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117. I Think, thus I Fear

What is the binding force within our reality wherein we keep each other safely protected from actually getting to know the Truth of ourselves?

FEAR

We can actually say that Fear has become our Religion, as Money for example is the externalization of the Fear of not having enough to live, which is how we created and manifested a system to control our ‘human nature’ in order to ensure that the entire regulation of how much we would use from this reality to live would be within some ‘bounds’ to not deplete everything and eventually end up consuming more than what we could even handle. Well, we have reached that mark, certainly and at the moment all that we consume is actually stemming from a fear, all that we buy as properties are apparently ways to ‘secure our future,’ all the relationships we create are stemming from a fear to be alone, all the decisions we take such as jobs, education, partnerships, hobbies and even what type of food we eat, where we live, what type of water we drink is stemming from fear. It’s not that difficult to create a political campaign that way: just propose a bunch of ‘Safety and Protection’ policies disguised with words like care and insurance to ensure one vote for your political statements, even if they do not get to be lived out and implemented at all.

As I walk through the streets, I see how our very houses are creaming out FEAR, most of the houses may have some ‘beautiful architecture’ such as how we create and build ourselves in our own minds, but oh what is the ‘cherry on top’ of such grandeur? Well, barbwire, electric fencing, double fencing, CCTV cameras, and if people have enough money/ live in a very well ‘seated’ situation: guards that ensure that ‘no threat’ is able to filter at your door. Our houses and neighborhoods have become like fortresses, prisons I’d say, yet that’s the most normal thing to do in a country wherein obviously, money is an extreme lack, wherein everyone does live out the sentence: ‘It’s easier to steal than work’ and also because there are no opportunities for them to have proper education, proper preparation to have a dignified job, because this entire system has been built to only benefit a few – so, we can see how we have built our own prison, how absurd! Considering it is us that have created it: no god has come to create it for us, we did.

 

“I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to see, realise and understand how and why FEAR as Consciousness is/has been the primary driving/creative force of/as the nature of energy that has become the starting-point creative force/source of/as me as the Mind and all the Characters/Personalities within that, that will thus all – equally as one, have an existent starting-point, nature and experience of/as Fear. Which, as we continue walking this process of Character-Creation, will be seen, realised and understood by self, the extent to which we exist as fear, the extent to which we’ve created who we are and how/what we live as fear and so within this, why and how this process of Communication, in keeping the internal truth of ourselves as the reality of the Mind intact while physically speaking the 1% portrayal/presentation of/as who we are: is controlled/determined by/through and as Fear as Consciousness.” – Sunette Spies*

 

And as within, so without – I have been noticing for some time how even slightest movements when walking in the street, that which we call as our ‘instincts’ is in fact all stemming from Fear, survival mechanisms that we have adopted from childhood, fearing each other at all times.

For example, it’s plain to see how we would suddenly cross the street to the opposite sidewalk  if we see someone that looks ‘suspicious’ enough to think they could harm us, how we cross our arms in front of our chest when we feel threatened or suddenly ‘feel’ like we have to portray ourselves as ‘strong’ which can only stem from perceiving a potential threat, how we pull out a condescending character or ‘good doer’ whenever we talk ourselves into our minds to think that a potential threat could have some mercy on us if we portray ourselves to be ‘good hearted beings,’ I’ve definitely thought about that.

 

From childhood we have simply complied to this religion and learn it to be ‘love’  because ‘our parents care for us’ which is how we pass on this twisted idea of Love as an actual mind-possession that serves to mark our territory, to protect our ‘who we are as the mind’ toward others and also, of course, protect our most ingrained desires that are always ensuring that what is best for ourselves is protected at all times. We cannot definitely blame our parents and ‘those that have gone before us’ as we have all been there, done that and blaming would only keep ourselves bound to an egotistical victimization role that has prevented ourselves as humanity to actually change, because it’s simply much easier to blame than actually taking Self-Responsibility.

 

Every decision that we’ve taken is in fact stemming from fear. Whaaaat? Yes, look within yourself, it’s there, it’s a mili-second imperceptible quick assessment of factors wherein we are always looking to maintain ourselves within ‘safe bounds’ of our mind, our con-fine-ment wherein we believe that the mind is something so ‘fine’ that we have to protect it, shield it and defend ourselves from any potential threat to ‘our being,’ but is it?  Or have we just been making/creating Gods in order to excuse the actual Fear that we experience to actually face the fact that we have built an entire world as our own prison, wherein all our decisions have Never been real, but only based on Self-Interest, which is certainly the interest of who we are as our mind only which uses Fear as the most effective protection mechanism, never ever considering what’s best for all as a physical tangible reality, which would certainly be the solution to end all fears – but why have we Not seen this before?

 

Now, looking at the world: Fear is everywhere – from our so called petty peeves to extreme moves and decision making that defines the lives of millions of human beings, Fear can be spotted as the default ‘background’ within it all.

Is it fearful to realize this? Well, only who we are as our minds can create Fear upon the already existent thick layer of fears we have embodied without even realizing how and to what extent we have essentially become a handful of fears that develop personalities and characters for each occasion – I think, thus I fear is what should be a more of an actual understanding of how the moment that we separate ourselves from our physical reality: wham! we are up there scheming, thinking, looking at ourselves as a mind that must protect itself at all cost. It’s time to be willing to go facing our fears: from the most obvious fears that we have even held as ‘personal favorites’ – you know, such as fearing the dark, fearing clowns, fearing to be judged and so forth to the most seemingly imperceptible fears for example when we talk to another being and we suddenly shift our eyes to another direction, in fear of being looking into the eyes when we speak about something wherein we KNOW that our mind is being exposed, along with all the variety of subtle ‘microexpressions’ that we have embraced as our ‘default’ expression – however: who, what and HOW did we shape ourselves into it?

That’s what we learn how to walk, dissect, explore and essentially get to know ourselves as within the Desteni I Process, studying all the Desteni Material and the excellent one-of-a-kind existential education available at Eqafe, wherein we are finally understanding the actual steps to Change the World from our Fearful beingness of the Mind as our own Mind Control to an actual Self-Understanding that will inevitably lead to the process of Self Liberation as Self Birthing Life here in and as the  physical, wherein who we are in our within and without exists as the transparency of what living as flesh and bones should be all about: speaking only when it’s required, thinking practical ways to establish solutions in this world, standing one and equal to the totality of ourselves as our mind and physical to ensure that every single movement is actually Self-Directed and Self-Awareness at all times – yes, from the awareness of one single blink of our eyes to how this entire system functions as our the externalization of our minds.

Great, isn’t it? We’ve got the tools, we have the understanding, we really have it all on a Golden Platter.

It’s just about time we face our greatest Fears – Let’s go stopping our participation in the mind as fear and we’ll realize: we’re still here.

 

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This is Just one decision away: once you take the decision and walk it, you’ll realize that everything that was preventing you from making such decision was only a self-created Fear.

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101. Communication Noise

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to never question myself on whether what I am communicating is in fact being understood by the receptor the way that I am ‘intending’ to communicate, without realizing that words as they are currently used/ spoken are ‘open to interpretation’ which implies that everything that we are as our mind, our experiences, beliefs, perceptions, preferences and imagination exists/ acts/ performs in a different manner within each individual – hence I realize that in order for me to be able to communicate in reality with others, I first have to walk my own process of self-communication wherein I purify words in order to establish a common sensical/ self-supportive meaning to words that enables each word to become a directive principle and self-corrective statement in itself, as it is only through purifying/ clearing up the meaning of a word based on experiences and past considerations that we can in fact stand  – for the first time – as one and equal through/as the words we speak.

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to engage in conversations wherein I never questioned the ability to be understood – hence developed a judgment based on perceiving and believing that others were ‘misunderstanding me’ which creates unnecessary separation/ division according to what we agree/ disagree with, without having taken into consideration dissecting the very words that were used in order to investigate how can we practically equalize the meaning of words to establish a proper communication, which is how and why through participating in conversations wherein words are only used to express the ‘who I am’ as my mind/ communicating to others that are also replying/ participating as the ‘who they are’ in their minds, the only thing we are co-creating in that moment is further separation as the interaction of characters creating a character-like conversation that in no way represent an actual expression of self equal and one here as who we really are. This is able to be spotted the moment that we comply to each other in order to continue talking/ participating in a conversation and go interpreting/ assuming ‘what words mean,’ which clearly leads to the creation of relationships based on preferences, similar mind-connections as personalities supporting each other to remain as mind characters –

Thus I realize that in order to be able to communicate, there’s a process to walk first and that is self-communication to establish self’s equality and oneness with and as words.

 

This is a process that begins with myself, taking responsibility to first walk through the redefinition of the words I speak and ensuring that when and as I am communicating with another, I go verifying that the other person is understanding what I mean based on the premise of me being communicating from the starting point of establishing an equal and one point of communication,which implies that I must first walk my own mind, my beliefs, ideas, perceptions, judgments in order to start establishing self-honesty as myself, as the words I speak and live, so that I become in fact an ‘agent of change’ in terms of creating and establishing a point of communication in self honesty, not allowing myself to communicate from a ‘character’ perspective, but instead express myself as words that will support another being to become aware of the words we speak, how to structure a message in a way that it is clearly understood and also establishing communication form the starting point of self-expansion and self-support , so that any character possession is called out immediately, exposed, walked through self-forgiveness and as such, become the living practical change that is required in order to stop all ‘mind interference’/ misinterpretation as the ‘open for interpretation’ type of communication noise.

And within/ as this, establish agreements/ relationships between one another wherein our words are understood as clear as water, wherein no hidden intentions as secret mind are kept, as this is the way we can once again begin to establish trust between one another: ensuring that we live the words we speak, ensuring that we are in fact constant and consistent in the process of sharing/ communicating the reality of ourselves and no more the characters that we had ‘given our life to’ in a literal manner, as each character takes ‘the best of ourselves’ as consuming the very life essence that we have neglected every time that we suit words to perfect a character and not life.

 

Psychological noise

Psychological noise results from preconceived notions we bring to conversations, such as racial stereotypes, reputations, biases, and assumptions. When we come into a conversation with ideas about what the other person is going to say and why, we can easily become blinded to their original message. Most of the time psychological noise is impossible to free ourselves from, and we must simply strive to recognize that it exists and take those distractions into account when we converse with others.

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to load a character when and as communicating to another being based on how I perceive them to be according to embodying a particular race, gender and sex, language, image presentation wherein I realize that I have communicated myself based on the images and preconceived ideas I have in my mind with regards to another being as the configurations/ stereotypes that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist as and project onto others, which becomes a definitive noise that does not allow unconditional self-expression here as the words in equality toward one another.

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to communicate with another in a specific limited manner whenever I have a preconceived idea of ‘who the being is’ in relation to the ‘reputation’ that they have, which is nothing else but the generalized conception we create and built about ourselves/others as their ‘idea of self’ that is used in order to categorize and value beings according to how people ‘see them’ based on judgments that are created for comparative and superlative means, which implies that we assume ‘who the being is’ just by the way they look, the past they ‘hold’ as the idea of self that is sustained by intangible memories in the mind, the way they interact with others and their choice of words which I have then taken on as a way to establish ‘who I am’ toward the being in communication based on self-interest, as there can only exist a point of self-interest/ self defense to either enable an open communication or not at any given moment.

 

I see, realize and understand that within sticking to the physical reality, all that I am practically able to see and verify is that I am speaking toward another human being that I am able to hear through my ears and decode a message from. Thus I stick to hearing to the words in the moment instead of creating an expectation toward ‘who the being is’ as a pre-text to hold a prejudice toward the point of communication with another.

 

I see, realize and understand that sectarianism and elitism based on the idea I’ve held of ‘who the being is’ exists in every moment that I am faced to communicate with a being wherein I load their picture, their reputation, their mannerisms, an entire history triggered by their image presentation as a way to assess ‘who/how I will be’ communicating with/ toward them, which implies that I am limiting my expression toward another based on the beliefs, ideas and perceptions that I create of someone in my mind, which are the cages/ prefab forms/ cookie cutter  stereotypes that we use to define one another as a character with specific interests, preferences and ‘ways of being’ – which is in essence allowing ourselves as characters to communicate with others through seeing them as characters which is how real actual communication is not existent, but only a a general back and forth forms of complacency and tolerance takes place between one another to keep the characters in place, ensuring that no one ‘provokes’ the other enough to step out of the safe bounds of the idea of self/ character in play.

 

I  forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use the predictability of characters to my perceived/ believed advantage wherein I thought that because of ‘how predictable others are,’ I am in fact a superior character that is able to then use such characterization to my benefit wherein I know how to ‘treat them’ to agree with me, which is wanting them to agree with the character that I have accepted and allowed myself to be/become as well – thus I see how communication becomes an application of myself as a character that I have adjusted to according to the beings I will be talking to, wherein I would transform myself as the character that can speak words and present myself in a specific way as to facilitate the relationship with specific characters, just because of realizing how relationships can only exist between similar characters and as such, realizing that I could only  be and become an effective ‘social being’ if I was able to equalize myself to the characters I wanted to get along with – which means that I suppressed my expression in order to make it fit a particular characterization in means of being accepted by others/ socializing with others to establish relationships that I believed were ‘real,’ never wanting to see that I had in fact only suited myself to be part of such relationships just because of the value/ worth I had given to such characters in the first place as ‘more’ than me – thus

 

I realize that unconditional communication can only exist whenever I hold no reputation of another/ nor do I seek to become a specific character perceived as ‘more than myself’ in order to satisfy a point of self-interest. I realize that what is real  is the ability to express ourselves as the reality we are existing-as in the moment – this means that communication in itself is not to be seen as a way to ‘comply’ to each other’s characters, but to be and become the example of how it is possible to establish communication with another being based on common sense and not character-agreements wherein we tip-toe around anything that is self honest as that would break the bubble, the illusion of self that is kept as a silent agreement between one another, as we are all in fact aware of how our ego/ personality/ idea of self is ‘our precious’ that we fear letting go of, simply because of realizing that when and as we step out of character = the truth of ourselves is exposed  – and within this, the inevitable realization of self-responsibility steps forth IF the being is willing to stand in self honesty and let go of the masquerade/ character played toward self and others in means of communication/ establishing relationships that actually stand in equality and oneness to assist and support ourselves to actually live.

 

When and as I see myself complying to the character of another being in order to keep our bubbles/ characters in place  – I stop and I breathe – I realize that I have to be and become the example of what it is to be here,speaking, sharing and communicating in self honesty which means: I breathe and I allow myself to share who I am in that moment, the practical realizations I’ve had in relation to a particular point and how I have supported myself to practically step out of character, as I see and realize that this is the type of communication that is in fact beneficial for any being= how to support ourselves/ how to step out of character and realize who we really are and what can be possible if we all do this, as it is the characterization that we have accepted and allowed ourselves to be and become the detrimental aspect that we have kept ‘intact’ because of not wanting to ‘touch on sensitive parts’ within the illusion of respecting one another while/ during communication, without realizing that respect in such situations is nothing else but keeping our characters/ masquerades intact/ untouched due to each one knowing and realizing that the moment that we expose our characters for what they are, we cannot keep hiding the truth of ourselves behind it.

 

Thus I assist and support myself to be self-honest within and toward myself to in every moment that I am communicating with another, ensuring that I am clear as in being communicating in common sense = considering what is self-supportive/ best for all and stopping myself from going into character-play outs in means of establishing a relationship with another being as a character and not as an equal and one being that I can relate-to by the mere fact of being able to talk and reciprocate each other through using words that make us feel good/ important or special – all self deception must be called out if self-honesty is here to be established between two or more beings in self-honesty.

 

I realize that any idea of me having to ‘have something in common’ with another being in order to communicate is simply a prejudice that must be understood as a limitation that we have accepted and allowed ourselves to be and become, simply because of actually fearing breaking the point of specialness that we hold toward ourselves as our characters and within that, fearing realizing that everything we had previously perceived ourselves to be a in being more special than/ unique and ‘authentic’ as a character is debunked within the realization that we are human beings that are equal in all ways, including the mechanisms each one of us use to cover up our reality here in self-honesty through characterization.

 

When and as I see myself ‘choosing my words’ based on who I believe the other person is – such as level of education, race, gender, nationality, social stratus – I stop and I breathe. I realize that I had allowed myself to be and become pliable/malleable and morph myself into various characters in order to be accepted/ ‘have it easy’ to communicate with different characters – wherein instead of having placed the example of not standing in/as self-deception in terms of characterization and actually supporting myself and others to set the tone of communication in self honesty – one has to pave the way.

 

I realize that we have an inherent ability to communicate with one another by the mere fact of being human beings, yet I had accepted and allowed myself to conform/ morph myself according to event/ situation / moment and ‘who the person is’ as a character, wherein I then gave up self-honesty to mimic the same coping-mechanisms as ‘communication’ in an attempt to be liked/ accepted by another in such attempts of communication in order to  get a positive experience out of the idea of ‘having communicated with another’ but in fact, it was only me rubbing the communication the right way according to the characters I would identify the being was ‘playing out,’ wherein I would suit my expression to be ‘like them’ and as such, be ‘liked by them,’ ensuring only the perpetuation of characters as ‘who we are’ instead of being the example and placing the starting point of an equal and one self-communication that is in fact self-supportive for both/ all parties involved.

 

“Most of the time psychological noise is impossible to free ourselves from, and we must simply strive to recognize that it exists and take those distractions into account when we converse with others.”

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to ever believe that it would be impossible to free ourselves from the cages that we have created and manifested toward one another as the characterization we have accepted and allowed ourselves to be and become, according communication with one another based on each one being a character with a set of beliefs, ideas, perceptions about themselves/ reality that I had to apparently ‘respect’ and ‘beat around the bush’ whenever it came to communicate about something that could possibly lead them to realize that they were playing a character, because that would imply that I would also have to step out of character and in this reality, because of how we have only defined ourselves to be only ‘characters’ = we feared losing that which we believe is ‘all we are,’ without realizing that stepping out of character is the first point of self-correction that must be understood in order to ensure that we are willing to let go of the illusion of self that we have wrought as words, pictures, images, memories based on who and what we ‘wanted to be/ become’ toward others in our environment/ reality, which means that everything we have ever believed ourselves to be becomes the words that we communicate, which is how no communication has ever been real as we have never been real with and toward ourselves in the first place.

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to ever believe that I had to ‘tolerate’ such character differences when and as communicating with others, wherein I tacitly agreed to keep myself as ‘my character’ that would have problems and / or ‘strive’ to communicate effectively toward other characters, without realizing that it is in this very self-belief that I caged myself and others to remain within the same characterization that prevents the reality of ourselves from being expressed and exposed, to realize and recognize to what extent we have become complacent and obliged ourselves to ‘follow through’ with the lies we created ourselves as and how we have threatened each other to keep our characters intact, wherein the moment one dares to step out of character = attack ensues, as one character stepping out of line will inevitably force the other characters to evaluate themselves and reconsider ‘who they are’ as well – thus, it is to see and realize how we require to be the example of how it is absolutely possible to establish equal and one communication with others once that we have established such self-communication as ourselves, developing self honesty to ensure that the words we express as ourselves are in fact standing in an equal and one self-agreement of what we are willing ourselves to be/ become: living beings that are here to equalize a reality that has never existed In/as equality in fact.  Thus I see and realize the task at hand and the work that comes when understanding that the key to change this reality exists within us, as the very words that we speak – as words are the foundation of how we have built our current world system.

 

This implies that in order to establish an equal and one communication, an equal and one understanding is required. This is thus established through each one of us participants of the creation of/as the new world, committing ourselves to walk our individual processes of writing, applying self-forgiveness to develop self-honesty and walk the necessary self-correction to ensure that from here on, we become the living example of what ‘change’ as an actual process is implied, as it is not only a change of attitude or perspective toward one another – but it implies an entire process of education wherein we finally get to understand who we are within the ‘greater picture’ as a reality that is no greater than ourselves, as we are in fact one and equal to all that is here.

 

A word in separation of self became the cell that we ostracized ourselves in, forgetting that we were in fact living cells of one single body that cannot function properly unless all parts are intercommunicated through a set of systems that ensure life is able to thrive within the organism.

 

Thus I see and realize that it is within the understanding of who and what I am as a living cell within this living body that must take responsibility to establish proper communication to realize the interdependence we hold to one another as all cells that conform the body that is currently facing the cancer of greed and individualism as the religion of self. Proper communication means proper functioning of the organism, means  establishing the responsibility to each part which will ensure a proper conduction of the flow of blood to irrigate the body with a new understanding: Equality as Life is the only way we can thrive – the healing process comes when we understand how we manifested the illness.

 

What are systems in our body but structures and manifestations that enable the interconnection of one single body as one organism, signals are sent from one part of the body to another in order to function properly = there Is Self-Communication existing in/ as our physical body – the question is: why haven’t we considered this basic living-principle and externalized it in an equal manner as the relationships established with one another?

 

We now understand that the principle of Equality implies as within= so without. Who I am as words must reveal the points that I must correct as me for me to finally be real and here – this thus implies that who I am willing to testify myself-as is my responsibility as the words hold the key to self-creation – and I understand that in order to make the body function as one, communication as words expressed in self honesty and common sense are the key to create a new way to walk the current consequences of our primordial separation that has gotten to the current state we are in as this world = our reality, as whatever we have created as separation holds a point of self deception that must be brought back to life through understanding how we created and manifested the point that enabled separation.

 

This is how our mind is a tool as it shows and reveals that which we have separated ourselves from = my mind holds the key that must be equalized in order to step into the reality of me here, that’s always been here – yet separated from my very awareness as I had only intellectualized reality, communicated through words that would make myself/ others more or less than self here when in fact: who we are is equal and one – hence words that support this realization is the new declaration of life that must be brought to application one by one, word by word, correction by correction until it is done.

 

Instead of defining conversation as the coming and going of character scripts, I commit myself to establish a universation  wherein the words I speak are equal and one as the expression of ourselves in Equality as Life; where the con is no more a fixed Version of the character that is not standing as equal and one – it is within this realization that life will be born in the physical as we take back our point of authority for once and for all, the authority that was lost from the moment we were born from the darkness into the light.

 

Time to wake up – clock is ticking and words await to be lived.

 

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2012 The Real Shady-side in Humanity

If Self Forgiveness and Self Honesty become part of an integral human education, therapies will NOT exist. We will instead be able to face ourselves, our thoughts, our own mind as the reality that we actually are, and will Not create this constant battle within our minds when realizing that we have lived a ‘double life.’ We can instead Work with our own Secret Mind to face it, self-forgive it and correct our standing toward ourselves and others. 


But the reality is that we allow ourselves to be caught within the sweet and sour polarities that we build within ourselves and toward others, wherein our relationships are based on ‘how we want to be seen/ perceived like’ – which is acting like the ever-agreeable sugar coated personality toward others, while hiding a seemingly perpetual ‘demonic nature’ that is constantly looming and rearing its head within our own minds: the ‘true nature’ that our mind, our beingness is actually existing-as, is the real shady business that we avoid facing as ourselves.


This came up while watching this therapy session by Carl Rogers enquiring a woman about her personal ‘issues’ in life wherein now – because we are aware of the tools of self support – it becomes obvious that the missing link throughout the conversation with  Gloria – the patient – would be walking through a process of writing herself to freedom, applying Self Forgiveness to stop existing in perpetual fears, morals and guilt-  and then start walking a Self-corrective process, wherein her personal troubles are then directed within Self-Responsibility. 


She continually asks for an answer to the therapist  – same construct that we develop toward masters, teachers, parents, presidents, god or any other perceived ‘authority’ in our reality. This is something common whenever we miss-out our Self-Trust by having lived a life wherein the consequences of our actions eventually lead us to exist within a catch 22 situation that we tend to avoid realizing that: we drove ourselves to-it, fully and completely.  Within her conversation, it becomes clear how she’s fearing having to accept the ‘shady aspects’ that exist within her, which leads her to ‘hate herself’ = thus fearing that her children would also dislike her for having her expose and explain her ‘true nature’ to them. 


What would allow her to accept herself as Self-Trust? Just that, first accepting herself, her thoughts, here inner struggle as something that she can actually walk through if daring to be Self-Honest. Through establishing and living in Self-Honesty, we develop Self-Trust because we will then know that whatever we do, live and say = we will stand accountable for. The way to walk as Self-Trust is realizing that: no matter how ‘bad’ it all may seem within my mind, I am able to Forgive myself, walk the consequences within Self-Responsibility and make sure that I remain building a life that I realize, will allow me to live and express – with no strings attached to keeping secrets and ‘issues’ in my own mind.


Her case is related to having a sexual life after she had been divorced, which by the time of this recording,  it was probably not widely ‘accepted’ – and even now still clouds sexual expression within the aftermath of people that go through divorce, in terms of the discomfort and ‘clash’ that comes up when having children and bringing new partners home. The reality is that, because we have built this ‘construct’ of society based on roles that are apparently ‘unbreakable,’ we limit and constrict ourselves to believe that all we can now be toward this/ that person is ONLY the role that we must remain-as for the remainder of our lives. And what happens when this ‘character’ or role is built upon a dishonest idea of self – which we all invariably are – is that the inevitable truth of ourselves comes to the surface, and we fear having to look at ourselves in the mirror – which is our life, our experience, our very own thoughts that creep up – until we start deeming that we ‘require help’ because: mind possession is in full-developmental stage.
We/ people fear breaking through this self-created bubble mechanism wherein we don’t want to step out of it and see that: the reflection that we create all the time toward others in our world and toward ‘the world’ itself,  is only stemming from ourselves.



The Shadiness

Gloria’s case is one of the most common examples to describe how we all function as human beings when discovering the ‘real nature’ of ourselves, our thoughts, our Machiavellic lifestyle that we believe others are ‘unaware’ of – because it is all delicately schemed in our minds.   Specifically in her case how parents instill a veto to speak self honestly toward children, creating an ‘immaculate image’ of themselves wherein, at the end , when finding out that they  – the parents- lied, there is this entire pedestal that is shattered to pieces, ensuing a general ‘mistrust’ from the child toward the parents and any other human being. This is from the basic premise that parents are the examples and ‘role models’ that children look up to for the immediacy that they represent within their lives. Thus, when this bond is broken, survival mode toward the world and everyone else kicks in, just because of the logical assumption that:

‘If my parents were able to lie to me – what can I expect from the rest of the world?’


Then the child goes into a fight or flight mode wherein general insecurities may unfold, creating an entire personality based on having a constant tag throughout their lives of ‘I cannot trust another’ and –unfortunately- we haven’t built a world based on equality-bonds wherein the child/ person could prove themselves wrong.  So, what is brewed at home then by this single point of parents not being able to communicate and effectively create a platform of support toward children? Children that will grow up in general mistrust, fear, hostility toward themselves and anyone else – it is not about ‘the world’ per se, but how each individual is now perceiving the world ‘to be like’ within the mind, which obviously we manifest as an actual world-reality within the understanding that we are the creators of it.



The Schizophrenic Mind = Mindsplit

The fear that Gloria has toward accepting herself is instigated by morals and social-connotations around sexuality and specifically, within the role of a ‘divorced woman’ – however her example is and can be applied to any event in anyone’s lives wherein we feel ‘split in half’ when living out a happy-kind type of personality toward certain people – yet being absolutely apathetic, hostile and irritable when being absolutely alone – or even while being projecting a glowing smile and having the exact opposite experience in the inside.  In Gloria’s case, the split is following a natural disposition to have sex and having this point of expression colliding with a previous lived role as a ‘spotless mother’ toward her children. These type of ‘splits’ exist because of us wanting to ‘cover up’ the real-deal that’s going on in our minds. And I say ‘real deal’  because if the nature of the human being was ‘benevolent,’ this world would not be the way it is at the moment.


Skhizein = to split – so that’s the basic nature that we are all living as– no need to use fancy labels upon our own ‘natural disposition’ to live as mind-systems caught between ‘our true nature’ and some honey syrup to cover it up. We realize that we can only correct our nature by becoming breathing-walking human beings that are able to direct ourselves in common sense.

What Gloria would have required to read is the following:


“Is the secret mind always visible or do we see it mostly too late? – It’s both – what is interesting with what we’ve done to ourselves is: WE KNOW EXACTLY what we do in moments in our minds – EXACTLY, we can see our mind run in front of us/within us as it moves, and we in no way stop, direct or change it – simply stand back and allow and in that it is ALWAYS VISIBLE and we always then want to change when it’s TOO LATE,  when we see the consequence we’ve created through thoughts/words/deeds but then we get so swept up wanting to change consequence, without questioning the origin, how we created it in the first place: Ourselves” – Sunette Spies


I actually had quite a laugh today when listening to Anu explaining how we in our minds tend to judge any ‘negative thought’ and immediately throw in some heaps of positive thinking to make sure that we stay on the ‘bright side’ of the road. I can remember this very well, what a pity! lol – and yes there’s some British accent in my mind as I write it – because we definitely live in this eternal battle of having to be ‘positive’ and ‘optimistic’ about life, placing fake smiles just to seem agreeable – yet living in a perpetual schizophrenia because our mind, is essentially going the opposite way all the time.


I once thought that hypocrisy was only people ‘talking behind your back’ and then placing a smile when meeting you again. I never took the point back-to-self to see how I was being hypocritical toward myself when wanting to only see the ‘good stuff’ within me and leaving the ‘rough edges’ out of the internal play out when ‘seeing myself.’  Once again: Self Honesty is not nice or beautiful as Bernard Poolman said once, and that remained within me to realize that, all that I had hid from myself – because of ‘not wanting to be negative’- was in fact deliberately chopping off the reality of the actual experience that exists here as myself. It is not only ‘my mind’ that was preprogrammed that way… it is actually Me, the actual truth of myself.

And that, my fellow droogs, is something that may shock us to the core because it debunks any preferred idea and belief that we are benevolent beings ‘by nature’ all the way, and only ‘corrupted by the environment’ as someone through comments in one of my videos said today.


The point that is missed is that we are obviously the ones that created the environment – society is ourselves, and if we exist in constant denial of what exists within us as our own mind, chances are that guilt, remorse, shame and perpetual fear of even exposing such points to ourselves, will lead us to our very own death, because thinking and becoming emotional is ensuring that we remain as Consciousness Systems, using/ depleting the actual life that we contain in and as our physical body that is being burnt – breath by breath – to generate enough energy to transport all nutrients and oxygen throughout our veins. This is what we know and can see with our eyes – so we focus on realizing that every moment that we spend one single breath to fuel a life of self-torture, guilt, shame, fear, remorse and self-judgment: we stop and we breathe. We realize that we are abusing life in that moment as we are consuming the very life essence that we are, and using it to fuel perpetual mindfucks that serve no purpose other than keeping us very busy ‘up there’ in our mind, preventing us from taking a look at the rest of the world that is HERE as ourselves – a world that is built individual by individual, and that won’t change unless individual by individual take the necessary moments to establish a basic platform of self support to become Self Honest.



Can I be Real/ Genuine within a Relationship?

If Gloria had known of the Desteni I Process and dared herself to be Self-Honest about her experience, she would not have to be seeking answers from Carl Rogers for a solution that she realizes she is more than able and capable of pulling out-  because she actually does say it throughout the therapy session. However, she allowed herself to create a dependency on a ‘doctor’ to solve her problems, while keeping stirring a storm in a glass of water because of her not wanting to accept such a natural aspect of  human’s life like sexuality, and exercising it responsibly – which entails developing communication with her children about it  from the get go.  We are the only ones that allow a problem to become like a gigantic snowball the more that we procrastinate giving it proper direction.


See- we/ people tend to see problems only from the ‘tip of the iceberg’ perspective – we don’t like to actually take a deep breath, and submerge ourselves into the depths of the ocean of our minds to see what is the exact nature of the accumulation of these thoughts, emotions, feelings, experiences that we tend to continue ‘covering up’ and eventually only bursting out in an ‘unexpected way,’ as it becomes quite a stench once the stuff starts to rot within ourselves – it is a burden having to carry all that accumulated weight of the past, as secrets that actually require our own constant ‘sustenance’ to keep them well locked and hidden within our minds.


The point that psychology and psychologists have missed is that desire to still give ‘value’ and ‘place’ to human emotions as something that must be ‘accepted’ and only ‘treat’ on a surface value. At Desteni, the moment that we realize that: we are Not our thoughts, feelings and emotions from the perspective of Not being bound to ‘remain as that’ for the remainder of our lives, we recognize that there is a solution to stop living in perpetual guilt, fear, remorse and regret of what we have done.


How can Self Responsibility – such as being Self-Honest within communicating with your own children – be considered as something that could can piss anyone off? This is generational and family-like morals that definitely fucks-up people’s lives. It is unacceptable considering that we are talking about millions of families that undergo this situation, wherein children are not able to communicate about what they observe toward their parents, simply because parents become this nice façade to consider/ look at as ‘authority figures’ (read: fear) with no actual interaction and communication. That’s why parents then also fear communicating with their children about themselves and their actual experiences besides the host-like smiles and format-like questions – and in the end, this is only to our own detriment as society. Thus, it is in the best interest of all to establish solutions so that we may ALL consider the aspects that must be taken within Self Responsibility, in order to stop the past-cycles of being tormented by our own mind = by our own participation in the mind.



Becoming aware of hidden points – being listened by other/ being willing to listen to yourself.

Roger’s technique is  cool from the perspective that he is allowing the person to come to their own conclusions and realizations wherein only some support is given – honesty is mentioned and realizations about ‘acceptance’ are discussed. However, because of HOW the mind works, we realize that these therapies work like a temporary placebo, wherein people may ‘fall back’ into their own patterns if not enough understanding and actual integration is practically walked by the person within a the context of Self-Responsibility.


Another point is that he eventually recognizes that he felt an ‘emotional empathy’ for the patient wherein even family roles are projected toward each other. I must be dead blunt about this, within my own mind that seemed like a sexual power play between Rogers and Gloria wherein this ‘bond’ is created throughout a session just because of the patient perceiving that the doctor is the only one that is able to ‘understand her’ and in that, if feelings are not Stopped and the discussion objectively directed to being that of self-support, it all could develop into something else, simply because we all know how the human mind works when it comes to these ‘irrational passion’ that comes up when there is a point of acceptance where there was ‘non perceived’ before. And this is part of the outflows that all ‘the.rapists’ must take into consideration to not allow themselves to be swayed by their own hormones throughout the session, if they are really willing to support another. The problem is that this ‘empathy’ within our current understanding is still seen as some type of ‘human condescendence’ when in fact, it’s still playing out the exact nature of our mind wherein we are all seeking our personal rewards and acceptance from others to make-up for the general self-rejection that we mostly live as throughout our lives.


We know that it is a popular cliché on how psychologists end up having affairs with their patients. I’m not here to judge it either – this is simply to place into perspective the type of stance and continual self-direction that is required to not get feelings involved when working with another human being if you are actually willing to support others as yourself.  Hence the point here is how psychologists would require to FIRST sort out their own secret mind and establish Self-Honesty within themselves, to avoid misleading an actual session of ‘support’ by their own ‘feelings.’


Cool points to consider for any person that establishes points of communication within their world, as this is in the best interest of all:

  • Will I find myself praising/ caring for this person? Is preference tampering my ability to support another as equals within this process of Self-Support?
  • Are feelings and emotions acceptable within self support?

  • Is this an actual ‘separate’ person that I’m talking to?

  • Do I have to understand the inner world of the other person/ see through their eyes/ move around the world of their feelings so that I know what it’s like to be ‘them’?
  • Is expressing feelings beneficial within communication?
  • Is construing  an experience out of a session of Self-Support actually Supportive?


I watched all parts of the Gloria case and there are several preferences, desires, ideas, nice pictures instilled by Rogers  that must be stopped within the therapy in order for the beings to actually support each other – the questions placed above are to be pondered within Self-Honesty and common sense within the consideration that: we cannot base Self-Support by creating personal-bonds with the person based on feeling and emotional identification – that’s simply Not Supportive and in fact, can add up to being yet another ‘issue’ within a being’s life.

So, realize that we can prevent an entire world of ‘treating psychological malfunctions’ and instead,  use the principle of Self-Honesty as the  basic point of education throughout the developmental years of a human being’s life. Consider that Transparency is definitely not programmed as our mind to ‘Write ourselves,’ because that would lead to the person seeing-themselves and a potential ability to understand self-creation, which is what currently stands as a potential threat to break the status quo that, we as the mind, always seek to remain-as – incongruently so.


Thus within this fear, we are accepting and continuing the current accepted and allowed world system as the direct result of this individual process wherein we ‘fear’ looking at ourselves and face the consequences of our actions. We have to write out and let out the nature of our thoughts to place them ‘on the table’ and work with them through from the starting point of Self-Honesty to walk a process of Self-Correction. What the hell does that mean? That we realize that we Do Not Have to Remain in this perpetual state of guilt, fear, remorse and fear of ourselves as ‘who we are’ within our own minds and can In-Fact, Create and Script the reality that we Are willing to Live-as into eternity.


“The idea of privacy have only limited the ability to learn from each other to become self perfected within the context of this world. This shows very clearly in healthcare where the protection of information makes the effective prevention and treatment of disease very limited. If we could learn about the physical from each other in a self honest way, most accepted disorders we will find we can stop as some one else have already learned the lesson. By not sharing the lessons, we shoot ourselves in the foot.” –Bernard Poolman



Stop casting the Shadows with Light and Love

By the single realization that this whole mental mayhem is able to be stopped by our own will, a weight is lifted off. So, any ‘congruence’ that we want to establish toward ‘others’ must begin within ourselves toward ourselves first. How can we expect ourselves to be ‘genuine within a relationship’ with another human being if we are still fearing ourselves and the nature of our very own mind! Ludicrous – yet we have all lived this way until now and the only answer to ‘How can I be Real?’ then is walking the already mentioned process of Self-Support wherein No Therapists are Required other than your own will to face your own Secret Mind.


Placing this point within the ‘greater picture’: How have we taken the haughty position to demand an ‘honest and transparent system’ to our ‘authorities’ if we haven’t even dared to take this point within and toward ourselves!? Fascinating, we are all about abdicating and projecting responsibility toward anyone else but ourselves.

This world is the mirror of our secret mind – we are here to equalize ourselves as our own mind to then, be able to establish relationships of self-trust wherein I-self stand as an accountable being for my actions, words and deeds, making sure that whatever I create as myself, is directly faced as my creation and directed within the principle of what’s best for all life.

This is not to be fearful about the ‘shadows’ that we exist-as within our mind – both poles as light and dark define each other – therefore, it is to simply see that the ‘shadow’ exists in contrast of the love and lightful thinking. If we turn off the light, what remains is just ‘what is’ – no shades and no light – just beingness that we are able to shape/ mold and script to actually apply/live within our every day lives. Self-Forgiveness is the key to stop existing as Gloria in our minds, it is absolutely unnecessary and unacceptable to continue perpetuating this ‘victimization’ as humanity. This is our creation = we take responsibility for it.


“Identify within you – what you immediately suppress in fear when you think about it/ fantasize about it – whatever especially about YOU comes up about ‘who you are’ directly related to YOU and you think about it in the nature/context of fear – this you must write out, why do you fear this coming up, how was the fear about this point/part of you created etc. – it’s to release your fear relationships with what exist within you, then look at whether it can practically be lived in this world and you will find an interesting thing: NONE of it can – everything you’ve feared about the nature of you that comes up in you as been an illusion, you’ve always feared an illusion, and have never really stopped out of that illusion and redefined words for yourself to in fact LIVE” – Sunette Spies


“We are here to stop ego and birth life. This each one must do for oneself – no other can breathe for you, no other can self-realize for you. Thus: apply and test the tools in self-honesty and be/become your own living proof. However, due to the nature of ego, it is highly unlikely to self-realize alone – as feedback is required to make sure one do not lose oneself in the self-delusion matrices of one’s mind/ego. This (self-)support is what we are walking at Desteni (see also Forum), while we self-honestly investigate ourselves in the context of this whole world-system / mind-system that has nothing but atrocity and indignity left to give. Best to forgive – and start giving life back to life.” Bella Bargilly

Interviews for Self Support:

E-Books

  • Desteni of Secrets: Your Self-Honesty guideline to begin to understand who and what we have existed as up to now and How to walk a process to stop our cycles of self-abuse and birth ourselves as living-words that create a world that’s best for all.

Vlogs

The Secret mind rules the Earth! by Kim Amourette

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