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385. The Most Important Job in the World: Parenting

 

A Review & Commentary on the Documentary ‘The Naked Room’/El Cuarto Desnudo (México, 2013)

Throughout this process I’ve realized that the most important job that exists is that of being a parent. As I go understanding the fabric of our society, I can see directly how the lack of parenting skills or even the inability to know what these are or should be reflects back to our society, shaping each one of us into the individuals that at the same time, create the nature of the ‘world-system’ as is, because when we talk about ‘the world’ it’s not really the Earth, the living beings other than humans that are the problem – the whole and sole problem is who we have become as human beings and how we have shaped, modified and distorted reality through and by our mind as a consequence of lacking any efficient education and parental guidance while we are brought up in this world, which in turn affects every other part of our reality as well.

So in essence, we’ve lacked the skills to support ourselves as the units of our society to grow strong, healthy, stable and with clear directives in our lives and as a result, this society is the mirror of the lack and/or misguidance of parenting skills.

 

El cuarto desnudo/The naked room from AMBULANTE on Vimeo.

“The naked room” shows a whole world without leaving a single space: the examination room in a children’s hospital in Mexico City. Listening to the children, their parents and the doctors during consultations allows us to have a more profound and complex view of our social reality and of human nature.

 

I watched the documentary ‘The Naked Room/ El Cuarto Desnudo’ some weeks ago, here’s part of a synopsis I found about it:

The Naked Room exposes the complex and hard situations that are the consequence of something as simple as a kid wishing for a more loving brother. Also, the behavior of people with a mental disorder, a condition that always affects the loved ones (sometimes even physically). Ibáñez has not created a documentary to be enjoyed by everybody per se, I mean, we’re dealing with a brutal theme in a very direct way, with no pauses; it’s a constant display of human sadness and mental problems.

It can be easily described as a depressing film, after all it’s a natural view to the life of several persons, and some of their closest relatives, whose hopelessness has lead (some of them) to go as far as attempting to take their own lives. In a way, The Naked Room is here to explain the “why” behind suicide or self-harming, specifically when the problem happens to a kid or a teenager. What’s great about Ibáñez’s film is the fact that she is not trying to explain anything by interviewing doctors and relatives or using information from other sources. The doc is simply crafted: it’s entirely based on footage obtained from a series of meetings between psychiatrics and patients.

Ibáñez knew that showing those conversations was enough for a thought-provoking piece. All she had to do was place the camera at the right spot and then working inside the editing room. And the camerawork is really interesting and precise; firstly, it only follows the patients, hence some scenes are just fascinating: observing the facial expressions of the children while their respective relative is talking with the doctor brings a unique feeling, as the conversations deal with nothing childish, indeed.

For about half an hour we don’t see the same patient more than once, so The Naked Room engages you. The audience will want to know what’s behind, for instance, a problematic kid whose father has threatened to abandon him in the streets. There are many patients involved, so when each one of them appears again, you might be a bit confused, not remembering who is who; that could have been a flaw related to the structure, but the confusion is always temporal.

And, ultimately, the diversity only helps the documentary to be thematically richer. It can be seen as an exploration of teenagers, with such themes exposed as insecurity and social rejection, but that’s just one of its layers. The Naked Room is, simply, one of the strongest Mexican films of the year (my personal favorite from the Morelia documentary selection), even when it’s simply crafted, like I said, and very short (less than 70 minutes).”

Read more: http://twitchfilm.com/2013/10/morelia-2013-review-the-naked-room-el-cuarto-desnudo-a-powerful-display-of-sadness-and-insanity.html#ixzz2wu4eXQg1

 

The constant identification of parental patterns being transmitted onto children, the lack of creating supportive familial relationships and living environment, the lack of money to have proper nutrition, healthcare, education themselves, the fact that some parents didn’t want their children in the first place, the fact that they resort to hitting them for not complying to do what they asked them to do, the physical and verbal abuse between parents, the divorces and separations that affect a child’s ability to learn and interact with others properly, the lack of sexual orientation support, the threats used as a way to establish discipline that are depicted as part of the reasons why the kids in this documentary develop mental instability, can all be traced back to the parents and the unfortunate lack of skills, information and education on how to deal with their own lives, their marriage/relationships and in turn how to be a mother or a father.

In turn, parents have only learned to react to seeing the problem that their children develop as something born out of the blue, which is the position of becoming a victim to their children’s mental instability in the form of worry and preoccupation due to not knowing ‘what is going on with their children?’ without realizing that their role is inevitably implied within what their children are experiencing as well. However, can we talk about it solely being ‘their fault’?

 

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Understanding Who We Are as The Mind

Parents were educated in turn by their own parents and consequently the same has happened to those parents as well, which means that the parent-child relationship is the essential relationship that has shaped (ruined) the way that we develop ourselves as human beings. You might react and say ‘not me’ and I could as well, but the fact is that even if one can consider oneself having ‘good parents’ or ‘supportive parents’ the moment that there’s no principle of support to understand the mind, the feelings, the emotions, the ‘who am I’ as the mind and assist with the integration of physical living words that we can live as a decision, a self-directive process that one directs oneself to express as a Living Principle, one is already missing out the most important aspects of our relationship to ourselves, others and in turn the ‘who we are’ and will become as we come of age in this world – instead, we’ve been brought up with mechanisms that use fear, control, violence, abuse, threats in order to establish some sense of discipline and direction, as well as happiness, rewards, ‘love’ and the illusion thereof as ways to create the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ definitions that we’ve limited ourselves by, going all the time attempting to be ‘happy’ and/or dreaming of reaching an eternal happiness without even understanding how that is also a mindjob essentially. We’ve only learned to ‘cope with reality’ by reacting to the environment, to another’s words, to take things personal, to seek revenge, to be spiteful and that is of course already a massive fault in parental skills.

Not to blame ‘them’ though…

The reality is that we’ve never ever had such skills, because we had not ever before understood who we are as the mind, how it is that we are separated from our physical body through and by the mind which is a Mind Consciousness System, a design, a programmed patterned system that generates thoughts, feelings, emotions and through this our behavior, personality, fears, reactions, beliefs, etc. that we have adopted and believed is ‘who we are.’ In this documentary we can see this reality as spectators of a glimpse of how far one can experience one’s emotions and feelings to the extent of wanting to die just because there is no proper medical support, assessment or understanding of what the mind is, what our emotions is, how the patterns that we’ve acquired from parents are imbued from the moment of conception, and at birth we are directly influenced by every single word that parents speak, every single move, every single experience that parents have within themselves while being with the child – and this I am almost certain only an excruciating minority of parents have taken into consideration.

 

it is so damn clear in this documentary how the fact that we have taken our minds personally and others’ reactions personally, while being unable to understand Why such patterns of aggression, violence, harm, hatred exist and are coming from ‘those’ that should have ‘cared’/‘educated us’ to be able to live in this world the best way possible, which is what creates the traumatic experiences within children  that evolve to become ‘mental illnesses’ because of our inability as parents to stand as living principles for them, to become all of us in society a living example of how to live, interact and direct oneself in this world. This has been our ‘missing link’ in the relationship between parents and children, but also in our society as a whole.

 

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The First Seven Years of Your Life

At Desteni it’s been explained how the time-frame of development from ages 0-7 is crucial in our development because that’s where the ‘programming’ process of the mind takes place, activating all the pre-existent patterns coming from parents, integrating new ones from the child’s interaction with their immediate environment – which are most of the times, parents or any other ‘parental figure’ –

“The inheritance and transference of the survival skills from both your parents takes place when the entire mind consciousness system develops within you within the mother’s womb together with your physical development. The copying and duplication of the survival skills from both your parents takes place through your observations, interactions and participations with your parents’ as the parent/child relationship develops during your childhood years (from two to three years up to the age of thirteen years).”

Veno – Structural Resonance – Part 2 – Phase 5

 

This means that the direct effect of our words, thoughts, behavior and emotional or feeling participation is imprinted onto children from such early stage of their lives, with them being like a virgin cd that one is about to literally ‘burn’ with information that they will simply then replay, adjust and ‘upgrade’ throughout their entire lives.  That is the magnitude and importance of the responsibility we have toward every individual that is born into this world: the world we have for them at their arrival will become the program, the structure, the patterns they’ll accept as ‘how things are’ with the possibility of only changing them once that they’ve walked their own lives, their consequences and decide for themselves to change what they have learned up to that point, which is the process of Self-Honesty and Self Responsibility that we are walking here at Desteni.

 

So, while watching the documentary El Cuarto Desnudo I could understand for example what has been explained in the  Spite series of interviews at Eqafe in relation to Self-Harm. Some of the kids in the documentary attempting to commit suicide, cut/punch/harm  as a response to the disbelief they had of having their parents attacking them, insulting them, not giving them all the necessary attention, hitting them, abusing them in various ways as well as managing them with ‘fear’ which in result, in a helpless attitude of ‘I just don’t know what to do with her/him anymore, doctor!’ which to a young child it doesn’t make sense that your parent, your ‘guide’ is becoming your own worst enemy or an inept person to take proper care of you and as such, even if they say ‘they care for you’ or they ‘love you’ they are still not being supportive at all in the situation… doesn’t make sense isn’t it?

And no, it won’t make sense. And this is the point we’ve missed all along and that can actually support, assist parental relationships to entirely change because what hasn’t been understood is how the Mind operates, how the mechanisms of creation of energy as emotions, thoughts, feelings is what has become the directive principle, the sole ‘director’ of ourselves to the extent that we comply to such mind/thoughts/feelings/emotions absolutely ignoring our physical bodies, the living flesh that we are and that we should never ever harm in order to ‘relieve’ some sort of emotional or feeling experience which comes from a constant struggle and inner conflict to ‘cope’ with what’s going on up there in the mind, because the children look perfectly ‘healthy’ at a physical level, but in the mind they are certainly completely possessed and this is a clear testimony for us to see what the mind does to the physical body and why it is so important to take responsibility for our minds, our bodies and completely take both into consideration before continuing inflicting any harm or abuse upon oneself, only acting upon what we ‘feel’ or experience as thoughts, emotions in the mind.

In the documentary, almost every child would cut/harm themselves, and I’m talking about Children here –  which becomes a form of self-spite: anger toward oneself so that it becomes a way to spite the parents, which doesn’t make sense to spite oneself in an attempt to get another’s attention or ‘get back at’ someone when one is being ‘attacked’ by another, as that will then in turn become the attack and abuse onto oneself, the very same attack that one can be complaining about is coming from parents.  However because children are not taught how to deal with the emotions they have at a mind level, the only way to ‘cope’ with this inner turmoil which becomes self-hate is to resort to self-destruction. Do ‘they’ really want to do it? No, it’s who they are as the mind that want to harm themselves, just because the amount of energy continued to be thought of and used up by the individual is too extensive for the child to stop and get back to physical reality to understand how one is abusing one’s own body and in essence doing onto themselves what they were complaining that others were doing onto them at first – and this is how the ‘chain’ of self-abuse is continued.

 

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Learning from the Parents

With friction and conflict stemming from their family/environment situation, children learn to ‘cope’ with the constant conflictive and problematic situations with their own emotions generated as a reaction to things they see in their environment, things they are unfortunately done onto, and not having any way to stand up or stop participating in these automated reactions in the mind. And these can obviously be of a wide variety of factors, such as lack of money/education that turns into a poor household where parents have to work to make a living for the entire day – being left with other family members that might turn abusive, that might not properly care after them – sometimes the parents/relatives resorting to alcohol/drugs to cope with stress, to mitigate hunger, to mitigate family abuse, being depressed, being in the verge of financial bankruptcy…. there’s also marriage disruption, physical and verbal abuse between parents, abuse from parents to child which turns into children then hitting the parents/spiting the parents, desperation from parents for not knowing what to do with them and so children see themselves as being ‘a problem’ a ‘drag’ to the parents to the extent that they reason it’s best to die/commit suicide than continue living – and this may come from parents expressing them that ‘they don’t know what to do with them any longer’ or how ‘they wished they had never been born’  which once again, to a child and even if you the reader  never got told this, placing ourselves in the shoes of children being told this, it is mostly obvious that there will be a reaction of feeling worthless, not desired, not loved, inferior and this remains as permanent rejection throughout their lives unless they encounter support while growing up to not take such words personally, but understand how they come from parental distress, desperation, not knowing ‘what to do’ with their own lives and in turn not knowing what to do with their children.

 

There might emerge a desire to blame parents for that – but blame once again would lead us to miss out the point here. Blaming, holding grudge, being constantly mad, angry, frustrated at parents or even hating them is only the outflow of not getting a supportive, comforting and adequate parental support for the parents themselves to begin with while they were in the position of being the children. And one would say, yes, it makes sense to be angry for not getting that – but, this is where I implore you to consider the ‘greater context’ which is how I assisted myself to – within and after the documentary ended – be able to clearly see where the surges of blame or anger toward parents were coming from and immediately understand how it is necessary to see the ‘greater context’ to take all points into consideration to understand such parental and children relationships throughout our entire history.

The key here is understanding a very, very important point: All can be Self-Forgiven and Must be Self-Forgiven in order to stop holding on to the grudges created from children to parents and vice-versa if we truly want to change the world.

 

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No ‘parent’ knows How to be a Parent.

No person is born knowing How to be a parent, a self supportive and adequate one, how to become an example for your child to ‘look up to’ because No Human Being has EVER been such Living Example for oneself or for others – yet. Sure there have been great personalities in the world that were ‘great men and women,’ but even that one can notice that people in politics or social change in the world such as Mandela for example, when his daughters were interviewed they were proud of him for the principles he stood for, but as a parent they had no further comment other than really not knowing ‘him’ as such, because he had not really been around with them….. point to ponder.

So, the problem is in fact not that we haven’t learned ‘how to be a parent’ but how to be a Living Human Being. We have only been mind-robots driven by thoughts, feelings, emotions, not knowing ‘how’ to cope with them, how to direct them because we entirely accepted ‘who we are’ as our mind and so, what happens is that the moment that we Identify ourselves with the mind as ‘Who we are’ entirely without any possibility of change, that’s where we dissociate ourselves from our ability to be self-directive which means, realizing that everything that we’ve become is the byproduct of generation after generation of human beings that have not known how to direct/deal with one’s thoughts, feelings and emotions – in essence with one’s mind – but only learned from certain religious and moral dogmas and ‘authorities’ that became only ways to control people through fear, or control through the illusion of ‘love’ which is another point I have had previously discussed.

 

 

What does being a Living Human Being mean?

The self that we all have and can become the moment that we start living and applying the realization that one has to honor, support, care, develop and nurture oneself to become an example of what it is to act, do and speak what is best for oneself and everyone else as equals. Becoming the Living Word, the Living Example for oneself and others to follow as the norm, the way, the law of our being in which we can trust ourselves and each other to realize that no matter what: I honor, consider, support and care for myself , I stand as my own support and as such, stand as support for and toward everything/everyone else as myself, as life, as equals. This is the standard, this is how we can genuinely ‘change the world.’

So because we have failed to live this way with and for ourselves, the consequence is and has been that all our relationships have failed to be fruitful and bloom into a world that we can all be genuinely ‘happy’ to live in. With understanding this premise of the ‘legacy’ we have in terms of the ‘human nature’ as the mind, the generation after generation passing of ‘the sins of the fathers’ it then becomes much easier to understand why a human being that has taken the role of being a parent has failed to become a living example for his/her children, because the consideration of being a Living Human Being has never existed – yet we do have all the potential of each one of us becoming such living example of being the human beings that we all know we can be and become – and this is where our responsibility resides: to ensure that we can be the example of how the so-called ‘human nature’ is able to be self-forgiven, stopped, self corrected and changed.

 

This understanding that I just shared here in written words is what I used to then see, realize and understand and self forgive the surges of any emotions that could have been accumulated while watching the documentary, and through this understanding rather seeing this documentary not only as presentation of the problems we have within children at a mental level – instead, it also becomes a  motivation to see once again for myself that there is just SO much that is required to get done in relation to education in this world, so much to be understood about the mind, who we are as the mind and how we can in fact support each other to assist those children to change and solve their experiences… but most importantly the Parents of those and any other children to prevent ‘The Naked Rooms’ around the world where children attempt to get support from psychiatrists, while not even being aware of the root and cause of the problem: ourselves as individuals, as human beings that have never lived to the best of our potential – but have only ‘coped’ with reality through and as a mind system that generates constant friction and conflict as the experience of ‘living.’ And to grasp this there’s quite a lot of understanding and information to self-educate oneself about this, which I will provide at the end of this blog.

 

 

Self Forgiving the Sins of the Parents 

Once one understands how ‘who we are’ is the reflection of what we’ve always been since the beginning of ourselves as humanity, we can truly see that there is no other way out of our hatred, our anger, our despair, our grudges, our laments, our grief toward parents, children, relatives or authority figures other than applying the principle of Self Forgiveness. Without Self-Forgiveness it would be very difficult to come to a resolution about any form of abuse that one has experienced through one’s life, whether from parents or anyone else. So I suggest to dissolve the word tag of ‘parent’ for a moment and just see ourselves as human beings, not being born knowing ‘how to live’ and ‘how to be self-directive in our mind’  and begin applying Self-Forgiveness for allowing ourselves to be driven by thoughts, emotions, feelings, reactions wherein as a child, one has no further idea as to what is being experienced within self – all the fear, the worry, the stress, the anger, the rage,the hate that is formed at home toward parents, siblings, teachers, schoolmates, all of it existing within self without proper direction other than medicines and ‘cures’ that don’t take into consideration the source and core of the problem: the who we are and have accepted and allowed ourselves to be and become as the mind.

 

I’ve noticed that one of the most difficult things to do for children/people that have been abused by others – whether they are parents, siblings, relatives, schoolmates, etc. – is the ability to self-forgive, to absolutely take into consideration and understand why the other individual abuses, take into consideration their entire life, their entire upbringing, their social and economic background, their habits/addictions, their ‘modus vivendi’ and experiences and how they too also didn’t know at the same time HOW to deal with their own minds, and how it is the same for all of us – not a single one left without a mark – of passing this unresolved understanding of who we are as human beings from generation after generation up to the point where our ‘fuckups’ are escalating to the extent that one can only look at 3 year olds – or even earlier than that now –to already see the patterns they mirror of the parents and the generations that have gone before us.

One could say: well how come they learn to manipulate, to spite, to be envious and selfish, to be depressive, to be sensitive, to be angry, to hit others to get what they want, to treat others as superior or inferior, to like and dislike, to be a stubborn… and yes, a child is the entire reflection of the parents and of humanity in its entirety for that matter that only develops the rest of the pre-installed programming through the interactions with parents and the environment. And because it is only now that we are understanding these mechanisms that exist within the mind in the physical and the vital importance that this mind and physical relationship has in our upbringing, it means that we still have a lot to do in this world in order to make each one of us aware of this process, how to direct it, how to support ourselves so that we can start establishing solutions and a new educational process where we can change the world by changing humanity, which means: changing the way that we educate ourselves as human beings, which implies at the same time that the relationship between parents and children is the one we have to focus on, as it will be the guideline and blueprint for all other relationships developed by the child throughout their/our entire lives.

 

This also thus ties in with the previous blog entry wherein I explained to the people that first didn’t want to hear how it is about time that we STOP the patterns that we’ve continued from generation after generation in relation to the abuse of ‘educating children’ by hitting them, or teaching them to ‘fight/attack back’ upon abuse or become spiteful and vengeful… all of this MUST GO and Must be stopped by ourselves as the parents, the family members, the teachers, the siblings, the people around kids to become the examples of the way we can Always direct ourselves in a way that is best for everyone: self supportive, considerate, being able to communicate effectively, being the living words of the principles we want our children to embody as well and as such, children will learn by default  – from their very first interactions in a world where we all act and live by principle of what is best for all and as such, by default, learn how to live by principles too.

It is only an excuse and negligence to say that the human can’t change, that we can only resort to psychologists or psychiatrists – this is unacceptable. What we require is to apply a New understanding and vision of who we are as human beings in order to support every single being that comes into this world to adopt the new living ways that we can begin living within ourselves individually and in the ‘without’ as the way the world system operates. For that, investigate the Living Income Guaranteed to provide support for parents to have sufficient time to stay at home implementing the new education available for parents and for any other individual –regardless of being a parent or not – at the DIP Lite course for free.

 

It certainly won’t be the same to bring a child to a self-supportive world where you have a guaranteed income/have your human rights being genuinely granted and assured with money provided to you from birth than a baby that is born in a condition of poverty in a third world country where not even a solid foundation of family or parents exist, because everyone is on a survival modality. It doesn’t make sense anymore to continue allowing our children to grow up in front of the TV and computer screens or taken care by ‘third parties,’ and the reason why this is so is because everyone has to ‘get a job to live’ and there’s no support given to parents to get time to educate their children. This should make it clear how it is all of us that are ‘shooting our leg’ by not providing to each other the right to life, so it’s about time we understand that the new way of Living is to Support Ourselves and Support All Life Equally to become our fullest potential.

 

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109. We Hate Love! We Love Hate! A Bipolar Societal Anthem

 

Watching news, movies or stories around people shooting people, guns and essentially a culture of violence. We can only exist in such ‘culture’ as an acceptable thing if it is made acceptable At Home, wherein we are taught to love our parents while learning how to judge those that are clearly not part of our ‘loved ones,’ which later on escalates to the righteousness of being able to actually Hate people that are deemed as the villains in the movie of reality. We take the right to recriminate, spit and boast around in anger about the so-called psychopaths while biting our tongue the whole time because: we are them as well.

 

We push the envelope even further every time, and it’s fascinating how love and hate emerges from the acts of people like James Holmes or Jared Loughner wherein they get an instant bred of ‘fans’ that suddenly obsess with them, while some others pull out their guts as words to hate them and absolutely express their own distress toward the obviously shocking realization of a human being being able to perpetrate acts of violence that disturb our perfect little quiet lives. From a certain perspective I can understand both the lovers and haters, simply because the mind can grab onto virtually anything to have just another fascination to cling on to, really.

In terms of ‘the Holmies’ as James Holme’s ‘Lovers/ fans’ we have a word for what they are expressing, and it’s not a surprise that we have such a wide range of paraphilia’s in this world? Mix sex with anything that is generally stigmatized and voilà, you get your perfect new drug. Let’s look at the word that describes this:

Hybristophilia “is a paraphilia of the predatory type in which sexual arousal, facilitation, and attainment of orgasm are responsive to and contingent upon being with a partner known to have committed an outrage, or crime, such as rape, murder, or armed robbery. The term is derived from the Greek word hybridzein, meaning “to commit an outrage against someone,” and “philo,” meaning “having a strong affinity preference for” – Wikipedia

 

So, having a strong affinity (love) for someone that has committed an outrage (hate) against another  Isn’t this word ‘hybristophilia’ depicting what we actually thrive in? Morbid fascinations such as getting turned on by serial killers, having animal crush fetishes, snuff films, movies like Crush that made it into popular culture and are elegantly termed ‘erotic films’ while it clearly depicts an aspect that no one is willing to admit: the love for those that hate, the hate for everything that could resound love as the ultimate spite– the perfect endless loophole that we have subsumed ourselves in. Nothing else but an energetic addiction, really – but, do we even dare to strip it down to see it for the battery-nature that it is? Hell no, according to people, life would be ‘boring’ if there was nothing to obsess about. That is ‘our popular culture’ – and this is what kids are born into at the moment.

 

This ‘rationality’ called ‘dichotomy’ is the outflow of our own ignorance about this reality as a result of the lack of understanding about our own mind and how we sentence ourselves with and by our own words. However, any ‘psychopath’ is not just a spontaneous-creation, it is the byproduct of our own society which is not this gigantic cookie-monster called ‘system’ that exists in separation of ourselves – no. It is all ‘home made’ and that is a literal term to consider, because we often see all types of evident-abusers in the world and condemn their acts which is the entire hatred toward the hater that is absolutely astounding and no one really cares enough to even ask how is it that a point of violence is attacked with even more violence.

 

So, from the ‘haters toward the hater’ coming from James Holme’s fan page on Facebook:

  • Veronica Abigail Jordan-Hubble how are ya’ll fans of this man? freaking sick fuckers! This man killed a 6 year old little girl, a mother, father, boyfriends, girlfriends. He killed so many people and your going to be fans!? You would not be a fan if it was you in the theater that night, you wouldn’t be a fan if it was your mother, father, girlfriend, boyfriend, sister, or brother he killed.
  • James holms fan club Why would my friend kill my family
  • Veronica Abigail Jordan-Hubble if your family had been in that movie they could have been killed, or seriously wounded.
  • Zoltan Csordas: Because your friend might have a fuckin screw loose? or might be seriously fucked up? who ever is a fan of this guy should be fucking shot dead and hung, and then shot while they’re hung. fucking disgusting people. James Holmes changed cinema going for those people involved that night FOREVER, and for those peoples children, and their children etc. I hope Holmes gets the ELECTRIC chair, never mind the non painful lethal injection shit…. no fuck that, this guy should be crucified onto a table, have his testicles pinned apart by his scrotum, and then one at a time, have each testicle ‘popped’ by a small hammer. I can think of many other ways to ‘take care’ of the rest of him but i aint gonna dwell too much on that. He deserves no fucking mercy, no compassion. and i don’t give a shit if he has a mental problem… too many murderers seem to be blaming their crimes on stuff like that. That guy knew EXACTLY what he was setting out to do. i hope those people killed RIP and my sympathy and thoughts will be with the survivors and others caught up in this horrific situation till the day i FUCKING die.

 

What no one realizes is how ‘the bad guy’ is ourselves at all times and how the very same thinking patterns that lead anyone to abuse and kill others – or themselves – are the very same patterns existent in each and every one of us as it is clearly proven in these quotes above. But, why are they seen as ‘acceptable’ when they are in fact the same type of thinking that lead someone to actually do it?

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If we were able to call out each other’s abusive acts, we would be doing the same about each and every single adult person that is obviously an equal participant in this mess called ‘society’ and ‘reality’ that is clearly the brewing pot of any sociopath that is currently walking on Earth, which is essentially everyone but the children. However, our ill-driven minds ensure that children are quickly indoctrinated in ‘the ways of the world.’ Give them a toy gun, show them your regular ‘action movies’ and videogames and voilà, you’ll get a child playing to kill his fellow classmates with plastic guns that later on turn into legally bought weapons and you get Columbine, and with that a plethora of raging critics that can not even fathom that all condemnation is essentially a reflection of what exists in our minds.

 

Then, we dare to start condemning their acts as if they had suddenly ‘lost their mind’ to perpetrate such events, without realizing that is in the very mind that such atrocities are schemed and built-up throughout time as the accumulation of thoughts as the belief of ‘who we are,’ just because there was absolutely No One that could tell us otherwise.  And this opens the inevitable question: Who wants to point out parents as the cause and reason for any ‘apple gone rotten’ in the tree of a happy Family-Lie? No one, that would definitely deflate any sense of ‘honor’ that is held at stake toward the so called ‘nucleus of society’ that is obviously and absolutely inherently flawed from generation to generation. I mean, how could we as humanity have even dared to create the word ‘progress’ as a positive thing when all we have done is copied the same limiting and self-abusive patterns of the past and covered them up with LED lights to make them seem ‘bright in accordance to an artificially held by tweezers future’?

 

So, All Abuse has a beginning – and thank Anu, also an end –  and our beginning is clearly in the womb of a woman that  has lived in a world wherein Life has never been honored, wherein the basic considerations of human integrity do not exist and where money dictates who lives and who dies, wherein the Earth’s resources are consumed in absolute mind-possessed ways that are currently mining our entire ‘civilization’ from head to toe – we really lack the most basic common sense to not see and realize this. And that’s how we come into this world, some with more or less fortune speaking in money-terms, however all being equally ignorant of how it is that the very education – or lack thereof – from our first 7 years on Earth will determine who we will be for the remainder of our life. It is great that scientists are busy trying to find a ‘god particle,’ but can’t even explain the most basic repulsion that every kid experiences toward their parents while growing up, being a friction that we have accepted as ‘who we are,’ an inherent battle toward everything and everyone including ourselves. This is what we have become.

 

Therefore, being able to point fingers at someone requires turning the finger back at self to see and realize how we have become in fact the very perpetrators of everything we could possibly hate and love which is just the polarity relationships that we keep ourselves bound to, just by thinking and believing that there are ‘good things to keep’ in this world and in that, keeping our fascinations nearby and repulsions at a ‘safe distance’ apparently, we haven’t yet realized that this entire world is the materialization of our own mind, our ‘real nature’ made world-system. This is the only way how we can explain ourselves the reason why e have turned abuse into an entertainment industry and money into our own killer – literally.

 

So, back to the main point: any killer is not a man on an island, every abuser can only learn from what is seen around in the environment – therefore any form of abuse is and can only stem from a previous example available as ‘popular culture,’ such as a fascination for serial killers and all types of ‘role models’ such as the ‘rich and famous’ that set the tone for what kids will live to aim for – who has ever questioned how this creates robbery in the first place? Crime begins at home the moment that a child is not given a step by step explanation of the images seen on TV, of the advertisement on the street, of the basic ways in which this world function, pointing out the truth of our reality while giving a solution that can be worked for, establishing a communication to see what is it that they are in fact experiencing within themselves.

 

 

“I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that Parents Produce the Nature of Their Children as Hate through the Excuse of Love, Even Inventing an Imaginary God, to Deny Responsibility, to End up as a Product as a Child, which is taught How to Love so that the Child can become another Parent that will Produce Hate as Very Few Humans are in fact Satisfied with themselves Physically and Mentally, and Refuse to Realize that this Result in the Direct Effect of the Spirit of Religion that is Used to Justify the Love through which Hate is Produced, ending up with a World where Love is Used to justify Hate, even Calling the Truth Negative, just to Not take Responsibility for the Sins of the Parents Generation after Generation.” – Bernard Poolman*

 

WE must understand that we are facing ourselves full on in/ as this world, that every single event that goes on in this world is not some random schizophrenic act to be amused by for a moment – no. Everything and everyone that is currently existing in this world is ourselves and as such, we have to start Paying Attention to what we are in fact becoming as humanity – see what is behind the animal fetish, what is behind the movie theater shooter, what is behind the life-long happy pill addicts, what is behind children being dumped in China, what is behind women having unprotected sex while being highly drunk, what is behind people eating people’s faces, what is behind the celebrity fascination in our culture – these are pertinent questions to ask and as such, seeing how the very things we cling on to that in any way we believe is GREAT of this world is in fact the very lock that disables the realization of how we have created the positive to mask the negative. Come on, peace cannot exist if wars didn’t exist – it’s just like perfume. We create these wondrous smells to cover up the natural stench of the human flesh – well, as long as we continue hiding from ourselves, nothing will change.

 

Stopping Love and letting go of all those ‘small things’ as the positive experience we have gotten ourselves high with is a Must-Do in order to sober up and realize hate as the actual human nature that must be self-corrected through a self-willed process, wherein you and I can live to be the final point to the ongoing mayhem on Earth. Once we dare to face the killer as ourselves will we be able to actually make progress in understanding how we bred ourselves into Insanity.

 

Walk the Desteni I Process to finally realize and understand who and what we are as our mind, what are the implications of the current existential process on Earth wherein we have the opportunity to Change ourselves into a living-reality where all beings are equally considered as Life. This is the final call for us all if we want to in fact prove that we can ‘love’ and stop all hate for once and for all.

 

Support the Equal Money System which is the world-system change wherein Parental Education will be compulsory before even thinking about having children, because we are witnessing the result of undesired lives brought to exert such self-hatred onto this world. WE are all on the same page, yet we are taking Self-Responsibility for our own minds, for our own bit within the map of this reality that requires more beings to Wake Up to the fallacy we have built until now.

Join the Journey to Life to stop the Madness in this world – it all begins within yourself.

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