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2012 The Arbor: to Self-Forgive and Stop the Sins of the Fathers

I had disregarded the power that movies have to create an impact and awareness about the lives that people around the world are living in. For a moment it is a complete ‘integration’ within human beings’ lives that we tend to only see as ‘fiction,’ however this was not a fictional movie nor was it the type of ‘light experience’ you can actually relax-through.

This evening I watched this documentary/ film The Arbor which I recommend for various reasons. It is just like a movie made out of any of the current Life Reviews that are being published at Desteni, wherein the life of a human being from the afterlife is shared as a story-telling walk-through a human being’s life on Earth and the experiences they had which they allowed themselves to be completely possessed-by, without realizing that moment of self-awareness wherein they could have actually directed themselves to stop perpetuating ‘the sins of the fathers.’

This movie depicts how anyone can drive themselves to a breaking-point in their life as a series of chainsaw-massacre-sins, never stopping or taking a moment to see what consequences will a single decision have within their life and within the lives of those around them as well– but instead allow feelings, emotions and all forms of retaliation to unleash, eventually ruining one’s life forever – unless there is a decision to stop and self-forgive oneself of course.


This movie is not limited to depict a ‘woman’s story’ only,  it is the depiction of how the current monetary system is the perfect soil to create dysfunctional families, wherein all parties involved have a relationship of monetary dependency, scarcity and general limited living-condition. This leads them t  eventually end up dead or in extreme self-abusive patterns that can only be stopped after having gone through ‘enough’ of it, barely living to tell. Are these ‘extremes’ necessary to realize the problem we are creating and finally stop? No, they’re not – however something that has remained as a constant is that the human being won’t stop and take action unless shit starts hitting one’s fan. I’ve seen how we are mostly detached from social problems unless we are directly affected by them. Do we all require to go through extensive abuse before we act? No – yet we seem to be still choosing the hard long road out of hell, which is Earth – yet, it is not necessary.


This is a movie to reflect and see how the problems in our society are brewed from the starting point of living in scarcity, having parents that must work to place food on the table, get drunk to ‘heal the pain’ and do it all over again the next day. I won’t go into details it, I can simply say it is a must-watch to understand what irresponsible paternity leads to, how kids then grow up with an ever-increasing and fueled grudge toward parents, wishing they had never been born and ending up trapped in the same cycles they were brought-up with through their parents.


The abusive company – or absence – of parents within a child’s life becomes a stigma that becomes a definitive factor within ‘who they are’ as a personality and character in society. The stories in the movie tell about the two sides of the same coin, a coin that was divided and created by words spoken in disregard of how powerful they can be to destroy a being’s life if the individual allows it so. This is one of the reasons why Self Forgiveness should be introduced at an early stage within children, to allow them to see that no word can have ‘power’ over them, no matter who utters the words, it is all about who we accept and allow ourselves to be and become, which always must be veered toward a Best for All outcome.


Children end up living out their parents lives in one way or another, because ‘it’s all they have ever known’ – and just as a very fuckedup Stockholm syndrome – love within family is confused as this necessary ‘respect’ too keep a ‘loving memory’ for someone that wasn’t necessarily an example to follow – however any form of dignity or care that these should have toward their offspring is often simply neglected or abused, even to the point of indirectly killing them.


“The sins of the fathers passed on in a system of inequality, where each human is responsible for the abdication of supporting life before profit, by allowing a system of profit that causes a system of lack and thus frustrated behaviors that are the reflection of inequality as life is second to profit. The behavior of the father, is no different that an economic system that allows starvation, he shows us what we are by what we allow. We are all to blame.
Vote for a system of equality. Equal Money SystemRebecca Dalmas


The nature of relationships at a family level has not progressed at all, it is actually going into a devolutionary process wherein an ‘open range’ of ‘anything goes’ is taken as the new bastion for ‘freedom’ and breaking of ‘old patterns’ to further degenerative processes within humanity. Where is Self-Honesty? Where is the actual consideration of what is Best for All? Where is parental self-responsibility to ensure that the child grows in a supportive environment? Is there any parental-guide available to all humans at the moment? No – we are creating it, the same as proposing an overall system reform wherein all beings will be born with an equal-living access to everything required to live in dignity. No more family blackmailing or financial subjugation to another.


It is Not just ‘a Film’


The reality is that these movies end up only being like a really bitter taste to remain with for 90 minutes. The point is to not relegate it to it being ‘just another movie’ as these are real-stories that must be seen from the perspective of such ‘characters’ being in essence ourselves as well,  it is who we have accepted and allowed ourselves to be and become in this world, wherein family relationships, parenting and sexual-education is virtually non-existent.

No one is actually ‘trained’ to be a human being and deal with the most basic points  that we step-in in an automated mode within this world, which begins with family, then friends, relationships, sex, marriage and creating one’s own family which leads to parenting which must be completely reformed in order to STOP the passing of the same fuckups and ‘sins of the fathers,’  as everything that you couldn’t cope-with within your life at a tender age wherein mother fights with father and beats the hell out of you becomes a common pattern within human beings, which is absolutely unacceptable.


This can now come to an end for once and for all: investigate the tools of self support at Desteni, because it is only through us taking Self Responsibility for creating educational and self-supportive platforms as the world system that we can begin creating a substantial change within our reality, and toward anyone else that is willing to walk the same path of education and self-investigation to see where and how our primary relationships have shaped ‘who we are’ since childhood – thus how to stand up from that to never ever allow the same patterns to repeat again.

There is a solution and we are already walking it.

Self Forgiveness to make sure the accumulative effect of part in the world is always what is best for all, and that we realize we must expect the same from all other beings or we will be the slaves to their whims and beliefs and abuses through allowing it.
We have been warned throughout time that the sins of the fathers are visited upon the children and thus upon the world, but under the disguise of love we do nothing to stop the spread of sin as social disease making love a social disease as well.
Remember – self honesty is the most difficult thing you will ever face as it will be your own self deception as the part you play in the mess as civilization that you will confront and must change if you ever want to become a real living being. – Bernard Poolman


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For self-support to Stop repeating the Sins of the Fathers from generation to generation and become the actual point of change that we require in this world to create ‘the future of the world’ in equality:

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For movies and feelings that may come up when watching – recommend to read this and watch the video featured there before watching the movie, it supported me to not ‘give-in’ to tears:

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Stories that tell what we have accepted and allowed as our ‘human nature’ with the necessary direction that movies definitely miss:


Videos/ Vlogs:

2011 Parenting – YouTube
2011 Parenting in an Equal World – YouTube
2008 GOD as Man – The Physical – Part 15 – Parenting Children
2007 Shi 9 — An Alien View On Parenting Video


Examples of extreme parental negligence:

Child of Rage The FULL Documentary

Take the System for what it is

A point that we’ve walked through today is practical implications of being one and equal –  within this it’s about standing within this self-introspection with regards to our life-experience – yes it’s all been a mind-created experience and only now we are learning about actual Life not being that. Yet we tend to create ourselves according to such information – it’s only understandable as it was everything we knew, everything we’ve been – but now that we know, we can only vow to stop and correct this.

Through ourselves writing and going back within time to see what we’ve accepted or allowed, we’ll find that we we’ve always played a role – either the abuser or the abused, the controller or the controlled one, the superior or inferior – and now we understand how all of that is what kept the system in place, in the never ending polarity wherein the opposites creating friction between each other literally charged and energized this entire reality.

So for the greedy to exist, slaves must exist that can ensure you get the most power which is held according to a perceived value as ‘more/less than’ created at a mind level – we’ve all participated in such value schemes, we’ve held them in place through accepting the current monetary system and value/system in separation of life, hence we’re all responsible.

For the abused to exist, an abuser is created and this can only come from the inconsideration of being one and equal wherein we apparently can harm others without any consequences – yet we are both accepting and allowing such condition by the single fact of accepting any other disparity in this world.


This is how any subtle hatred towards ourselves, any subtle reluctance to accept what’s here as ourselves creates yet another rift in this which can only prolong the ability to simply stop, correct and continue ensuring we don’t participate in any polarity as part of the energy required to keep this game running. Life is Not a game of winning and losing, yet it’s been promoted as such.

So, from this systematic perspective we can then realize that it is definitely ludicrous to take anything personal in this world, because it’s all just a  freaking-fracking system literally designed to fuck with each one’s mind for the sake of keeping the machinery running.


It is only through viewing things from this apparent ‘cold-bucket-of-water’ perspective that I was able to get myself out of the emotional attachment that I had held to everything in my life which only continued and perpetuated the relationship I had with my past as ‘who I am’ and in a way wanting to even ‘cherish’ that even though I knew it was mostly shitty to realize what I accepted and allowed myself to become.


So – within writing out a single event in our lives we have to step in the shoes of all participants, we can’t just assume being only one side of the coin if we realize we’re one and equal – we simply got to play on the left or right side yet we’ve all always been in the game – even those that perceived that they weren’t participating, they also were part of the equation meaning: no one is really ever innocent, no one can really ever claim to not be responsible of what is and exists in this world which is ourselves in all ways.


Part of the importance of studying the Desteni material is to understand how we came to this world without being able to remember that we’ve been here before, we’ve played the same role, we’ve done this all the time without remembering. It’s like that movie Memento, now I see why it’s quite fascinating to watch because it’s revealing much of what we’ve lived as ‘our lives’. It’s ludicrous how we can just take on a character and make it ‘our life’ without even being able to remember ‘why’ we’re doing it, why we’re keeping such grudge to another, why we’re driving ourselves to do something and only through literal tattooed memories can we ‘remember who we are’ which is in essence all memories we store for the sake of keeping an identity.  This point becomes more evident when showing how one of the characters keeps repeating one single action without being able to remember he’s just done the same thing minutes before. That movie shows quite a lot of the accepted ‘human nature’ yet based on the ‘short term memory’ mechanism.


Who would we be if we didn’t have memories? it’s all just pictures, words, symbols that we’re born into, without ever questioning them. It’s just a system and as we go understanding the system, we can simply take it for what it is – this is to stop being attached to any value in separation of ourselves to anything/anyone in this world.


Letting go of this world is simply that – just embracing it all as who we are and taking the necessary steps to correct the points wherein we’ve accepted and allowed ourselves to perceive ourselves as more or less than, as being  ‘personally hurt’, as being abused wherein we implicitly accepted the abuser to exist, to forget that we’ve all agreed to come here without even remembering, to realize that we’ve got this one life to finally stop being the automated patterns we’ve always been – what a release to be able to breathe and not hold on to anything or anyone – that’s where we’re walking towards, it can be done, it must be done by each one that sees and realizes that as much as we’ve held the poles in place, we now hold the key to be here and honor life – something that’s never ever actually been done.


From this we can realize that our measure point must be equality and oneness at all times considering the physical aspect of it as it exists currently in this world which is not being a supportive experience for everyone, hence we create a world that does become that with an equal money system. From there we can focus on supporting others to stop being victims of their own mind systems and take equal responsibility. So it’s an all-in-one process and we’re here walking it. You can do it as well.

Stopping self from only being a mind consciousness system.

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