘out there’ in a rather consequential manner, instead of looking at what is it that I genuinely want to create and live in my life and taking the steps to create it, to do it, to communicate about it, to explore ways to live that in my life.

So this is how my relationship with making mistakes or facing consequences changed from simply feeling bad, guilty, shameful and emotional about it  – which yes, still comes up and yes it is still part of an initial process of realizing what I’ve done and become – but in that also making sure I am moving on to create solutions, to ensure I am taking the bull by the horns which is what I did and so far it’s been a much more fulfilling thing to do than continuing to make the same mistake, which I frankly haven’t looked at throughout my life with such clarity as I do now.

Therefore I wanted to share this because many times we only feel bad about making mistakes, we feel awful and that’s it, we believe we can let it go or ‘ask forgiveness’ and that’s it. But to me besides taking responsibility for myself – which is the process of forgiving myself -and everyone else that was affected by my actions or inactions, to also ensure that I discover what of myself was I suppressing that led me to create such mistake and so now instead of suppressing it, find a way to express it, to live it and so focus my attention and expression on doing just that.

This is also a point linked to facing addictions, which I’ve learned quite a bit about over the years but also been recently supported by and through Matti’s share on the topic here: Day 359: Addictive behaviors as an indicator of suppressed and underdeveloped self expression and here I share some perspectives on the matter as well.

We all have one, no matter how small or big, we might not even question these attitudes and treat them as addictions because we justify them, we see them as something that’s become an inevitable, natural part of ourselves. We only start questioning when shit hits the fan and we see ourselves in a moment or experience that we believe we were in control of and suddenly realize that we cannot really stop it or prevent ourselves from seeking more of it. That’s where I realize I have to in fact define a behavioral pattern as an addiction and as such, I have to understand and investigate who I am behind it.

One of the constant struggles with addiction is that we tend to place it as a very black and white process of having to ‘give up’ a part of ourselves like having to give up a certain thrill, excitement, buzz or any energetic experience that we are getting through our addictive behavioral pattern and that we have to simply cut it off and be left ‘without it.’ This is part of it sure, there is such decision to give it up upon realizing the consequences, the self that one is creating and recreating through acting these cravings for any experience out.

However there’s also something else that is opened up through identifying and understanding an addiction, and that is the redefinition, recreation and self-determination process that emerges when firmly deciding to change an aspect of ourselves for once and for all. And yes, to begin with, it will most likely involve no energy high or thrill, but certainly a new expression of ourselves can come through when deciding to redirect our effort, our diligence and commitment to ‘get the fix’ so to speak and instead put all of that into creating something that becomes supportive of our expression instead and that’s precisely the process of redefining ourselves from living out our minds to living life, to deciding to do something that is supportive instead.

In my case, my process of aligning myself once that I understood the creative process behind ‘the mistake’, allowed me to move on to solutions that became a much more liberating, fulfilling and enjoyable process than what I thought my ‘outlet’ or ‘fix’ was for a moment as the ‘alternative route’ for me to deal with certain aspects that I wasn’t admitting to myself. So, I’m quite grateful as well for the support all around from people that have walked through addictions and have redirected their expression to precisely express and create themselves in a supportive manner, because sometimes we take the quick way out to get a fix, believing it is a liberating experience but it is not, the only real liberation process comes through understanding what is it that we want to truly live, express and fulfill or satisfy within ourselves and what can we do to create that in a supportive manner.

To me it also became relevant to remind myself of how I can affect others at the same time, so as to not be so self-centered when it comes to focusing on getting ‘what I want’ and in that, affect others by doing so, but instead regard doing onto others as I’d like to be done onto. But at the same time, I’ve realized how there are things that I might have only been able to see once that the consequence was created, and that might be so for certain things that we create in our lives, it’s not the suggested or preferred way, but also to not vilify or beat myself for it – but rather understanding and why not embracing mistakes as part of getting to know an aspect of me that I was hiding from myself and that it was only through consequence that I was able to open it up and see it with clarity to acknowledge it and admit that there is a point where I abdicated my responsibility to self creation and so that becomes the way to sort things out at the same time.

Of course, what’s done is done and there’s no going back, but these situations remain a constant reminder with a sufficient impact on us to make sure we don’t make the same mistakes again and rather now apply the process of immediately getting to ask myself deeper questions to see what is it that this ‘mistake’ is reflecting about myself ,my life, my self-creation, my experience, and that becomes a much more supportive way to approach mistakes in general, to see it within a context of who I am in my past, present and future rather than just a ‘momentary loss of awareness’ or anything like that because to me that doesn’t really exist. We are all quite aware of everything we do, but that’s also a point of self-honesty to admit and acknowledge.

That’s another aspect to consider here how to move through mistakes, through addictive patterns or behaviors in a supportive way as a real recreation process, so that it’s not just avoiding the mistake or creating a sense of ‘quitting’ or ‘withdrawing’ from something, it’s a process of redefining our relationship to whatever we have defined as our addiction, our mistake, our ‘point of falling’ of any kind, because I’m sure we all face these in one way or another.

So, follow through and also share your perspectives on the Desteni Forum about it, so that more people can understand the relationship to these patterns that can wreak havoc in our lives if not addressed and understood properly.


If anything I am rather thankful for this mistake opening up in my reality so that I could address a very relevant aspect of self-creation, so as much as it can be hellish and yes consequential, if taken as an opportunity to address the problems, the suppressions, the ‘lacks’ then it becomes a real source of awareness to fulfill and satisfy ourselves in a supportive manner, which again it is part of creating our lives, of living life and facing ourselves in this process.


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563. From Present Tense to Present-Here and Slowing Down

Or walking through fears that create a physical tension within a new experience

I noticed tension upon having to be learning to drive, it is one of those things where of course I’m not at all used to it therefore the initial fear that comes with it manifests as a form of tension in my body where after some 40 minutes of holding the wheel my hand was quite sore for a moment, which made me realize how tense I was while learning the whole thing in my first day, today after having completed the second day of driving it was already quite less, but I made sure to write the following blog yesterday so that I could become aware of all of these points while having to practice again today.

I’m also learning to embrace these initial fears and have a clear idea on how the only way to transcend these fears that I had created about driving – and the plethora of possible scenarios – are only in my mind and that when one is ‘at the wheel’ all that is here is myself/my body having to follow specific steps that require my focus and attention on every single thing that happens in every moment. What I mean by embracing the initial fears is specifically related to not wanting to deny, suppress or make myself appear ‘stronger’ than this fear that manifests as a tension, otherwise my whole attention would go ‘up there’ in the mind, wanting to ‘fight the fears’ and I would then end up not being fully present in physical reality in the moment when I was having to be paying full attention to the guy giving me the instructions, which actually happened for a few times yesterday and a little bit less today, but still made the same mistakes which I’ll outline here.

I noticed how I wasn’t listening to him at first, but instead I was using ‘tension’ in my body as a form of control, when in fact that only makes it all much harder and physically draining – and even now several hours after such exercise yesterday, I had a mild headache – which is something familiar to me whenever I get too tense about something that I am trying to control through fear, instead of focusing on self-control as in remaining stable, present, calm which translates into more of an ease at a physical level. Today I noticed the tension and deliberately would make the change to hold the wheel in a different manner to be more aware of how my back was doing, practicing stability throughout the whole thing which worked quite well.

There were moments while standing in the red lights or when not having to be coordinating the various steps to drive where I could manage to loosen up a bit, but I interestingly enough found myself sticking out my tongue tip and touching my upper lip, which is something that I would do as a child in fact when having a ‘superior’ as a teacher showing me to do something and where I by default would take that ‘inferior’ position of being ‘the student’ within a certain experience of ‘I can mess up many times and it can be ok’ or diminishing the mistakes with a bit of goofiness, which sure can be done the initial times, but I liked the approach of the teacher on identifying the mistakes so that I could become aware of them and not repeat them.

So what I did was voicing out the corrections, repeating the steps with my own voice because I realized how listening to him was not enough when being doing the steps myself, I would try and control the whole thing with ‘doing things quickly’ which doesn’t really work in this case, and I in fact had to slow down more and be ok with not doing it ‘fast’ right away considering that I am doing this for the first time, lol, there goes ‘Marlen’s exigency’ there with ‘speed’.

In a way this whole episode of learning to drive brought me back to my relationship to learning with or from teachers and how many times I simply would not hear them and ‘do things my own way’ which of course in some contexts might have worked for me, but in this context, the specific instructions and steps to learn this are there for a reason, which is something I fortunately realized early on in the first lesson so that I could in fact pay more attention to what he was saying – nonetheless this initial approach of ‘believing I know’ and then doing it my way of course didn’t result at all, because I then repeated the same mistakes.

Interestingly enough I witnessed a bit of the beginning of the next lesson with another woman and I noticed how she was in fact listening to the instructions and doing things much more slower which was quite apt in this case – whereas I kind of went a bit ahead of myself and due to the fear/tension I got somewhat clumsy in terms of the steps to take, which fortunately enough were only at the beginning and the rest were better, which was the result of the teacher letting me know I wasn’t listening and that I had to listen to get it done right.

It’s kind of funny though because it is so that it reveals a lot about myself and all the times that I have wanted to ‘rebel’ and ‘do things my way’ when it comes to teachers, in a way holding this ingrained belief that they are ‘holding me back’ from doing it some other faster and more accurate way, but! I realized this was not the case and that I was only kind of acting out some of my previous relationships to learning and specifically within the context of ‘teacher-student’ relationship so, it was cool to redefine it in the moment and in fact be able to recognize where I was ‘coming from’ in my initial moves, so that I can then become humble, slow myself down and in fact listen to him, which worked a lot better for both of us of course, as well as continuing voicing the steps for myself too.

I also noticed how any form of judgment created in the moment of doing what can be deemed as the ‘tricky’ or ‘difficult parts’ and repeating these ‘tenseness’ during those specific steps can lead me to eventually create a dislike, resist or create a whole polarity of ‘the good/fun/chilled parts vs. the tense/difficult/bad parts’ of driving, or creating a preference on things where I then start fearing having to ‘do’ certain things, or fearing having to confront certain situations like being on the front line of a row of cars and not being ‘fast enough’ to step on gas and get the car moving or having to get the hang out of going up a slope etc. – I would notice the tendencies to be kind of immediately judging some parts as ‘nice and comfortable’ and others as ‘difficult, tough’ which I had to also in the moment let go of and rather in a way living the word ‘embracing’ as in realizing ‘it’s all part of it’ and so seeing that creating a preference would only become a hindrance and eventual problem for me to earn and imprint within me the driving process in a stable, precise and comfortable manner, with all its parts/aspects involved.

And I have known how upon repeating those same judgments for a long time can eventually lead me to in fact resist doing something, all because of the many times I allowed myself to judge something, to fear something and feed those thoughts every single moment that this same ‘step’ or point would emerge in my reality – so, this time I let go of it and rather decided to practice to get comfortable in doing it.

Yesterday I also noticed how I was breathing more deeply in an attempt to ‘relax’ myself but the fact is that I can see where I can instead prevent creating a build up, a tension that then goes into a ‘loosen up’ and relaxation, which I have created based on the way I had experienced some points within a positive and negative experience; so that’s when I decided to not give into these perceptions and instead, see the physicality of the moves, focus on the steps, the method and taking it as is, devoid of ‘extra adjectives’ or judgments I may create in my head.


Therefore this time today it was much better in terms of my physical body, I don’t feel as tense as I did before after the driving lesson. I was focusing on the street, the car, the wheel, the feet and hands etc. – which for now still came through with a tension at a physical body level, but I did notice that I didn’t allow myself to run amok with fears in my mind, even though I could see my propensity to create them, I simply decided to ‘not go there’ as in ‘into them’ and keep focusing on reality and continuing practicing listening to the teacher.

One day after learning some theory and basics on getting the car going and going straight into the traffic was quite unexpected to me, but I went for it and ‘did my best’ in the ways that I’ve explained here, from changing my relationship to being told exactly what to do and initially sort of reacting to it from the past memories of ‘learning’ from others to actually seeing how it was in fact important to Hear and do things step by step as intended – lol – and slowing down. I also realized my own foolishness of how in wanting to ‘figure it out myself’ I can imprint the whole basics in a clumsy manner, which is not the point here.

I also noticed how I have a lot of memories of an aunt of mine that would pick my cousins and I from school and she usually would drive a manual car. I was at the time very judgmental about her driving, believing it was too clumsy, too slow, too unaware and now in a way I got to place myself in her shoes and so realized as well how sometimes what it takes is literally ‘placing ourselves in their position’ to then understand why it could have been something difficult for her to do and in a way also learn from those mistakes to correct them within me, I had not even realized to what extent her driving skills had created an impact on me to the point where her driving and memories of me driving in the backseat with her were coming up quite frequently while I was at the wheel, fascinating – maybe only a little bit from my sister that also drove a manual, but I got to also realize how these fears about driving a manual would come from what I perceived back then were there many ‘close to crashing’ times I had with my aunt, lol.

Therefore tomorrow I can continue reminding myself to keep an eye on my body, my hands, my legs to see ways to loosen up the ‘ingrained fears’ so that the tension at a physical body can be relieved with practice and developing an eventual comfort with it, which is why for now I can’t judge myself and my tension because it is ‘normal’ in a way at the beginning of learning  to drive, and saw that yes it is something we are not entirely ‘prepared’ for, but we sometimes cannot be; sometimes we can only be ‘as ready as we can ever be’ and take the situation as it comes while knowing that whatever comes, we can take responsibility for it, we can ‘respond’ to it, we can find ways to solve it.

For now I have to practice slowing down, because I have tended to be too ‘considerate’ of others and rush the whole thing because of not wanting to ‘waste the other driver’s time’ which is the reason why in rushing, I’d end up making a mistake and not listen to my teacher, because I was more focused on the one behind me that on my own. Man, I’ve made this same anxiety/consideration towards others even in supermarkets with trolleys, lol so I definitely know this pattern and that means I have to give myself the space to slow the fuck down, seriously. No one started doing things perfectly so, here also the drivers that start honking, I’m sure they also at some point learned to drive and probably have forgotten to be considerate towards newbies like me.

What I’m practically learning is to not judge the mistakes, realize it’s a start, it’s a learning process and rather being careful enough with the outside environment as well as within my physical body, wherein I definitely want to be able to breathe and loosen up a bit every moment that I can.

Interestingly enough what I have noticed however after these three days of lessons is myself slowing down in relation to walking and interacting with cars as a pedestrian. I have explained many times how much I judged drivers and kind of expected ‘them’ to consider ‘me’ but now upon knowing how much there is to be aware of while driving, I am now being the considerate one and developing a lot of patience when crossing the streets, not risking it, not going by ‘impulse’ so again, this ‘placing yourself in the shoes of another’ led me to truly consider the position that people are at behind the wheel and be able to consider them a lot more than I used to, which is cool and safer for me considering that ‘speed’ is quite a tendency for me, so, lol I have to truly slow down, that’s what’s best for all for sure.

Walking through fears in a physical manner is definitely only possible by actually doing it. I’ve done the same with riding a bike which I still don’t do on a regular basis after a massive fall I had some 9 years ago, and the few times I’ve taken a bike were also steps to test myself, to see how I do with riding a bike and sometimes my whole body would go into shaking mode, and the memories of the gruesome situation would come up again, but that’s where ‘moving’ myself to make a change comes in the way of Not participating within those ‘flashbacks’ and simply keeping focused and stable and breathing as a point of physical awareness that brings stability and focus for me.

I am also thankful to fellow Destonians because I’ve been aware of how some have walked through the same fears and read their self-forgiveness on it, where I could see that the way to correct the whole experience is to be present, here, be focused on one’s body, one’s reality and practice, practice, practice, as well as being ready to face whatever challenges may come in self-responsibility.

I share here then some material that can be supportive for others learning to do the same which has been supportive for me, as well as a fresh video that talks about comparison but interestingly enough also sharing a very real situation of ‘learning to do something for the first time’ and the physical process it in fact takes to do so in a comfortable manner.


·         The Design of Powerlessness and Disempowerment – Principled Living Cerise and Joe sharing first hand experiences on fearing driving and how they overcome it.

·         Day 298 – EQAFE Fears and Phobias of car accidents: my experience by Talamon

·         The Trap of Comparison by Sunette


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